I think we all have experienced getting emotionally overwhelmed from time to time, and sometimes we act out. It’s not good for us or anyone else if we do that. So, what should we do? A deep dive into what triggers our emotional response is the first step. Some can do this alone and others may need professional help. We are not alone. There is always help.
Once the triggers are identified then set a plan to keep away from them, or more realistically, learn techniques to handle these emotional responses. Some of these techniques could be creating some space by walking away even for a few minutes. Try concentrating on breathing and being mindful of how the body is feeling. Sometimes petting or cuddling an animal can bring calm feelings. I’ve heard putting your hands in water and focusing on the feeling is very relaxing. And taking a walk and connecting to nature is a great way to clear the head. Find what works for you. And don’t forget to get enough sleep. The body so needs that rest and escape from the world.
That deep dive into the mind of why we get emotionally triggered is the most important step we can do for our self care. Don’t ignore negative feelings. They won’t go away without positive action. We all need a little help to live a balanced and happy life.
“Empty yourself of everything – let the mind become still.” ~ Lao Tzu
Life can get so hectic sometimes, especially if you are working and raising kids. And, if you have one of those jobs where you are giving to others, it’s a double whammy. Self-care isn’t something we give much thought to. Probably because we are taught it’s selfish to think of ourselves. And even if we do think of it from time to time, it’s usually put on the back burner.
You know what happens if self-care remains on the back burner too long—you burn out, and when that happens you’re no good to yourself or anyone else. Here’s an idea for self-care. Make a list of all the things that bring you JOY. They don’t have to cost an arm and a leg, and most will cost nothing at all. Each week pick one of the items on the list and treat yourself. It could be a long walk somewhere beautiful, a soak in a bubble bath, or a cup of tea and a good book. Maybe buy yourself something once in awhile. You get the idea.
The world is a loud place to be, and we can lose ourselves in that loudness and become so stressed out. Be good to yourself and soon you’ll see how much calmer and happier you feel.
Your soul deserves to be loved. Go ahead and give it some flowers.
There are times when you find yourself out in nature and you are compelled to lose yourself in the breathtaking environment. Maybe, like the picture above, you find yourself on a foggy beach and somehow the sight and the feel of the fog wrapping around you becomes comforting and safe. You dig your toes deep into the soft sand, and before you know it, the sea splashes over your bare feet and the icy cold water makes you jump like a giddy child. Immediately you feel so alive and one with your surroundings.
There are so many ways to connect with nature, and this is one of my favorites. Sometimes we just need to stop and take a breath, and let nature handle all the rest.
Find your peace in quiet places that speak to you. Sometimes the world is cruel, and we need to take a break from all the noise and craziness. Cover yourself in love and nature’s beauty, and don’t forget to breathe. Tomorrow is another day.
“Lose yourself in nature and find peace.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” ~ Dalai Lama
“No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we become free.” ~ Buddha
We will never be free as long as we let society define us. We enter this world full of promise and then, it begins. Rules of how we must feel and believe start to mold us in whatever system we landed in. Being molded is never a pleasant experience, but living day to day with constraints is not living free, and not allowing us to be our genuine selves.
“The other side of every fear is a freedom.” ~ Marilyn Ferguson
What keeps us from living our life free is fear. We want to be accepted and loved. We don’t want to appear weird or be bullied by society, or even our family. We sometimes put up a façade to hide who we really are. But are we happy? Impossible to be. Isn’t being happy and achieving the peace of mind that comes with happiness what makes life worth living?
“By finding the courage to be ourselves, we gain the power to make a difference.” ~ Lindsey Stirling
That’s it. Finding the courage to face our fears will give us the gift of living our lives free. And in doing this, think about what a difference we could make in someone’s life or even in the world. Such a beautiful gift to give ourselves. To breathe without restriction. To be free like wildflowers spreading out in a garden.
“Life is the dancer and you are the dance.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Just relax. Nothing ever gets done in a good way by being stressed. Breathe deeply, let your thoughts go. Things aren’t all bad in your life. There is much good; open your eyes and see it.
Everything doesn’t have to go your way. Have no resistance; learn to flow. So much is missed when we are uptight, and life just goes by. Stay with the present moment, and don’t let the past or future take you over.
We all have obstacles in our life. Some days are good to us, and some are horrible. The secret is to not let those hard times take over and define our life.
It takes practice and patience, but learn to chill. You’ll be happier for it.
“Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force.” ~ Lao Tzu
“Wisdom comes with the ability to be still. Just look and just listen. No more is needed.” ~ Echart Tolle
Take a few minutes out of your busy day and just be still. Breathe deeply, and take in your life. This is all there really is. Just you in this body being still.
It doesn’t matter who you’ve become, how rich or poor you are, or if anyone cares you are even here. What matters is that you feel your life and know it’s a gift to be treasured.
Life is fleeting. Here today, gone tomorrow. You’re on a journey that has an end date, so as you’re being still, listen to your Spirit and allow it to guide you through the doors you are meant to open. Feel love and give love and be who you are. You are that beautiful deep essence of existence.
“Be happy for no reason like a child.” ~ Deepak Chopra
“It is amazing how your life changes when you embrace the reality that you’re better than the life you’ve settled for.”
~ Steve Maraboli
If you are unhappy with your life, you, and only you, can change things. Walk across that bridge to the life you are meant to live. Do this by making little changes every day in how you think about things, and how you treat the world you live in, and the people you engage with. Especially think about how you treat yourself. Change starts in the head. No matter where you go, what makes you unhappy will follow you.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”~ Wayne Dyer
Don’t ever make drastic changes in your life while angry or hurt. Give feelings time to calm down. Ask yourself is this change you want to make for the better, or will it end up being for the worst.
Whatever you do in life, never settle for just anything. Make sure your life fills you with joy and purpose. There are always down days, and sad days, but a well lived life should lift you up, comfort you, and help you back on your journey.
You, beautiful human, deserve a happy life.
“Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.” ~ Naeem Callaway