“No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we become free.” ~ Buddha
We will never be free as long as we let society define us. We enter this world full of promise and then, it begins. Rules of how we must feel and believe start to mold us in whatever system we landed in. Being molded is never a pleasant experience, but living day to day with constraints is not living free, and not allowing us to be our genuine selves.
“The other side of every fear is a freedom.” ~ Marilyn Ferguson
What keeps us from living our life free is fear. We want to be accepted and loved. We don’t want to appear weird or be bullied by society, or even our family. We sometimes put up a façade to hide who we really are. But are we happy? Impossible to be. Isn’t being happy and achieving the peace of mind that comes with happiness what makes life worth living?
“By finding the courage to be ourselves, we gain the power to make a difference.” ~ Lindsey Stirling
That’s it. Finding the courage to face our fears will give us the gift of living our lives free. And in doing this, think about what a difference we could make in someone’s life or even in the world. Such a beautiful gift to give ourselves. To breathe without restriction. To be free like wildflowers spreading out in a garden.
“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” ~ Socrates
We need to keep our eyes and ears open on this journey for the little bits of wisdom to be found. Nature provides it all the time, but we have to pay attention. The young and the old all around us speak volumes, but we have to listen. Yes, even the very young can be full of wisdom. We can learn a lot by simply watching children at play.
Wisdom is provided to help us on our journey. All that’s needed is to slow down and take it all in.
“Don’t gain the world and lose your soul; wisdom is better than silver or gold.” ~ Bob Marley
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ~Rumi
As the sun sets on another day, we are aware that we are imperfect beings living in an imperfect world. Each day is a new chance, a new beginning, not to be perfect, but to be better than we were before.
We should all be gentle with ourselves. After all, we are on a journey to learn, and learning takes time and has many pitfalls along the way.
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” ~ Lao Tzu
We humans may never get to enlightenment, but we can get closer every day.
Everything we do can have a ripple effect. The little acts of kindness, or meanness, the caring for nature, or trashing it. Literally how we act can have a ripple effect making deep imprints just like the ocean does along the sandy beach.
Let us all think before we act, and be the protectors of nature and all her beings, and the keepers of our planet.
“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” ~ Mother Teresa
When there is no more and the quiet replaces the noise of living, what is, or was the essence of life?
Did all the arguments and hatred really have a place in our life? All the worrying, stress, and struggling. Was it necessary?
The quiet of death speaks loudly to the living, but will we listen and pay attention to the message for more than a few minutes?
The lessons of life are all around, urging us to love deeply, be happy, laugh, and feel more joy and kindness toward ourselves and others. We hear whispering in our ear to live our best life, and sadly, we think we are.
All our earthly goods, and who our egos say we are, mean nothing. In the quiet thought of when there is no more, the true essence of our life will be found.
With so much aggression and turmoil in this world, try and practice peace everyday in your world. If you can’t smooth that frown away and replace it with a smile, at least try and keep your anger down the best you can. Hard to do when you are not having a good day and feeling upset, but so important.
We can’t control what happens in the world, but we can control how it affects us, and not be adding more hostility loose in this world. Also, if we get depressed or angry we have allowed that turmoil and the aggression going on to enter what should be our peaceful kingdom. Pema Chodron says we should ask ourselves, “Am I going to practice peace, or am I going to war?” If we don’t practice that peace we will be going to war with someone, maybe even ourselves.
Try always to stay present. Look for the beauty and goodness in nature, in things, and the people all around. We don’t have to agree on everything, but we should be accepting of our differences. Diversity is a good thing, and should not be something to fear. We add our aggression into the overflowing angry world by not being peaceful in ours. We all control what we put out.
Richard Carlson wrote a book called, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and It’s AllSmall Stuff. I have found this to be so true. In the past, most of the things I got angry about were just silly stuff that if given a few hours or a day I would have figured it out instead of acting out.
Remember, each peaceful thought that all of us can have will bring balance to our currently unbalanced world.
“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Sometimes in our very busy lives we move through each day unaware of our true feelings and how we affect the people around us. We humans get so busy with tasks to accomplish and simply find ourselves in a kind of survival mode. We become lost and don’t even realize it.
When we are so unaware and lost we hurt ourselves and those we love, and sometimes don’t know we’re doing it. Becoming aware of who we are and how we are influencing everyone around us is mindfulness, and a practice we must do every day.
“Self-awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering hard questions.” ~ Stephen R. Covey
Being honest with ourselves is crucial to the why we do what we do. The hard questions of how we truly feel inside about ourselves. If we are beaten down, feel inadequate, deeply hurt, resentful, how can we function for ourselves or those we love? And it’s more than just functioning, it’s how can we live our best life?
The awareness of ourselves and the acceptance of our reality is the beginning of our changing any bad behavior that’s keeping us from living our life fully and placing those we love in the warmth of our embrace.
Becoming aware of who we are and what we are doing puts us in a dance with our life that is not only beautiful, but full of balance and flow.
“Life is the dancer and you are the dance.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Just relax. Nothing ever gets done in a good way by being stressed. Breathe deeply, let your thoughts go. Things aren’t all bad in your life. There is much good; open your eyes and see it.
Everything doesn’t have to go your way. Have no resistance; learn to flow. So much is missed when we are uptight, and life just goes by. Stay with the present moment, and don’t let the past or future take you over.
We all have obstacles in our life. Some days are good to us, and some are horrible. The secret is to not let those hard times take over and define our life.
It takes practice and patience, but learn to chill. You’ll be happier for it.
“Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force.” ~ Lao Tzu
“If there was one life skill everyone on the planet needed, it was the ability to think with critical objectivity.”
~ Henry David Thoreau
I believe that the inability of critical thinking is the root cause of prejudice. If we would simply ask ourselves “Why” we feel the way we do toward others, we would be surprised to find that it is based on fear, preconceived ideas, our parents opinions, and the entire tribe that surrounds us.
Being too comfortable in our views and resisting stretching our minds to go beyond what we were taught will keep us closed-minded to the truths that stand before us.
If humans are to survive then we must change, and the first step is to ask “Why.”
“Too often we… enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.” ~ John F. Kennedy