Danger in a Tone

That old adage, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it,” is so very true. It’s that tone we use that can make all the difference in the world. I don’t think most of us give much thought about how we sound or come off to others. And it’s not just the verbal tone we use, but also the tone we use in print, especially in our e-mails and texts.

Tone represents the mood we are currently in, but not necessarily how we actually feel toward the people or subject we are dealing with at the time. So if we are in a bad mood then how we deal with the people around us verbally or in print will have a hard and sometimes nasty edge to it. This can cause a lot of problems at work and in our private lives. And this can especially be devastating when dealing with children or very sensitive people.

Sometimes it’s hard to know when our tone is off because we are busy people, and always in a hurry. We speak or text very fast before we have really processed all information. Yours truly has made that mistake many times. Usually this happens to me when I get caught up in a situation that I feel is critical and the other person has a different view.

So what do we do about keeping our tone smooth and cordial? “SMILE.” That’s right. Before you open your mouth, or write that offensive line, smile first. It’s pretty hard to say or write anything in a mean tone while smiling.

It doesn’t hurt to remind ourselves to be kind and gentle toward others. We all have stressful days, but a bad or really cruel tone can throw another human off into misery, and I don’t think any of us ever mean to do that.

Life can be hard, so put that smile on your face and let’s watch out for one another.

“Tone has the living soul.” ~ Shinichi Suzuki

Reflection

It’s that time again where the season is telling us to slow down and reflect on the past year. It’s a melancholy time, but can also be sweet and full of joy. Sometimes though reflection gets lost in this busy time of year, and that’s a real shame because taking the time to reflect is important for the soul to grow.

Give yourself the gift of reflection, and don’t forget to enjoy the precious moments you have with your family and friends. Hold your love ones close to your heart, and drink in the beauty that is your life because nothing lasts forever.

I wish all my WordPress friends a wonderful holiday season, and may you always have happiness and peace in your life.

All my love,

Michele

 

 

Invite the Light In

Close your eyes and breathe in.

Relax those shoulders as you breathe right out.

Let those crazy thoughts fly in and out, but don’t attach yourself as they soar in–just let them be.

Invite the light into your soul by concentrating on happy thoughts even if they were very long ago.

Come on, let a giggle slip in and become unburden as hopefully you once were when you were little and carefree.

Breathe in.

Breathe out.

Invite the light in chasing the darkness out.

 

“Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.”

~ Maori proverb

Give Flight to Hurt

Sometimes the pain of hurt is more than you can bear.

It lies within your very soul ripping it to shreds.

The only way to lessen its hold is to accept its presence and then, let it go.

Visualize:

Put this hurt on the back of a majestic mystical bird.

Majestic one, just take flight.

Fly far, far, away across the open sea.

And then drop that hurt into the deep violent waters of this massive sea.

Hurt will sink deeper and deeper, finding its way to the darkest parts of the ocean abyss.

And there it will remain forever more.

Give flight to all your hurts and then take a deep breath of relief.
Now, it is time to live your life once again.

Be the Who Inside of You

Be the who inside of you and don’t fear what you might say. Life will only work for you if you can learn to accept yourself all the way.

Don’t care if people don’t like who you are because it usually just means you haven’t met the right people in life so far. Of course, this is all if, and only if, the who that you are is loving and kind toward everyone in sight.

Maybe you’re a little bit socially awkward and you think people find you a bit strange. I’ll let you in on a little secret, we’re all awkward and strange in our own way. Take a deep breath and take the focus off of you and put it on someone nice and new. The people who deserve your friendship will come your way if you stay true to yourself in every way.

Take your shoes off and run along the shore with negative thoughts flying right out the door. Let the sea air lift you up making you feel free, and ready to accept this beautiful who that rests inside of you.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The Sea

“With every drop of water you drink, every breath you take, you’re connected to the sea. No matter where on Earth you live.”

~ Sylvia Earle

She is powerful and yet gentle… the sea. Capable of mood swings from torrent gray to calming turquoise bays. One thing is for sure, the sea knows she’s in charge and will always demand your complete respect. Don’t ever turn your back on her because she likes to tease and be sneaky.

The sea can also rock you like a little baby if you meet her in a serene mode, or choose a location where she’s happy putting her waves at rest. She will even let you swim and play all day because she knows your beginnings came from her.

If you’ve never had the chance to swim in the sea, or sit on a beach and just watch her magnificent beauty, then sit down right this very moment, and somewhere comfortable. Now, close your eyes and think of her and there in your mind she will be.

The sea has powers–such great powers to remove all your stress and take it so far away that you can’t even remember what you were all upset about in the first place. Breathe in deeply, and then out, letting all your negative thoughts be washed away. Feel the clean salt air relax the tension in your chest and in your shoulders. Don’t you just feel better already?

Once the sea graces your soul… she my friends, will never let you go.

“Sometimes we are lucky enough to know that our lives have been changed, to discard the old, embrace the new, and run headlong down an immutable course. it happened to me… on that summer’s day, when my eyes were opened to the sea.”

 ~ Jacques Yves Cousteau

Be Who You Are

Letter to Myself: “Dear Me show me how to be Me today.”
~ Robert Holden

You do know who you are… right? You’re that wonderful creature that’s always happy with a smile on your face and having a kind word and very helpful toward everyone. You’re full of adventure and wonderment, and have no expectations or demands on your life, or for that matter, anyone else’s.

You are a very grateful soul just content to be alive flowing from moment to moment with positive energy bursting out from all sides, but you already know this… don’t you? Well, deep down inside you do. This is the you that is known as your “Spirit.” It’s the real you, but a lot of the time it gets kicked to the side as your ego takes over the reins of your life and tells you the way it should be. Don’t listen; ego is full of lies.

Don’t let society define who you are. Don’t listen to the dishonesty surrounding you. Go deep within yourself and connect to the lovely being that you are. Don’t fear the who you might be, but instead trust that the universe put you where you are right now to be the who you are.

“Love after Love” by Derek Walcott

The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.