Always Stay Present

Veering away from the present–the actual NOW of your life can confuse you and bring much sorrow.

“To help you be more present in your life today, stop what you are doing once an hour and ask yourself ‘Where are my feet?’ ” 

~ Robert Holden

It’s good to check once in a while and make sure you are not drifting away, but staying where you need to be.

“Most people treat the present moment as if it were an obstacle that they need to overcome. Since the present moment is life itself, it is an insane way to live.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

It’s so true, sometimes the present moment is not a pleasant place to be, but then again, it’s the only place you can be. Your past is gone and your future hasn’t arrived yet, so baby, you’re stuck with NOW.

“Wisdom is the power of maximizing the enjoyment of the present moment.” ~ Robert Holden

It’s wonderful when we finally realize that we are alive! Let’s embrace it all!

“Sometimes in life we become so focused on the finish line that we fail to enjoy the journey.” ~ Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Don’t ever put off living until you complete this or that because the day you penciled in to live may never come. Enjoy the ride–bumps and all as you travel along this thing called YOUR LIFE.

Don’t Fear Saying No

As you travel on your journey not everyone you meet or even those you are related to will have your best interests in mind. Treating everyone with respect and loving kindness is an important virtue, but so is being aware and being able to tell when opportunistic people are knocking on your door.

People who tend to be opportunist find kind, loving people, easy prey. And you, wanting to be a good person, can find yourself saying “yes” to so much more than you bargained for. I’m not talking about being asked for a little favor, I’m talking about the big favors that could turn your life upside down. But since I mentioned little favors, they too can get to be annoying.

So how do you protect yourself from being taken advantage of, or simply not really wanting to do what’s being asked of you? Just say NO. Sounds simple but it ISN’T because nice people have trouble saying no. It makes them feel bad. You don’t want to let anyone down and you sure don’t want to come across as selfish and uncaring. But sometimes you just have to protect yourself and you do that by simply saying No.

It’s much harder after you agree to do something to try to undo it. That’s why a loving person needs to think a little bit about themselves and stop worrying about how it might look if they don’t do what’s being asked, or hurt the other person. Yes, someone might get hurt and that someone might be you!

The closer the person is to you the harder it will be to say no. Ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen? So they get mad and stop talking to you and the relationship ends. You have to ask yourself what kind of relationship would end because you said no? I’d say it’s not the relationship that you thought you had and probably isn’t worth keeping.

Be the kind of person that’s not only kind to others but also kind to yourself. Don’t fear saying No when that’s what you really want to say. It’s been said that No is a complete sentence, so use it and set yourself free.

Your Life Is in Your Hands

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

Take a stand today and realize that your life is simply and completely in your own hands. If you have been suffering over some situation in your life then you, and only you, have made that decision–the decision to suffer.

Suffering should not be part of your life’s journey because it’s negative energy and will get you nowhere. Walk away and leave the suffering behind and find the path that will lead you to your purpose. There is no magic in this and no one can do this for you. You were born with free will and only you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life.

Your life is in your hands, but the real question is, how will you handle this precious, fragile, life that you hold? Will you give it the chance to find its purpose, or will you weight it down and hold it hostage?

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
~ Coco Chanel

Change Your Thinking

“A negative mind will never give you a positive life.”   ~ Unknown

Have you ever noticed that when you are in a negative mood nothing seems to go right? Life is just crappy when you feel negative. But when you finally decide to be positive everything in your life starts to look up. And this new sparkle you now have in your life is there because you changed your thinking.

Being negative about one thing catches more negative feelings and clutters up your life. But thinking in a positive way just seems to clear all that mess out of your life and makes it flow so much better. Yes, it’s true, sometimes bad things just seem to happen for no apparent reason and it can put you in a very negative frame of mind. But don’t let your negative thinking stay with you too long because if you do, the normally happy you will be gone.

It can take a bit of work to keep positive during a storm when the dark clouds are closing in, but fighting for that happy positive feeling is worth so much more than you might even know. Your overall health will benefit greatly, and maybe even your longevity. Relationships and your job will go so much more smoothly, and this precious life of yours that you sometimes take for granted, well, it will become richer and just seem to have so much more meaning.

Get out that broom and clean up all the cobwebs of misery that have been accumulating in your head for decades, and then only invite the positive thoughts in to play. Hey, isn’t this the way life is meant to be?

“You are not a helpless victim of your own thoughts, but rather a master of your own mind.” ~ Louise Hay

Death

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” ~ From a headstone in Ireland

In living our busy crazy lives there is one thing that can bring it to a complete halt and that is the death of a loved one. It is also a time when we begin to think of our own mortality, and how we are living our day-to-day lives.

There is our birth, then our death, but in-between there is this life that we sometimes take for granted. We waste away years struggling for things that may or may not ever come our way. We waste time in worrying, regretting, and hold on to anger and the need to always be right.

In living in-between this birth and death, let’s really promise ourselves to live our lives deeply with passion, purpose and always laughter. This is a great way to honor our loved ones who have died.

Listen closely to the gentle whisper in your ear, “Live well, live strong, and most of all enjoy your life as it rolls along.”

When Your Spirit Meets

One night before bed, I was thinking about my loved ones that had passed on over the years, even the little animals I so cherished. I thought about my own death, and how I would feel and react if I saw my loved ones. I knew that of course, I would be filled with joy, and even sadness having missed them. Regret would be there too for the relationships that hadn’t been good when they were alive. I realized that a lot of the emotions I would feel would be negative because sadness, regret, tears, and maybe even tears of joy are negative emotions. We all know that little devil, ego, has a hand in all things negative.

I have finally figured out that the ego is a part of who we are, and it’s what makes us human. it’s impossible to get rid of it, but it is tamable. That being said, I wondered on this meeting with my loved ones what would happen if I met them with my Spirit instead of my ego? I knew that my Spirit would only feel love, acceptance, and peace. There would be no sadness, no regret, no tears, just this warm light that Spirit shines ever so bright. I could sense how wonderful that would feel. Taking this a bit further, what if we did this with those that are alive? Instead of egos meeting, Spirits would meet.

Meeting any circumstance, or fellow being with your Spirit instead of your ego makes your life flow so much more smoothly. You don’t have to enter a situation ready for a fight. You don’t have to feel bad about the past, or fearful of the future. There is only now and all you have to do is feel love, acceptance and peace, and then let your life glide naturally.

How amazing it would be if we could live our lives this way. How freeing and simple. As life on Earth becomes more hectic and we feel stressful, free and simple sounds pretty good to me.

“Let your mind start a journey thru a strange new world. Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before. Let your soul take you where you long to be…Close your eyes let your Spirit start to soar, and you’ll live as you’ve never lived before.”

 ~ Erich Fromm

Normal?

Oh, who cares if you’re normal or not! The main thing is, don’t try and be someone you’re not; just be you. You’re great just by being you. Maybe you deal with criticism that says you are not normal, but what is normal anyway? As long as you’re not hurting anyone and not breaking any laws then just be who you are.

Learn to accept this crazy imperfect person that is you, and do something really wonderful with your life. You are only here for such a short time and your time is running out. Make everyday count in your life, and don’t waste your time worrying that you’re just not like most of the people you know.

Encourage the children in your life to believe in themselves and accept the who they are. Give them confidence by really listening to what they have to say. Children just want to be accepted by their peers, but if they are a little different, then oftentimes they’re not. Children that don’t fit into the social mold need guidance to believe that they too are important and count in this world. Help them to find that one thing in their life that they can be really good at and shine ever so bright.

We all count, and have special talents, and we are all here for a reason. Be the quirky you and don’t forget to live your life fully, because if you don’t, then it was all for nothing.

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” ~ Maya Angelou