Lose Yourself

There are times when you find yourself out in nature and you are compelled to lose yourself in the breathtaking environment. Maybe, like the picture above, you find yourself on a foggy beach and somehow the sight and the feel of the fog wrapping around you becomes comforting and safe. You dig your toes deep into the soft sand, and before you know it, the sea splashes over your bare feet and the icy cold water makes you jump like a giddy child. Immediately you feel so alive and one with your surroundings.

There are so many ways to connect with nature, and this is one of my favorites. Sometimes we just need to stop and take a breath, and let nature handle all the rest.

Finding Peace

Find your peace in quiet places that speak to you. Sometimes the world is cruel, and we need to take a break from all the noise and craziness. Cover yourself in love and nature’s beauty, and don’t forget to breathe. Tomorrow is another day.

“Lose yourself in nature and find peace.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” ~ Dalai Lama

Are You Free?

“No one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly. When we know this, we become free.” ~ Buddha

We will never be free as long as we let society define us. We enter this world full of promise and then, it begins. Rules of how we must feel and believe start to mold us in whatever system we landed in. Being molded is never a pleasant experience, but living day to day with constraints is not living free, and not allowing us to be our genuine selves.

“The other side of every fear is a freedom.” ~ Marilyn Ferguson

What keeps us from living our life free is fear. We want to be accepted and loved. We don’t want to appear weird or be bullied by society, or even our family. We sometimes put up a façade to hide who we really are. But are we happy? Impossible to be. Isn’t being happy and achieving the peace of mind that comes with happiness what makes life worth living?

“By finding the courage to be ourselves, we gain the power to make a difference.” ~ Lindsey Stirling

That’s it. Finding the courage to face our fears will give us the gift of living our lives free. And in doing this, think about what a difference we could make in someone’s life or even in the world. Such a beautiful gift to give ourselves. To breathe without restriction. To be free like wildflowers spreading out in a garden.

Isn’t now the time to be free?

Chill

“Life is the dancer and you are the dance.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Just relax. Nothing ever gets done in a good way by being stressed. Breathe deeply, let your thoughts go. Things aren’t all bad in your life. There is much good; open your eyes and see it.

Everything doesn’t have to go your way. Have no resistance; learn to flow. So much is missed when we are uptight, and life just goes by. Stay with the present moment, and don’t let the past or future take you over.

We all have obstacles in our life. Some days are good to us, and some are horrible. The secret is to not let those hard times take over and define our life.

It takes practice and patience, but learn to chill. You’ll be happier for it.

“Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force.” ~ Lao Tzu

Be Still

“Wisdom comes with the ability to be still. Just look and just listen. No more is needed.” ~ Echart Tolle

Take a few minutes out of your busy day and just be still. Breathe deeply, and take in your life. This is all there really is. Just you in this body being still.

It doesn’t matter who you’ve become, how rich or poor you are, or if anyone cares you are even here. What matters is that you feel your life and know it’s a gift to be treasured.

Life is fleeting. Here today, gone tomorrow. You’re on a journey that has an end date, so as you’re being still, listen to your Spirit and allow it to guide you through the doors you are meant to open.  Feel love and give love and be who you are. You are that beautiful deep essence of existence.

“Be happy for no reason like a child.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Don’t Settle

“It is amazing how your life changes when you embrace the reality that you’re better than the life you’ve settled for.”

~ Steve Maraboli

If you are unhappy with your life, you, and only you, can change things. Walk across that bridge to the life you are meant to live. Do this by making little changes every day in how you think about things, and how you treat the world you live in, and the people you engage with. Especially think about how you treat yourself. Change starts in the head. No matter where you go, what makes you unhappy will follow you.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Don’t ever make drastic changes in your life while angry or hurt. Give feelings time to calm down. Ask yourself is this change you want to make for the better, or will it end up being for the worst.

Whatever you do in life, never settle for just anything. Make sure your life fills you with joy and purpose. There are always down days, and sad days, but a well lived life should lift you up, comfort you, and help you back on your journey.

You, beautiful human, deserve a happy life.

 “Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.” ~ Naeem Callaway

Grudges

“Don’t carry a grudge. While you’re carrying the grudge the other guy’s out dancing.” ~ Buddy Hackett

We’ve all experienced having a grudge or two. Sometimes it really eats away at you. And, when you think about it, what a waste of your precious time. As we have all learned during this pandemic, time is so very precious.

Experiencing resentment can happen so easily at work, with friends, neighbors, and especially with family. I would say it’s better to have a sit down with the person or persons who you’re having a problem with and talk it out, but I know better because I have experienced how that can go so horribly wrong. Egos at war can really make a mess.

Depending on the people you’re dealing with, you might be able to talk problems through, but for those times that it would make things worse, I suggest writing a letter for your eyes only and let it all out how you feel. Read it a few times, and really analyze how you feel and maybe where you might have played a role too. Then throw the letter away and move on with your life.

Holding grudges will make you sick and it never changes anything.

Take a deep breath. Feel vindicated and let it all go.

“In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go?” ~ Jack Kornfield

Nostalgia

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“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.” ~ Emily Dickinson

It’s so hard to find positive quotes on nostalgia. The very definition is “Sentimental longing for the past,” and most quotes have to do with that longing and a kind of sadness. I like what Emily Dickinson had to say about nostalgia.

Nostalgia came about for me when my two granddaughters spent the night. Since they are thirteen and very busy with friends etc. I don’t see them as often as I used to. The room that they sleep in—which was once their mother’s room, has some toys and fragments of things that go way back to when they were really little. Since I don’t know when they’ll be coming back to spend the night, I thought we’d take the opportunity and see what they wanted to keep and what to give away, or recycle.

I found my memories dancing around of endless times playing with dolls with them. Board games, coloring books, old purses and things they made that now they have no use for. So much stuff that in the past they would have never let go. But I didn’t feel sad. I just felt amazed at how mature they have become, and how lucky I am to have played with them all these years. The stuff animals that once belonged to their mom, and books that I had read over and over, plus the very loved doll house, they want to keep. These items are over forty years old, and it’s special to know that maybe there will be a whole new generation enjoying these toys.

Of all the things I’ve experienced in life, I’ll have to say that the gift of raising my two daughters and being a grandmother I am most grateful for. Those times were not always easy. In fact, many times they were difficult. But I’m thankful for the good, bad, and the ugly of it all. That’s what life is really about. You learn to flow through it all and be grateful you’re alive to do so.

“Nostalgia is simply the result of aging and liking the life you’ve lived. Be happy you can feel it—it’s a good sign.” ~Anthony Marais

Put a positive spin on nostalgia. Whatever you’ve experienced in life be happy for it all. The bitter with the sweet moves our life along. No one ever said it was going to be easy, and that’s where expectations should be thrown out. Indeed, tomorrow is promised to no one.

Cherish all that comes your way, and let your heart feel warm and full that you got to be in the game of life this far. How lucky you are.

Clear the Cache of Your Mind

“Know that the only important house to clean is your mind.”
~ Byron Katie

Just like our computers we need to occasionally clear our cache memory of hidden thoughts that can make us unhappy. We all store our thoughts in this cache and it makes it convenient for our egos to grab them fast putting us in worry unhappy mode. Sometimes we’re going about our day just fine when all of a sudden we see or hear something that makes those thoughts pop out seemingly out of nowhere. And sometimes thought gremlins visit us at night when we are supposed to be sleeping. If this happens too often then it’s a sign we need to clear our mind’s cache.

There are many ways to clear your mind. Try expressing your thoughts by writing or drawing. Talk with a trusted friend. Some people love to run, or swim. I like yoga and mindful meditation, and of course, writing. The key is to find what works for you. And the key is to become aware of your feelings before those feelings become aware of you. Letting your cache get clogged up will make you miserable.

The world we live in is an upside down place with many challenges, and that makes it super important that we take good care of ourselves. You, my beautiful humans, are unique. There is no one on earth like you, and when you’re gone no one will ever be able to replace you. Please take good care of your wonderful precious mind and live your life free and happy even if sometimes like me, you are slipping and sliding along your journey.

“The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear.” ~ Prasad Mahes