Reflection

It’s that time again where the season is telling us to slow down and reflect on the past year. It’s a melancholy time, but can also be sweet and full of joy. Sometimes though reflection gets lost in this busy time of year, and that’s a real shame because taking the time to reflect is important for the soul to grow.

Give yourself the gift of reflection, and don’t forget to enjoy the precious moments you have with your family and friends. Hold your love ones close to your heart, and drink in the beauty that is your life because nothing lasts forever.

I wish all my WordPress friends a wonderful holiday season, and may you always have happiness and peace in your life.

All my love,

Michele

 

 

Don’t Fear Saying No

As you travel on your journey not everyone you meet or even those you are related to will have your best interests in mind. Treating everyone with respect and loving kindness is an important virtue, but so is being aware and being able to tell when opportunistic people are knocking on your door.

People who tend to be opportunist find kind, loving people, easy prey. And you, wanting to be a good person, can find yourself saying “yes” to so much more than you bargained for. I’m not talking about being asked for a little favor, I’m talking about the big favors that could turn your life upside down. But since I mentioned little favors, they too can get to be annoying.

So how do you protect yourself from being taken advantage of, or simply not really wanting to do what’s being asked of you? Just say NO. Sounds simple but it ISN’T because nice people have trouble saying no. It makes them feel bad. You don’t want to let anyone down and you sure don’t want to come across as selfish and uncaring. But sometimes you just have to protect yourself and you do that by simply saying No.

It’s much harder after you agree to do something to try to undo it. That’s why a loving person needs to think a little bit about themselves and stop worrying about how it might look if they don’t do what’s being asked, or hurt the other person. Yes, someone might get hurt and that someone might be you!

The closer the person is to you the harder it will be to say no. Ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen? So they get mad and stop talking to you and the relationship ends. You have to ask yourself what kind of relationship would end because you said no? I’d say it’s not the relationship that you thought you had and probably isn’t worth keeping.

Be the kind of person that’s not only kind to others but also kind to yourself. Don’t fear saying No when that’s what you really want to say. It’s been said that No is a complete sentence, so use it and set yourself free.

It’s the Season

“Celebrate the happiness that friends are always giving, make every day a holiday and celebrate just living!”

~ Amanda Bradley

it’s the season for life to get out of balance with all the things you have to do. Slow down, take a step back, and breathe deeply before you implode. Remember, the holiday season shouldn’t be a time to make you crazy. It should be a time to reflect on family, friends, and be grateful for your life. If you’re not mindful, this time of year can get out of hand.

Instead of thinking about all the presents you have to buy, all the places you have to be, and all the unending things you have to do, connect to the beauty and peace of nature because it will never fail you. While you’re at it, think about all the love you have to give, all the kindness you need to spread.

Stop the mindless stressing and feel the peace and joy down deep inside your soul and let those things be your guiding light restoring your balance where you can breathe with delight.

After all, it’s what the season is all about.

“Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.”

~ Hamilton Wright Mabie

Broken Relationships

Relationships broken can never be fixed because they would only break again under the same old strain. But relationships can always start anew even though that’s a very difficult thing to do. Relationships starting anew only work under brand new rules of open minds and open hearts filled with love, acceptance, respect, and always compassion. Sprinkle in some humor and you got it made.

  

“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.” ~ Rumi

The Swarm

If you’ve ever witnessed a honey bee swarm, you know it can be a bit intimidating. The bee hive gets too crowded and the bees choose a new queen while the old queen with about half of the bees takes off to start a new hive. The swarm can look like something out of a horror movie.

Life can sometimes mimic a swarm where you are either in it, or watching one. Either way, it can be unsettling. The trick is to learn how to live your life well-balanced while the swarm is happening.

When all you ever hear and see is bad news, and you feel the swarm is hovering so very near, have no fear. Instead, go on and live your life with purpose to the end.

When you find your life is all in disarray, and you are actually now part of the swarm, don’t despair, be like the honey bees and you will finally get there.

Trust yourself and believe in your life. Through personal stresses, tragedies and even wars, people find a way. Families sit down to dinner and share their thoughts around, lovers find each other somehow in the crowd, and babies are born every day while others go away.

Through all the ups and downs life always finds a way. This is your life and it’s meant to be lived even in the swarm. Living your life through the bad times will make your roots grow deeper, and you my friend, will find peace and become richer and happier for it.

And what about those swarming honey bees? Leave them alone; they are no threat to you. They are just protecting their slow flying queen and want nothing to do with the likes of you. If they happen to build their hive a bit too close, find a beekeeper who will gladly take them off your hands usually for free.

Always protect our honey bees; we need them to survive, and always flow gracefully forward while you are still alive.

 

Balance

It’s easy in your busy life to get out of balance. There’s running the kids to after school activities–which gets tricky when you have more than one kid. Sometimes sandwiched in are aging parents that you are caring for, or even an ill spouse. And let’s not forget that crazy busy job you have with the demanding boss. With all of this, no wonder you get out of balance.

Just living can cause you to get out of balance from time to time. The trick is not to stay out of balance for long periods. Know your warning signs of when you are beginning to get out of balance and then take measures to get yourself back in the groove. If you get in the habit of letting yourself stay out of balance for long periods of time then you will be in for the struggle of your life. Friendships will suffer and so will your health.

When you are out of balance for long periods of time, or if you find it happening too often, this out of balance person will become the new you. Anxiety and other types of stress will take you over. Things like panic attacks can occur as you start to feel that you have no control over your life. Major health concerns such as heart problems can also threaten your life.

One of the best things you can do to get back in balance, or to not get out of it in the first place, is to meditate. Get in the habit before you even get out of bed in the morning of closing your eyes and putting your attention on your breath as you inhale and exhale naturally. As you do this, let your mind just wander. Pay no attention to the thoughts that come in, only think about your breathing. Take a few minutes throughout your day to meditate and see how much calmer you begin to feel. Just like dental flossing, as you practice daily, the process of meditating will come automatically to you.

The other thing you need to do to keep in balance is to take stock of your daily life. Are there things you can eliminate or do a different way to make life flow easier? You are the captain of your ship and only you can make changes in your life to get in balance on the rough seas of your journey.

When you are in balance, you become one with the universe and at peace with yourself. My friends, that’s a wonderful way to live.