Memories of Those Gone By

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It’s very painful when we experience the death of a loved one, and the grieving process is different for everyone. One thing to remember is that there is no time limit in grieving. Those that might say, “It’s time to put this behind you,” or, “It’s been a year now and you should be over it…” etc. SHAME ON THEM! There is NO time limit.

When a loved one dies we go through stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and everything in-between. Every stage is different for each of us, and at some point memories of this person will fill your mind. Remember, memories don’t have to be sad or even make you mad. They can be funny, happy memories that make you laugh and fill you with joy.

My co-worker and I told the children going through the bereavement program that it was okay to laugh, and have funny memories. They looked surprised. But as they talked about their loved ones and told little stories—some sweet and some funny, they seemed to relax and accept that memories can be funny and laughter is always good for the soul.

I love remembering the happy and mostly funny memories of those I have lost. I find it comforting. Sure there were plenty of bad and some very sad times, but I only care to remember the good ones. Sometimes I’m surprised about how many hilarious memories I have. Makes me wonder why I ever thought things were so bad.

Nothing lasts forever and that includes the pain you may be in right now. As long as you can remember, then the memories of your loved ones will never fade. They will bring you comfort on a cold night. They will fill your heart with joy and treasured thoughts, and they will make you laugh as well as cry because of the richness they give your life.

Too Centered

Our lives are very busy—especially if we are working, raising children, and caring for our own parents. We get centered on things that we feel are important like education, making money, getting ahead in our jobs, simply surviving. And sometimes we forget to tell the ones we love that we “Love Them.” Maybe it’s that we don’t think we need to remind them. After all, we told them that a long time ago, didn’t we? They should just know.

But do they know? Maybe not. We can’t just assume. If we are so caught up in making it through each and everyday we just might miss the human component of our lives. It’s that part of our lives where even if the person we love is at times driving us crazy, or we are just feeling tired, worried, fed-up and even mad, we are still able to show how much we love them.

With our aging parents we can become exhausted from all the running around of errands we do for them, and tired of hearing the same old stories over and over again, but they still need to hear that we love them. And all the wild things our kids do that upset us, they too need to hear those tender important words of love. It’s not only when our kids are young that they need to hear it, but also when they are adults and struggling with their own grownup lives.

Sometimes we can just get too centered on what we feel is important and probably is, but we must not forget about the human side that speaks of only love. That human side is what your kids will remember about you and treasure, and it’s what will make your parents feel warm and safe in your care. Without that reminder of love, life can be bitter cold.

Be mindful and free with saying “I Love You.”

I Hope You Dance

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep the hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance… I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’
Lovin’ might be a mistake but it’s worth makin’
Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to sellin’ out reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I hope you dance… I hope you dance

Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along.
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone.

I hope you dance… I hope you dance

Words and music by, Mark D. Sanders and Tia Sillers

I hope whatever life throws your way that you will always choose to DANCE!

 

Reflection

It’s that time again where the season is telling us to slow down and reflect on the past year. It’s a melancholy time, but can also be sweet and full of joy. Sometimes though reflection gets lost in this busy time of year, and that’s a real shame because taking the time to reflect is important for the soul to grow.

Give yourself the gift of reflection, and don’t forget to enjoy the precious moments you have with your family and friends. Hold your love ones close to your heart, and drink in the beauty that is your life because nothing lasts forever.

I wish all my WordPress friends a wonderful holiday season, and may you always have happiness and peace in your life.

All my love,

Michele

 

 

Don’t Hesitate, Just Do

I kind of stuck my nose where I guess it didn’t belong by trying to help a cat that I felt was being treated more like an unloved, uncared for little being than a treasured part of the family. It backfired of course, and I was left feeling, what the hell? It all seemed very simple at the time. The cat is cold, you provide shelter. The cat is hungry, you feed it. The cat needs love, you give it. But then humans got involved and feelings came into play. We are all so complicated. “Should I have done nothing?” I asked myself. Next time I’ll know better, but should I?

The key word here is the “Cat,” not the humans. I saw a need and I did what we should all do—take action where it’s needed. Because of my action, the humans involved are now taking steps to provide the shelter that was needed. Maybe they would have done it anyway, but for sure they are doing it now. And the need to pay attention for making sure the cat is getting fed? Well, hopefully that will be improved.

I asked the universe for help in doing right by this cat and it told me what to do. I said to the universe, “Now it seems like I have a cat, and I really don’t want one. What should I do?” The universe works in mysterious ways for the humans missed their cat and realized what they needed to do.

Even though things may get messy, costly, and stressful, if you see a being in need and the pull to help is great, don’t hesitate, just do. Other humans may not understand, but you’ll know that the universe is working through you to give a helping hand. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.