Who Are You?

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“Knowing yourself is the best knowledge to have.”
~ Adella Gonzalez

Have you ever looked into the mirror and wondered who is that person looking back at you? Having never seen herself before, my little cat friend thought it was another cat she was seeing and took issue with her reflection by hissing and having a terrible time. Well, you might not go that far, but do you know who you are?

Plenty of people will tell you who you are, but it’s best not to listen to them. The quote by Adella Gonzalez says it all because once you get to know yourself there’s no stopping what you can do with your life.

When we’re trying to find ourselves, we feel so lost; an alien on this planet. Sometimes even like failures. We don’t know where we’re going and certainly not happy about where we’ve been. Everything about us just seems wrong. That’s a terrible way to live and a big waste of time.

You can’t find yourself in someone else. No one can complete you … only you have the power to do that. Sometimes people get married and have children to fill that void of not knowing who they are. And maybe for a while it works. But life is always in flux. People come in and out of your life. Divorce, death, and children grow up and away. One day you’ll find yourself alone with the stranger that is you.

Look into the mirror and accept what you see. The bad, the good, the ugly. All the parts that are you. Allow yourself to grow and learn, but be kind to yourself when you fail because fail you will. Some humans are smarter, funnier, and better looking than you, but so what? They are not you, so stop comparing yourself to them. Practice kindness and gratitude to bring out the deep beauty that lives inside your Spirit.

Embrace this person who is you for there is no other like you.

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Renewal

 

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Let spring bring forth a renewal of peace and joy into our lives, lifting us up to be better humans and kinder toward those beings who share our journey.

Take a moment and think how you can renew yourself to become the person you were meant to be. Only you define “You.” Don’t ever let others take that right and responsibility from you.

We can all do with a fresh start.

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Warm Caring Thoughts

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In your anger, think about Forgiveness.

In sadness, see the possibility of Hope.

Feelings of envy, why not be Grateful? 

As loneliness surrounds you, let Acceptance come in.

When anxiety takes hold, strive for Peaceful thoughts.

Playing around with cruelty? Give Kindness a try.

And when you find yourself grieving for the loss of someone you love, please let there be Loving arms to hold you close.

Wishing you all Warm, Caring Thoughts in a world that sometimes hurts.

Remember, you’re never really all alone.

We Can

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We can be the change that needs to be.

We can be the beauty we long to see.

We can be the love that’s waiting to be freed.

But nothing will ever change unless we wake up, raise our voices, and demand the time is now!

Don’t go home and close the door behind you thinking you’re closing the world away because you’re not. Nothing gets better on its own. We are all connected, and when one part is sick we are all sick.

We can all do our part to make the world we live in a better place. Change can happen by how we vote, treat each other, and how we choose to live our lives. The important thing is to be connected and never give up the fight for change that needs to be.

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Be the Gift

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The Earth is a beautiful place, but our world can at times be cold and cruel. During this holiday season and all year-long be the gift that keeps on giving. Be the one who smiles at a stranger. Maybe that smile is perfect timing to an otherwise horrible day. What about that person in a wheelchair or scooter that is staring at the top shelf in the grocery store wondering how they will be able to reach. Can you be the helping hand even if you feel too busy?

Take someone under your wing and help them to soar. I remember once when I had started a new job and was struggling to learn and keep up, and feeling that every day was pure hell. If someone would have taken me under their wing and helped me along I’m sure I would have succeeded. Think about taking someone under your wing at work and helping them to learn the ropes. Better yet, we should teach our children to do this at school. Being a friend to the child everyone picks on, or helping the new kid find their way. Wow, loving children, no more bullies.

Be the one who says to the child, “I’m proud of you.” Doesn’t matter if you are the parent, teacher, or just the neighbor, let them know when they’ve done well. Give encouragement and praise helping them along the path so they believe they can. Let them know you have their back and care. This kind of compassion will sustain them when future dark days descend, and you know they will. A child with a box of coping tools will get through because they’ll know they’re loved and matter in this world.

Happy Holidays to you wonderful Beings, and here’s my wish for all of you:

“If I could give you any gift, I’d give you LOVE and LAUGHTER, a PEACEFUL HEART, a SPECIAL DREAM, and JOY FOREVER AFTER.”  ~ Unknown

Purposeful Meaning

 

“The Bushmen in the Kalahari Desert talk about the two “hungers”. There is the Great Hunger and there is the Little Hunger. The Little Hunger wants food for the belly; but the Great Hunger, the greatest hunger of all, is the hunger for meaning…
There is ultimately only one thing that makes human beings deeply and profoundly bitter, and that is to have thrust upon them a life without meaning.
There is nothing wrong in searching for happiness. But of far more comfort to the soul is something greater than happiness or unhappiness, and that is meaning. Because meaning transfigures all. Once what you are doing has for you meaning, it is irrelevant whether you’re happy or unhappy. You are content – you are not alone in your Spirit – you belong.”
Laurens van der Post

The line, “Once what you are doing has for you meaning, it is irrelevant whether you’re happy or unhappy. You are content.” Isn’t that what we are all looking for in life, just to feel “content?”  And how we get there is to have purpose in our lives.

At some point we have to stop all the running around trying to keep up with our daily mess we call our life. And we have to arrive at the point where the crazy thoughts that are swirling around in our minds also must end, and then we can get down to the business of what is our purpose for being here at all.

Without a purpose our life has no meaning, and as the Bushmen of the Kalahari Desert have figured out, we certainly are not going to be very happy, and forget about content without a life of meaning. Perhaps that is why so many of us are living a miserable and unfulfilled life.

So much of the time we look in all the wrong places for happiness or contentment. It’s not found in material things or in other people. It is there inside of us. The purpose of your life will start to take shape and show itself to you when you go within and ask your Spirit, “what am I here to do?” Instead of the material things you think will bring you happiness, it’s found in the things you love to do—especially for others. It’s found in the kindness you spread around and the protection you give to the earth and the beauty you create. It’s the genuine things you do that might not be popular with the people you work with, or the friends you have, but feel so right to you.

As you think deeply about who you are and what you want to accomplish in your life, you will find it will include sharing your gift with others and in some small way, will make this world a better place.

And my beautiful friends, once you find your true purpose in life, there is no going back to the old you. Your life will have great meaning, and that contentment we are all looking for will come to you and you will find yourself smiling for no particular reason at all. But you’ll know why.

 

Danger in a Tone

That old adage, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it,” is so very true. It’s that tone we use that can make all the difference in the world. I don’t think most of us give much thought about how we sound or come off to others. And it’s not just the verbal tone we use, but also the tone we use in print, especially in our e-mails and texts.

Tone represents the mood we are currently in, but not necessarily how we actually feel toward the people or subject we are dealing with at the time. So if we are in a bad mood then how we deal with the people around us verbally or in print will have a hard and sometimes nasty edge to it. This can cause a lot of problems at work and in our private lives. And this can especially be devastating when dealing with children or very sensitive people.

Sometimes it’s hard to know when our tone is off because we are busy people, and always in a hurry. We speak or text very fast before we have really processed all information. Yours truly has made that mistake many times. Usually this happens to me when I get caught up in a situation that I feel is critical and the other person has a different view.

So what do we do about keeping our tone smooth and cordial? “SMILE.” That’s right. Before you open your mouth, or write that offensive line, smile first. It’s pretty hard to say or write anything in a mean tone while smiling.

It doesn’t hurt to remind ourselves to be kind and gentle toward others. We all have stressful days, but a bad or really cruel tone can throw another human off into misery, and I don’t think any of us ever mean to do that.

Life can be hard, so put that smile on your face and let’s watch out for one another.

“Tone has the living soul.” ~ Shinichi Suzuki