What are you really willing to sacrifice for your career? Are you willing to cheat and lie and crush those below as you climb up the ladder? Well, that may be going a bit far, but some have done just that. But would you sacrifice your marriage, or miss your children’s childhood? What about your health? Are you willing to give that away? And those dreams for something even better, remember those? Are you willing to put your whole life on hold for this thing called a career?
When it’s put this way most people would have no trouble saying, NO. But in reality most of us do sacrifice much too much for the career and even for the thing we call the job. Some of us seem to have no problem sacrificing ourselves for the cause. We live by the motto of “work hard and one day you will make it.” The truth is that there is no guarantee you will make it to the top of your career, or even have a career. Life just has a way of sidelining us. And even if we do make it, was it all worth it?
Time is very valuable, and when you think about it, goes by very fast. Time waits for no one. And once it’s gone, it’s gone for good. So think about what you’re willing to sacrifice for your career, or the job that works you to death. Is it worth it? Can you still make a living without losing time with those you love and losing yourself in the process?
What it all comes down to is “Balance.” When you find the balance in your life everything comes together and works for you instead of against you. You can have the career without sacrificing yourself if you find and keep that balance. When you stop sacrificing to achieve that’s when you live your authentic self. And when you think about it, isn’t that what you’re really looking and working for?
To get through the ups and downs of your journey through this life you need a survival kit. Martin Luther King, Jr. said: “Our very survival depends on our ability to stay awake, to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant and to face the challenge of change.”This is sound advice for keeping you mindful, but I would like to add these components: Be open to the beauty and grace of nature that is always surrounding you; it’s there even in a busy city. Don’t forget to pack that crazy sense of humor with lots of laughter, and remember to put in a note to never take yourself or life in general too seriously. What about worry? Please leave that thing behind, it just mucks up everything.
It’s always good to remember that you need good listening skills on this journey. It’s just so amazing what you can learn when you close your mouth and open your mind and ears to what other people are saying. Who knows, you just might learn something. Also don’t forget about letting yourself feel great joy and simple happiness; they are both essential ingredients for the long road ahead.
And as you start to wrap up this kit, did you place a note in there with a bit of wisdom as a reminder to always believe in yourself even when others don’t? Do include that you are here for a purpose, and as you’re trying to find what the heck this purpose is all about, know it will always have something to do with showing kindness and love toward every living being.
The truth of the matter is that the road will sometimes be as smooth as glass, but other times extremely bumpy. But take heart, tomorrow will always be better.
As crazy as life can get, don’t let it seduce and eat you up alive. Stay away from the stress and mess it seems to throw at you. Breathe and keep going for life can sometimes become an illusion, but you can make it as real as you want it to be.
Carve yourself out some solitude and go away from the madding crowd. For only in silence will you find your true self and be able to put yourself back in balance again.
“Solitude, in the sense of being often alone, is essential to any depth of meditation or of character; and solitude in the presence of natural beauty and grandeur is the cradle of thought and aspirations which are not only good for the individual, but which society could ill do without.” ~ John S. Mill
Learn to dance in the rain and always jump in the puddles because this is your life, dammit, and you will get through it somehow.
“The really big successes often happen only after you let go of control.” ~ Robert Holden
Are you a control freak? You are if you find that you’re only happy when controlling everything around you. Now this is really a hard one because of course you want and should be in control of your own life. You are the master of your life and shouldn’t let others make decisions for you. And of course, you have no business trying to control anybody else’s life–that’s their problem and responsibility.
Now that we have established all of this, maybe you should let go of controlling your own life… just a little bit. Maybe you need to learn to flow more and see where you end up. Sometimes holding on too tight makes you lose what you’re trying to keep. Often when trying to control our life we end up out of control and tumble to an emotional death.
Relax, you just might live longer. The truth is that some things will always be out of our control. We do the best we can with what we have at the time. Never second guess yourself, you’ll go nuts doing that! Make the best decisions you can for yourself and those that depend on you and let the rest go. When we stop being control freaks good things happen. it’s probably because when we are so zeroed in on taking control all our creativity goes down the drain along with us feeling exhausted.
Loosen up on that control and see those big successes in your life appear. They will show up in better relationships, job opportunities, creativity, health and an all around happier life. Isn’t that part of what living is all about?
And while you’re at it, think about this:
“Two rules of harmony: #1) Don’t sweat the small stuff, and #2) It’s all small stuff.” ~ Richard Carlson
“All you really need to remember is that NOW is where the past ends and the future begins.” ~ Robert Holden
Enjoy your sweet memories of days gone by–there is nothing wrong with thinking about and reliving the good past memories we all have. Trouble only begins when we live only in the past and forget about living and enjoying the present. Trouble also happens when we let the past invade the now of our lives and deposit little demons that keep us from being truly happy.
I used to tell my mother if she absolutely had to revisit something in her past to make a very short visit and get out quickly! It didn’t always work very well because she would get herself stuck there and the demons would rain down on her. She would try to chase them away with wine, tranquilizers, and the occasional highball, but none proved very effective. I even tried getting her to visualize lightinga match to the past, but she would just say, “I can’t.”
“Nothing ever happened in the past that can prevent you from being present now.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Treasure and let yourself flow along with those sweet beautiful memories of your life experiences, but never allow the painful demons of your past to interfere with the life you are leading right now.
Always remember, besides being a good person and giving back, you are supposed to be enjoying your life. Submerge yourself in the beauty all around and in life itself, and never ever say,
Let the Winter Solstice flow through you Healing Wounds gathered all year.
If it’s Peace you need you will find it in the quiet sleep that winter brings.
Are you seeking Happiness? Then meditate and you will soon see that it’s just within and seeking all from you.
There’s no better time to Forgive and finally be free then this time of silence and grace that gives hope.
And of Love, you say? Then let the darkness bring a blanket of warmth to those you’ve been too busy all year to adore.
Dreams will carry you forward and Joy will become your friend as you let the Winter Solstice flow through you making you whole once again.
Whatever your beliefs this time of year, I want to wish you all Happiness and Peace as you move forward into infinity.
“We cannot stop the winter or the summer from coming. We cannot stop the spring or the fall or make them other than they are. They are gifts from the universe that we cannot refuse. But we can choose what we will contribute to life when each arrives.”
You can find recipes for making great dishes in magazines, books, online etc., but have you ever thought of a recipe for loving? How do you love yourself and the important people in your life? Sometimes I think there really needs to be some kind of guideline for how to love.
Maybe the recipe would go like this:
It’s never easy to love yourself because all kinds of faults are always popping up. But if you can’t love yourself then how in the world will you ever truly be able to love anyone else? You’d probably just keep finding faults with others too. So I guess the directions here would be to stop criticizing and accept yourself for the special being that you are. No one is perfect.
It’s easy to have that mad passionate love for someone, but what happens after you have been together for a long time and passion takes a back seat–does love go away? No, the formula just changes and love becomes deeper and means so much more. You start to know each other in new and wonderful ways. And in changing and growing, passion can make a return, and become better than ever.
Babies and young children are so easy to love, and they love and need you too. You love them to the extent that you would walk over burning coals to save them. But when children grow up and don’t want you around all that much, or even decide they don’t like you, how do you handle the love you still have for them? This is a hard one for all parents of grown children. You just have to realize that your job is done and it’s time to move on. Allow your child to change their love recipe so they can go off and build their new life. Give them lots of space and maybe they won’t forget where they came from, but at the same time, rebuild your own life, and learn to love them in a different way too.
The capacity to love stretches from humans to animals and the love for nature. The thing about a recipe for loving is to never stop. When you realize that it’s what you put in the recipe that deepens the flavor you will always find it easy to love.