Simple and Still

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The holiday season can get out of hand, and instead of being joyful it can become stressful. The best way to combat this is to stop doing so much. Try and keep the gift giving, social engagements, and even baking, simple. Don’t try to keep up with what your friends, family, and co-workers are doing. Don’t feed your expectations. Just keep your life simple.

Give yourself the gift of silence. Get very still and listen. When we are still everything becomes clearer. The universe speaks to us, and in the silence, we can actually hear. Make time for “You” by being still and just breathe in life.

May this holiday season and 2020 bring all of you a happy and balanced life that is fully lived without excuses or regrets.

Mistakes

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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” ~ Author Unknown

Oh, mistakes, we all make them and will continue to do so until the end of time. It’s not really all that important that we make big and small mistakes as we travel along. What is very important though is that we try and learn from them and hopefully not make the same ones again and again. When that happens something is very much out of whack in the whole way we are living and deserves some investigation.

Beating ourselves up won’t make the mistakes any less and only causes horrible stress in our lives, and we certainly have enough stress just by breathing so we shouldn’t be manufacturing it too.

I used to be really hard on myself when I made any kind of mistake and probably lost some future years and brain cells while putting myself through hell. So now I have finally learned to do what needs to be done when I make a mistake, and then let it go blowing in the wind. Very freeing and good for the soul.

I’m happier living this way and I bet you will be too. Go on, live your life, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Always keep learning by trying new things, and simply brush yourself off when you fall on your face. Hey, that’s how you learn to be mindful.

“Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.” ~ Kierkegaard

All You Need is Love

Are you all stressed out?

Just like the Beatles song all any of us really needs is love. The holidays can be a crazy time of the year filled with emotion and consumerism that can drive us all a bit wacky. While I was out shopping the other day I met two women that were talking about how rude people are this time of year. One woman made the mistake at the post office of saying Merry Christmas to the clerk who was in a bad mood and the clerk almost took her head off saying, “It’s Happy Holidays!” The second woman was a checker at the grocery store who looked stressed. I asked how her day was going and she shrugged and said that people come through her line and are busy on their phones texting and don’t even acknowledge her. And there are days when people are so nasty that she leaves her shift having to be alone and de-stress. Is this what we’ve come to?

Take a deep breath and surrender all the stress. Give some time to yourself. Maybe practice yoga and meditation. Instead of taking out your stress on others, learn to connect to people and things around you. When I surrender, good things come my way.

We are all so closed up in our safe cozy houses living in little bubbles. But think if the doors to these houses were blown away, or our houses burned down, there we would be with our neighbors we hardly know standing in a vast of nothingness. We would have to put our differences aside and connect to one another to survive. Sadly, many people this year have lost their homes and loved ones through these kinds of tragedies, and hopefully found love coming from complete strangers and caring neighbors they didn’t even know they had.

It shouldn’t take a catastrophe event to bring humans together. In the digital world we all live in we have to work harder to develop and keep real human connection alive. It doesn’t seem that long ago that our connection to one another is what made us human in the first place.

There are all kinds of love. The love for your children and grandchildren, your spouse, parents, close friends, etc. And there’s the care and affection for the people you work with, a distant friend, the neighbor you share your garden goodies with, and maybe even the checker at the grocery store. Connect with these people and you’ll find that connection will turn into love. When love is present there can’t be anger, hate, or even fear.

“Fear knocked on the door. Love answered, and no one was there.” ~ Author Unknown

All the silly disagreements and getting mad that we sometimes do is just a waste of time. And time is something that is running out for all of us. Simply just loving and accepting one another can conquer so much and make living a joy.

Moods

 

“Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Moods can be good and they can be super bad. We all get into funky bad moods from time to time, but the important thing is to get ourselves out as quickly as possible. Life is stressful at times and we can end up going down a dark rabbit hole if we are not careful. When I saw this quote by Eckhart Tolle I thought, yes, this is what I need to do to get out of a mood that really isn’t me and one I’ve been entertaining for a few days too many.

I know from experience that practicing gratitude, and thinking about all the good that is already in your life does bring about abundance at least in the way you feel about yourself and your life. So does getting in touch with nature. It’s the sweet little things in life that bring us the most joy, but most of the time we are too busy chasing our tails to notice.

Try squishing your toes in the wet sand and feel carefree. The beach always does it for me, but if that’s not possible, go outside when it’s dark and look up at the sky letting the stars fill your eyes. Everything seems so small and petty when you look up at the night sky. Play with water in the ocean, pool, and even in the sink and let it delight you. There is something about water that does it for me. Smell the flowers in the garden and become renewed. And if you can, get into a car with a convertible top, and put that sucker down letting your hair blow wherever as you drive. All of this and so much more can remind you that yes, you are alive, and should be enjoying every second of your life. Well, maybe not every second, but most of your time on this earth.

Don’t let life get you down. Focus, be mindful, and spend more time loving being alive than in a funky bad mood.

Furry Beings

 

When you look into your dog’s or cat’s eyes—actually any animal, there is just something there that can’t be explained, except to say it’s special. It’s as if they are little angels that are here to ground us and maybe even guide us somehow. So why is it that we sometimes take them for granted and even ignore them?

Being too busy and even stressed out makes us not notice all the little things surrounding us. Animals can get underfoot and we trip over them in our hurry to do whatever, and this makes us mad. They need our care and we don’t always want to be bothered, but are we missing the real picture of their purpose?

I think it’s about “Love.” Animals show us unconditional love, and where else can you find that except in human babies and young children. But no matter how old an animal gets it’s always there that unconditional love and acceptance, and you sure can’t always say that about humans. I’ve seen animals give love even when they’ve been starved for food, love, shelter, and about to die.

All the cats and dogs I’ve known in my life have taught me something and given me so much. I learned to slow down and take notice of the beauty all around me. I learned how to read body language and listen to what the eyes are telling me. I realized laughter was necessary, and to play every day. But most of all, I learned about a special kind of love just for animals.

Let’s not get so caught up with stressful days that we forget about the divine animal beings that we share this planet and even our homes with. Delight in who and what they are, and let yourself be guided by the love they want to share.

Self-Care

 

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~ Eleanor Brown

How many of you actually take care of yourselves? Hello there… anybody? Are you constantly running around and bouncing here and there like a ping-pong ball? I know that I once was, but not anymore—at least for the most part. I used to be so crazy busy and stressed out that you could have attached my head to jumper cables and received quite a charge!

All this running around taking care of people and making deadlines etc. didn’t have to be so crazy if I would have believed in the word, “No,” and practiced better self-care. Yoga, meditation, taking a walk, swimming, etc. Whatever calms you down and brings peace to you will work. But not drinking too much wine and stress eating. Yes, I confess, that is how I used to handle stress.

I know it’s hard to think of yourself when you have so much responsibility, but if you don’t take care of yourself then who will? And what’s going to happen to everyone and everything that’s depending on you if you get sick? A stressful life can make you very sick. Self-care isn’t something that’s selfish, or trendy. Self-care is something that is necessary for a balanced life.

When you are living through a nerve-racking time in your life, then that is just when you need to take a step back and think about what’s right for you. You need to be mindful of the choices you’re making and how they are affecting your overall health now and into the future.

It helps if you get yourself in the habit of self-care on a daily basis before you find yourself in a stressful situation. This way, you will know how to handle the horrible way you are feeling and de-stress before you get sick.

Remember, cheating yourself is going to cheat those that love you. Don’t beat yourself up all the time. Take a break and enjoy this life of yours.