Mistakes

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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” ~ Author Unknown

Oh, mistakes, we all make them and will continue to do so until the end of time. It’s not really all that important that we make big and small mistakes as we travel along. What is very important though is that we try and learn from them and hopefully not make the same ones again and again. When that happens something is very much out of whack in the whole way we are living and deserves some investigation.

Beating ourselves up won’t make the mistakes any less and only causes horrible stress in our lives, and we certainly have enough stress just by breathing so we shouldn’t be manufacturing it too.

I used to be really hard on myself when I made any kind of mistake and probably lost some future years and brain cells while putting myself through hell. So now I have finally learned to do what needs to be done when I make a mistake, and then let it go blowing in the wind. Very freeing and good for the soul.

I’m happier living this way and I bet you will be too. Go on, live your life, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Always keep learning by trying new things, and simply brush yourself off when you fall on your face. Hey, that’s how you learn to be mindful.

“Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.” ~ Kierkegaard

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Meet People Where They’re At

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Don’t push your agenda on anyone, or try and change how someone feels. Just listen and be there for the humans in your life. And certainly never have any expectations of how things should be.

Take the time in your busy life to sit down and pay attention without judgment to what a person has to say. You will be surprised how much better your relationships will be if you meet people where they’re at, and always have compassion.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu

Rewire Yourself

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We come into this world prewired and that wiring gets shaped by our family and the outside world. This is all good when our wiring is mostly positive, but when our wiring is pretty much negative… that’s not so good.

The good news is we can rewire our brains by how we choose to think. We are who we are, but if there are things we want to change about ourselves such as being happier, kinder, compassionate, and patient beings we can do that. It all just takes willingness and a lot of practicing in order to make rewiring possible. There are therapists, books, articles etc. out there to help along the way.

A good start is simply learning to be more mindful. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you slip back into your old ways. I do that more than I like to admit. I don’t like it when I slip back, but I remind myself that it’s my default wiring kicking in. Recognizing slipping back shows rewiring is developing and that’s good because you’re getting somewhere, and that’s what it’s all about.

Anything is possible if you really want it.

“Neurons that fire together wire together. You can rewire your brain for higher consciousness by focusing on love.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Become the Violet

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Make this the year that you decide to forgive. But in doing so, don’t forget to forgive yourself. I think it’s actually easier to forgive others than ourselves, but it’s just as important.

I’ve written about forgiveness probably many times and that’s because I believe it’s a very important step for a happy and balanced life. And I think it’s a great way to begin each year.

Think about this beautiful quote by Mark Twain and envision being a violet and giving out to the universe the fragrance of forgiveness. You will be so much more at peace with yourself if you do.

Living Outside Ourselves

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I think we get more out of life if we don’t obsess so much on what we want out of our lives. Of course it’s important to set goals and think about what we want to do with our lives etc. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think life owes us that we become very disappointed when life doesn’t work out according to our plan.

When we ask ourselves, “What does life want from me?” We stop living in our heads and become part of the real world where life isn’t always about me, me, me. In living outside of ourselves we become something better than just who we are. We become part of the universe.

To live outside of who and what we are is to live and engage fully. A richer life becomes ours because we are living mindfully and caring about all things around us. This is what gives our life purpose. And this wonderful feeling of purpose is lost if we are always waiting for life to give us what we think we deserve.