I think we get more out of life if we don’t obsess so much on what we want out of our lives. Of course it’s important to set goals and think about what we want to do with our lives etc. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think life owes us that we become very disappointed when life doesn’t work out according to our plan.
When we ask ourselves, “What does life want from me?” We stop living in our heads and become part of the real world where life isn’t always about me, me, me. In living outside of ourselves we become something better than just who we are. We become part of the universe.
To live outside of who and what we are is to live and engage fully. A richer life becomes ours because we are living mindfully and caring about all things around us. This is what gives our life purpose. And this wonderful feeling of purpose is lost if we are always waiting for life to give us what we think we deserve.
There’s a new you waiting, so go ahead and shed your old skin and fly as high as you dare.
Improving ourselves is part of why we’re here, and there’s nothing wrong with changing old ways that don’t suit us anymore. We need to broaden our horizons and not be afraid to discard old stubborn ways of thinking for new, balanced, and maybe even kinder ways of thinking and being.
Even in your job you can make changes for the better. I remember when I worked with people who wouldn’t change the way they did things because that was the way it had always been done, and this was even if it wasn’t working that well anymore. Shedding old ways can improve how we perform our jobs, react to others, and feel about our life in general. Change is all about growing.
Don’t let your mind, family, or even society keep you from growing into the person you were meant to be. Life becomes stagnant if change never happens. It’s exciting to shake things up and live your life a little bit differently. It feels like renewal because it is regeneration. But remember, only you have the power, so go use it!
When you’ve been putting up with a difficult person or persons in your life for a long time there will come a day when you will feel that enough is enough, and that will be the day you will have reached your point of saturation. We all have our limits on how much and for how long we can put up with grueling relationships, but once you reach your end there is no turning back.
Sometimes when you reach this point, it’s burnout from the people you work with, a demanding relative, or your mate. It doesn’t matter who has caused it, but what matters is what you are going to do about it, because staying in any kind of bad relationship is detrimental to your health.
Don’t feel bad if you’ve reached saturation. It’s simply a sign that change is overdue in your life. There are steps you can take to mend and hopefully save the relationship. Communication is always best, but sometimes people are hard to communicate with. This can be especially true if they are a relative, or a lover. You would think it would be easier, but the closer the person is to you, sometimes the harder it is to talk to them.
You could give counseling or mediation a try, but if that doesn’t help, or you don’t even want to try, then it’s time to walk away. Your life is not supposed to be about making yourself miserable so others can be happy. You deserve to live a happy and balanced life, and that doesn’t include letting other people step all over you—no matter who they are in your life.
Be brave enough to love and protect yourself from those that only want to control and hurt you.
In this crazy world we’re living in, sometimes we see and hear disturbing things on the news and all around us. It’s enough to make us lose ourselves and become out of sorts. At times, we feel so irritated that we lash out at one another and become rude or even mean. That’s not us, and that’s not the way to live.
We need to bring back our gentler side when we feel this way. The soft side that makes us warm caring humans. Yes, it’s easy to become tough and non caring when the world is cruel, and the urge to put on the boxing gloves is very tempting, but fight that force.
Let’s try creating a world around us of gentleness, and just maybe the outer world will eventually act in kind.
Take a pause, and then ask yourself: Is my anger in this relationship worth a nuclear bomb?
Once you blow up a relationship it’s impossible to ever put the pieces back together again. I know from experience that even if you can find the pieces they never go back quite the same, and that’s because trust is missing from the pile.
Always take that pause. There’s no hurry you know. Time is on your side, and tomorrow? Well, it’s a new day.