It’s a busy time of the year and we can find ourselves running wild everywhere. No time to sit and think and even meditate. Tempers can get out of hand, expectations are high on demand, and depression can always find a way in.
Let’s sit down and take a deep breath, concentrating on our breathing. That’s right, make peace with whatever is happening in this very moment. We may not like it, and want to fight it, but let’s not. It’s just our ego wanting conflict–especially at times when there should be joy and peace. By just stopping whatever we’re doing, we give our Spirit the chance to come forward and take over, setting our world right once again.
Sometimes the moments of our lives are wonderful, and then there are those times that are just awful. We want to escape during bad times, but we really can’t, and we make ourselves miserable. The more we struggle the worst we feel.
We can’t change what’s happening in the present moment, but we can always change our attitude toward it. By taking a moment to slow down, or better yet, meditate, we put ourselves in charge and bring balance once again to our lives.
Don’t let the season get out of hand. Slow down, and enjoy the simplicity of just being.
It’s very painful when we experience the death of a loved one, and the grieving process is different for everyone. One thing to remember is that there is no time limit in grieving. Those that might say, “It’s time to put this behind you,” or, “It’s been a year now and youshould be over it…” etc. SHAME ON THEM! There is NO time limit.
When a loved one dies we go through stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and everything in-between. Every stage is different for each of us, and at some point memories of this person will fill your mind. Remember, memories don’t have to be sad or even make you mad. They can be funny, happy memories that make you laugh and fill you with joy.
My co-worker and I told the children going through the bereavement program that it was okay to laugh, and have funny memories. They looked surprised. But as they talked about their loved ones and told little stories—some sweet and some funny, they seemed to relax and accept that memories can be funny and laughter is always good for the soul.
I love remembering the happy and mostly funny memories of those I have lost. I find it comforting. Sure there were plenty of bad and some very sad times, but I only care to remember the good ones. Sometimes I’m surprised about how many hilarious memories I have. Makes me wonder why I ever thought things were so bad.
Nothing lasts forever and that includes the pain you may be in right now. As long as you can remember, then the memories of your loved ones will never fade. They will bring you comfort on a cold night. They will fill your heart with joy and treasured thoughts, and they will make you laugh as well as cry because of the richness they give your life.
We can get embarrassed when we tear up in public, but maybe we shouldn’t. Tears are the way of clearing our bodies of emotion and the stress we carry around. It’s a beautiful way of cleansing and setting our bodies back into balance.
Some people think it’s a sign of weakness, but it’s really a sign of being human and caring. There are tears of joy and tears of pain, but whatever the tears don’t hold them back, let them flow.
It’s true that there are times when you can’t just break down and sob, but you can tear a little bit and maybe sob later. When I’m working with a child in bereavement and he or she starts to cry, it breaks my heart and the tears start to fill my eyes. I can’t just lose it; I have to be there for the child. So I stay in command of my tears by concentrating on helping the child and only letting a few come into my eyes. I also have to get over my embarrassment, but we tell the kids that tears are always okay and maybe seeing tears in my eyes makes that really so.
Feeling joy or pain is part of our journey and so are the tears that accompany all of that. Don’t be afraid; feel what you feel and let yourself connect to the moment and to life itself. We are all just human, so let’s be that. Be a beautiful feeling human.
It’s that time again where the season is telling us to slow down and reflect on the past year. It’s a melancholy time, but can also be sweet and full of joy. Sometimes though reflection gets lost in this busy time of year, and that’s a real shame because taking the time to reflect is important for the soul to grow.
Give yourself the gift of reflection, and don’t forget to enjoy the precious moments you have with your family and friends. Hold your love ones close to your heart, and drink in the beauty that is your life because nothing lasts forever.
I wish all my WordPress friends a wonderful holiday season, and may you always have happiness and peace in your life.
This time of year is joyful for some, but sad for others. Sometimes sadness can bring dark thoughts our way, and depression can find its way in.
You, my friend, are important to me, and I bet to a lot of people. But mostly, you should be important to yourself. I don’t know you so why are you important to me? That’s easy because you are here and alive on this planet that we share, and everything that’s here has a purpose to be; just think about that and you will see.
I know about hard and sad days where you feel so alone. I know how stress can get in the way and muck up our lives. And I also have experienced feeling stupid and useless and wondering if I should care, or maybe just be done with it all. But that’s too easy and I don’t do easy and neither should you.
Sometimes we don’t realize how important we are to others and how much they would suffer if we were not here anymore. Think about all the good and even the bad times you will miss if you decided to be gone. Life is about good times and bad; laughter and sadness do go hand in hand. And you my friend shouldn’t miss even a second of it.
The importance of you and of every single one of us is greater than we will ever know. You matter—we all do, and because of that you will always be important to me. Please be important to you.
“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.”
To get through the ups and downs of your journey through this life you need a survival kit. Martin Luther King, Jr. said: “Our very survival depends on our ability to stay awake, to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant and to face the challenge of change.”This is sound advice for keeping you mindful, but I would like to add these components: Be open to the beauty and grace of nature that is always surrounding you; it’s there even in a busy city. Don’t forget to pack that crazy sense of humor with lots of laughter, and remember to put in a note to never take yourself or life in general too seriously. What about worry? Please leave that thing behind, it just mucks up everything.
It’s always good to remember that you need good listening skills on this journey. It’s just so amazing what you can learn when you close your mouth and open your mind and ears to what other people are saying. Who knows, you just might learn something. Also don’t forget about letting yourself feel great joy and simple happiness; they are both essential ingredients for the long road ahead.
And as you start to wrap up this kit, did you place a note in there with a bit of wisdom as a reminder to always believe in yourself even when others don’t? Do include that you are here for a purpose, and as you’re trying to find what the heck this purpose is all about, know it will always have something to do with showing kindness and love toward every living being.
The truth of the matter is that the road will sometimes be as smooth as glass, but other times extremely bumpy. But take heart, tomorrow will always be better.
Let the Winter Solstice flow through you Healing Wounds gathered all year.
If it’s Peace you need you will find it in the quiet sleep that winter brings.
Are you seeking Happiness? Then meditate and you will soon see that it’s just within and seeking all from you.
There’s no better time to Forgive and finally be free then this time of silence and grace that gives hope.
And of Love, you say? Then let the darkness bring a blanket of warmth to those you’ve been too busy all year to adore.
Dreams will carry you forward and Joy will become your friend as you let the Winter Solstice flow through you making you whole once again.
Whatever your beliefs this time of year, I want to wish you all Happiness and Peace as you move forward into infinity.
“We cannot stop the winter or the summer from coming. We cannot stop the spring or the fall or make them other than they are. They are gifts from the universe that we cannot refuse. But we can choose what we will contribute to life when each arrives.”