We come into this world prewired and that wiring gets shaped by our family and the outside world. This is all good when our wiring is mostly positive, but when our wiring is pretty much negative… that’s not so good.
The good news is we can rewire our brains by how we choose to think. We are who we are, but if there are things we want to change about ourselves such as being happier, kinder, compassionate, and patient beings we can do that. It all just takes willingness and a lot of practicing in order to make rewiring possible. There are therapists, books, articles etc. out there to help along the way.
A good start is simply learning to be more mindful. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you slip back into your old ways. I do that more than I like to admit. I don’t like it when I slip back, but I remind myself that it’s my default wiring kicking in. Recognizing slipping back shows rewiring is developing and that’s good because you’re getting somewhere, and that’s what it’s all about.
Anything is possible if you really want it.
“Neurons that fire together wire together. You can rewire your brain for higher consciousness by focusing on love.” ~ Deepak Chopra
When we feel content it means we are taking time to enjoy the simple things in life. Sharing an ice cream cone with that special someone, sitting around the fire pit laughing with friends, being at the beach on a hot summer’s day and feeling the salt air invigorating our very soul.
As you age you won’t remember all the crazy days of running around trying to get all the errands done and kids where they need to be. You probably also won’t remember racing the clock for deadlines to please bosses that really didn’t give a damn about you, or pulling your hair out in traffic jams. But what you will remember is the sweet simple things you experienced along the way.
The simple moments of life are what make life worthwhile. All the other stuff is what we do to survive. We are all busy, but the more time we take to relax and enjoy the simple things in life, the more we will feel contentment. And contentment means we’re happy and that must mean we’re doing life right.
“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu
“A difficult time can be more readily endured if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose—a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve.” ~ John Maxwell
When times get tough for us it helps to get through the mess if we have glue that binds us and keeps us from falling apart. It doesn’t matter what kind of glue we use as long as it has holding power. Some types of glue are: religion/spirituality, family, partner/spouse, friends, volunteering, vocation, nature, and of course, pets. Just about anything that gives you something to hold onto and to live for.
You’re in danger when you feel all alone. That’s when you question why you are even here and that no one would miss you if you suddenly died. Yes, life certainly is not always a bed of roses, but with your glue you’ll be secured to Mother Earth and your life will always have meaning.
“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being.” – Albert Schweitzer
When will humankind learn that in order to survive and thrive as a species we must accept one another and learn to get along? There is no other way if we want to live a balanced and fulfilling life; the life we are here to live. Our planet is delicate and so are we. As we destroy ourselves, we obliterate our natural environment.
Looking at history, I fear we have learned nothing from our past mistakes. We continue as a species to wage war on one another and our planet. We are greedy creatures caring more about our status than our ethics. Our behavior can’t go on forever without ending humanity and our planet.
There is always hope that a new generation of humans will one day see the light and start making the changes necessary for humanity and this beautiful planet to flourish. As hatred becomes a thing of the past, new generations of humans will see as they study history that yes, we Homo sapiens did finally learn from our wayward ways. Love has a way of doing that. I can almost feel the anticipation for that day to arrive.
“We are very, very small, but we are profoundly capable of very, very big things.”~ Stephen Hawking
Dealing with baggage can be a real pain. We stuff things in that we don’t know if we’ll really need, and it tends to get heavy. We carry it and drag it all over the place, and we wonder why we packed what we packed. Now that’s real physical baggage. What about emotional baggage? We can sure pack a lot of emotional baggage during our journey, and it’s not just us doing the packing. Like physical bags, emotional baggage can get very difficult to handle.
We start out with our parents packing all kinds of things into a bag for us. Now, our parents don’t mean us any harm. I’m speaking of course about most parents. I realize there are exceptions. Parents in fact usually want the best for us. But they only know what they know and are doing the best they can. That being said, guilt and all kinds of rules of who and what we should be and believe in get stuffed in there. This can cause a lot of confusion in our minds where we sometimes come up short of their expectations and maybe our own. Other family members can also add to our load.
As we travel along this journey we experience many negative situations in the form of friends, lovers, co-workers, and complete strangers. All of these people and the experiences they bring get stuffed in our bags causing us to become overwhelmed. The baggage just becomes too much for us to cart around and we can become sick. We don’t know what to do and start to feel that we are stuck with this baggage forever.
Have you ever thought about just letting go of the baggage? Walking away from it, or imagining pushing it off a cliff? You can do all of these things. Just because a bag was packed for you and grew along the way, doesn’t mean you have to keep it anymore. You just have to let go. It’s that simple. By letting go you stop being a prisoner of your mind. If you let go of all your baggage you start living in the present and you let the past be just that.
I know you can do it. You can be happy and free. You might not realize it, but you and only you have the power to make any change you want to in your life. Once you realize this you can start to really live the life you were meant to live. Come on, use your power and live a full life, and get rid of the baggage that is holding you back.
“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” ~ Lao Tzu
“Start working to fulfill your dreams, otherwise some day someone will put you in work to fulfill their dreams.” Author Unknown
Fulfill your dreams before attempting to fulfill others.’ It’s not being selfish–it’s nurturing self, and will lead you to become a more selfless person. If you let yourself get too caught up in everyone else’s drama, or simply get so involved in helping other people find their way, you will lose and rob yourself of the very reason you are here.
Give yourself time to grow, travel, and experience life before you saddle yourself with too many responsibilities. This advice is especially for the young just starting out in life, and also empty-nesters trying to fulfill dreams put on hold so long ago. It’s never too late.
If you don’t give yourself the gift of fulfilling your dreams, I hope you realize that nobody around you ever will. And if you don’t try you will end up a bitter and angry soul with a life not lived.
Remember, if you are good to yourself you will be a happier and kinder person to all those you care about.