Apologize

“Apologizing does not always mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.” ~ Author unknown

Saying “I’m sorry,” is so hard to do when we don’t feel we did anything wrong. When we say those words we feel like we’re admitting and taking ownership to hurting someone, or doing something wrong. If that wasn’t our intent, or we don’t believe it’s true then why should we apologize?

I think telling someone you’re sorry even though you had no idea you hurt them is something you do as a kindness and just being a good human. You do it for them; not for you. After all, I don’t think very many of us have a problem when shopping at the grocery store saying I’m sorry when we bump into someone’s basket by mistake, or cut them off. It doesn’t seem to bother us to say it because it’s a courtesy that just flows out of our mouths. So why isn’t it a courtesy when someone lets us know that we upset them?

Every day we deal with other humans and we say things that people take the wrong way and we even hurt feelings. We make decisions at the time that seem right but sometimes end up wrong. Our mouths say things before our brains have a chance to digest words and actions. It’s all part of the human condition, but so is being considerate of our fellow humans.

When you apologize to someone in the case of not intentionally trying to cause them emotional pain, you are not admitting guilt. You are being a human connecting to another human and sending love. When you do apologize make sure it comes from the heart. Really feel that empathy for another being.

Maybe if more of us could be selfless and learn to connect the world would be a happier place.

“Apologies are the art of spiritual housekeeping. They help to put and keep our lives in order.” ~ Julia Cameron

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Going Off the Rails

Do you sometimes overreact in situations and basically find yourself going off the rails? Then it’s time to step back and figure out what is really going on in your world that is making you too sensitive to the life you are leading.

It’s easy to get ourselves into the habit of overreacting. It’s part of this racing around modern world that we are now living in. We don’t take a moment to think things through before our mouths open up and we blurt something out in response to a situation that either needs some time to think on, or no response at all. I think this is also a problem of us not connecting with each other anymore. We don’t connect, we just react.

But if you find this going off the rails happening in your world too much then there’s a deeper reason why and it’s time to step back, take a deep breath, and be honest with yourself. Maybe you are just unhappy with portions of your life, or maybe it’s your whole life that’s not working out for you. If any of this is true, then it’s time to make some changes.

Change is never easy, but it is always better than living a life that’s not working well for you. First thing to do is clear your head and stop listening to your ego. Listen to your gut–that sweet quiet Spirit that is you. What do you really want to do with your life? Don’t be afraid; fear is your enemy and will always put the brakes on what you should be doing.

A very apprehensive little girl going into the 4th grade was wondering if this school year was going to be a good one for her. She was concerned about what kind of teacher she would have, how hard the work would be, and the other kids. I told her it was up to her what kind of year she would have. I explained she had the power over herself and no one or anything else. If she wanted a good year then she had to make it so.

You too have the power to change what’s not working in your life. Don’t go off the rails and just be a reactor, take control and design the life you want. By doing this, you will find that you will be a calmer and overall happier little human. And while you at it, throw that fear out the window–it’s such a bother.

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” ~ Milton Berle

You’re Never Really Alone If…

Sometimes you feel alone and think no one really cares what kind of day you’re having, and maybe they don’t. You may feel this way in a crowd, or even spending time with family or friends. Sometimes it seems like no one is listening or seeing you. Maybe you’re right and nobody really cares, but you know what? It doesn’t matter because you don’t have to feel this way if you can learn to get out from underneath yourself and connect to something greater than YOU! Everyone around you is involved in their own life drama, and it’s up to you to take care of yourself and stop looking at others to provide your mental well-being.

Try getting out in nature and connecting to the abundance it provides. Nature has so much to offer and is in constant movement and change and full of wonderment. To be out in nature is to feel truly alive.

 Ralph Waldo Emerson said it perfectly: “Each moment of the year has its own beauty … a picture which was never before and shall never be seen again.”

Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on some other being–human or not. At work, strive to put a smile on a co-worker or client’s face. Don’t do this for your own gain, just do it for them. Volunteer your time at an animal shelter, or child crisis center. The point is that when you get out from underneath your own feelings and center yourself out into the world, you start feeling better about who you are and what you do, and you won’t feel so alone anymore.

Always take good care of yourself, but don’t get so involved with yourself. When you’re mindful to all that’s around you–just the simple things in life, great joy will bubble up inside of you. Sadness, depression, all the negative things you’ve been putting your attention on just go away and are replaced with positive feelings.

Learn to connect to something greater and you will begin to carve out a life of possibilities, and a life where you’re never really alone.

“Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” ~ Louisa May Alcott