Evolving

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Why do we act negatively, sometimes even to the point of sabotaging ourselves? I think it has something to do with primitive survival. I think when we are having a difference of opinion with someone, or even an argument, our brains go back to primitive times when opposition meant it was time for survival mode to kick in. I also think that’s why we have the ego. It’s there to protect us, letting us know we are being treated badly and need to do something about it. We really don’t need the ego anymore because it gets us into a lot of trouble with all its bad chatter that fill our brains.

We need to evolve a little more and start thinking with our hearts and not the mind so much. We don’t have to take a disagreement and make it all out war. Sadly, I’ve seen and also have experienced some of this behavior in action. It happens in jobs, with friends, neighbors and the absolute worst: Families. It has caused marriages to end, siblings to stop speaking to one another, and grown children to turn against their parents. And I realize that this primitive thinking can get very extreme resulting in physical, mental, abuse and even murder.

This primitive survival mode causes so much miscommunication that nobody even knows what they are mad about anymore. They just know they’re mad and it’s the other person’s fault. The book is closed, everybody’s life goes on–still mad of course, and then one of the parties dies and sometimes a different perspective arrives, but it’s too late.

Practicing thinking with our heart, our Spirit, will make us all calm down and really listen to each other with open minds instead of thinking how mad this makes us feel. We might not always agree, but we can agree to disagree in harmony, and accept the right of others to have a different opinion. Respect, kindness, and love come from thinking with the heart, and that’s evolving.

“If only we can overcome cruelty, to human and animal, with love and compassion we shall stand at the threshold of a new era in human moral and spiritual evolution – and realize, at last, our most unique quality: humanity.”

~ Jane Goodal

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Deadly Companions

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Sometimes we fear the things we don’t understand.

And, we start to hate the things we fear.

Then greed walks in and grabs everything in sight.

When we fear something that maybe we shouldn’t, it means we need to educate ourselves about it. Learning why we feel the fear toward something or even someone might not make us agree and like it, but it will give us the information we need to open our minds and perhaps our hearts and try to see and comprehend what we feel in a different light. We can knock out fear by facing it and learning everything about it.

Hate is never the answer to anything. It’s just the lazy way to put a bandage on anything we don’t want to face and certainly try to understand. Hate makes us do and become the worst and ugly part of ourselves. It’s the mind gone mad because the heart is in a coma.

When I think of greed I see a child stuffing his mouth so full that his cheeks are ready to burst. Greed is a weird thing. If you mix it with fear and hate it becomes a dangerous cocktail so destructive that it produces wars and genocide.

If we are to survive as a species, we must get rid of these deadly companions. We need to open our minds to new possibilities and ways of thinking. We can learn to replace these things with acceptance and maybe even love. We must endeavor to become more enlightened.

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Problems

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To me this quote from Eckhart Tolle means that problems really can’t live in our present moments because problems usually occur when we live in the past or future and are simply not being present. If we look back, we can probably find something to make into a problem and bring it into the present moment by thinking about it, but it shouldn’t be in our present moment because it was already there once and now it belongs in the past where it should be forgotten.

If we look into the future we could create something to worry about by dragging it into the present, but why do we want to do that when we really have no idea what the future holds for us until it arrives and becomes the present. Fear sometimes brings us to the future.

So, what we actually have is only what’s happening right now and soon that now will also be in the past, and only starts to be a problem when we keep bringing it up over and over again. As crazy as this all sounds, our problems can’t survive in our present moments if we are truly present because we would solve an issue before it becomes a problem or discard it. There is not enough fuel to actually be living in the moment and keep a so-called problem alive. It’s only when we go looking for trouble by looking backward or forward and over thinking that we give negative energy to our present moment by creating problems that grow into monsters filling our brains with misery and giving us sleepless nights of trying to figure things out— what went wrong, or what might go wrong. And don’t forget, when we do this stuff we are no longer in the present moment.

If we could figure all this out for once and for all, think about all the happiness and great relationships we would have. We could experience real forgiveness and love, and we wouldn’t make ourselves and everyone else so unhappy. Life would become richer and peaceful for all.

Okay, this all sounds great, but since this is not a fairytale story where we will all just start this right now and life will suddenly change for the better, let’s call this a work in progress and strive to live in the present and keep the past and future out of our lives the best we can. In doing this, maybe the world can become a better place because we’ve become better people.

Treasure Box

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While house sitting for my daughter, I awoke one morning to the sun streaming through the bedroom window and a warm furry body that was wrapped around my legs purring. I stirred enjoying waking up this way and my movement sent a signal to the gentle giant sleeping at the foot of the bed. Loud, and fast, this Lab/Dane mix made his way to where my head was peeking out from the covers. Nuzzling me very insistently, there was no way of escaping his excitement that yes, indeed, I was awake and a new day was waiting eagerly for us. I laughed as I thought to myself, “What a wonderful way to begin a day!”

Maybe your day begins with the pitter-patter of tiny feet in footed pjs making its way down the hallway to the warmth of your bed for morning cuddle time. Oh, that sweet smell of childhood, and uncomplicated innocent love. Now, that’s the way to start a day!

Unless I’m house sitting for my daughter, my mornings usually start with the wonderful smell of coffee brewing; sometimes birds chirping, and if I’m lucky, the sun beaming through the curtains. But even if it’s a gray or rainy day, I’m excited to get up and see what is in store for me. Every day presents a treasure box to find and open up, discovering the wonders of life, and all you can learn and try to be.

It doesn’t matter how you wake up to your day. It only matters that like my furry friends, or the curiosity of a child, you too want to get up and start your day ready for the adventure.

This is truly living and embracing your life, and just maybe what life is about. Don’t ever give up on yourself and think there’s no use in living. Your dark days will pass, they always do, and soon the light will appear once again. And when it does, bath in it, believe in it, and look for your treasure box each and every day.

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Deep Inside

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You are the who that you are, but that doesn’t mean you can’t change the bad that you are. But… in doing that, don’t condemn the whole that is all of what you are.

Have compassion for what is deep inside.

It’s a new year and you know what that means? You are now looking at a blank canvas, a fresh start, and all the old negative feelings you had in 2017 you should throw out with this week’s trash! You don’t need them anymore.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are human and are learning. So learn to forgive, love, care about everyone—and that includes you. If you can’t do this for yourself then it will be harder to do it with others.

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Life is short; don’t wait. Go ahead and reach deep inside—you might be surprised at the beauty you find there.

Be the Gift

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The Earth is a beautiful place, but our world can at times be cold and cruel. During this holiday season and all year-long be the gift that keeps on giving. Be the one who smiles at a stranger. Maybe that smile is perfect timing to an otherwise horrible day. What about that person in a wheelchair or scooter that is staring at the top shelf in the grocery store wondering how they will be able to reach. Can you be the helping hand even if you feel too busy?

Take someone under your wing and help them to soar. I remember once when I had started a new job and was struggling to learn and keep up, and feeling that every day was pure hell. If someone would have taken me under their wing and helped me along I’m sure I would have succeeded. Think about taking someone under your wing at work and helping them to learn the ropes. Better yet, we should teach our children to do this at school. Being a friend to the child everyone picks on, or helping the new kid find their way. Wow, loving children, no more bullies.

Be the one who says to the child, “I’m proud of you.” Doesn’t matter if you are the parent, teacher, or just the neighbor, let them know when they’ve done well. Give encouragement and praise helping them along the path so they believe they can. Let them know you have their back and care. This kind of compassion will sustain them when future dark days descend, and you know they will. A child with a box of coping tools will get through because they’ll know they’re loved and matter in this world.

Happy Holidays to you wonderful Beings, and here’s my wish for all of you:

“If I could give you any gift, I’d give you LOVE and LAUGHTER, a PEACEFUL HEART, a SPECIAL DREAM, and JOY FOREVER AFTER.”  ~ Unknown

Embrace the Seasons

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Every season has a special gift for us if we just learn to embrace each and everyone.

Fall is the time to simply let go—just like the leaves of the trees. Let go of all your old resentments, anxiety, sadness, and all horrible negativities you are hoarding. These nasty things are keeping you from being the wonderful person deep inside of you. Let the windy days of fall blow it all far away. “Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.”  ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald

Winter is the time to cozy in with loved ones, and maybe slow down a bit. In slowing down we now have made room for some deep soul thinking. We don’t have to be housebound because there’s plenty of wonderful things to enjoy in winter’s nature with the knowing that a hot cup of cocoa is waiting for us in the warm inside. “Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home.” ~ Edith Sitwell

Spring brings us new beginnings and always a chance for a fresh start. As we watch the birds building their nests and the squirrels scurrying about and the flowers coming into bloom we start to feel the energy of renewal. We feel alive with the promise that things will be better. “Springtime is the land awakening. The March winds are the morning yawn.” ~ Lewis Grizzard

Summer as many of you know is my favorite of all the seasons. This is probably because I have the happiest childhood memories from summer. Longer days, warm sun on my back, running barefoot through the cool grass, and playing outside until the stars came out and my mother had to drag me into the house! Summer is a time to remember being a child and to incorporate the free spirit of childhood back into our lives. “Summertime is always the best of what might be.”
~ Charles Bowden

Whatever the season, embrace it fully. Use it to grow your soul and become the who inside of you.