Mistakes

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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” ~ Author Unknown

Oh, mistakes, we all make them and will continue to do so until the end of time. It’s not really all that important that we make big and small mistakes as we travel along. What is very important though is that we try and learn from them and hopefully not make the same ones again and again. When that happens something is very much out of whack in the whole way we are living and deserves some investigation.

Beating ourselves up won’t make the mistakes any less and only causes horrible stress in our lives, and we certainly have enough stress just by breathing so we shouldn’t be manufacturing it too.

I used to be really hard on myself when I made any kind of mistake and probably lost some future years and brain cells while putting myself through hell. So now I have finally learned to do what needs to be done when I make a mistake, and then let it go blowing in the wind. Very freeing and good for the soul.

I’m happier living this way and I bet you will be too. Go on, live your life, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Always keep learning by trying new things, and simply brush yourself off when you fall on your face. Hey, that’s how you learn to be mindful.

“Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.” ~ Kierkegaard

Meet People Where They’re At

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Don’t push your agenda on anyone, or try and change how someone feels. Just listen and be there for the humans in your life. And certainly never have any expectations of how things should be.

Take the time in your busy life to sit down and pay attention without judgment to what a person has to say. You will be surprised how much better your relationships will be if you meet people where they’re at, and always have compassion.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu

Fill Your Life with Fragrance

Take a pause in your busy day and breathe in the fragrance of flowers

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“Which is loveliest in a rose? Its coy beauty when it’s budding, or its splendor when it blows?” ~ George Barlow

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“The flower has opened, has been in the sun and is unafraid. I’m taking more chances; I’m bold and proud.” ~ Paula Cole

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“A bit of fragrance clings to the hand that gives flowers.” ~ Chinese proverb

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“Happiness radiates like the fragrance from a flower and draws all good things towards you.” ~ Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

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“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” ~ Author unknown

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“Be the flower that gives its fragrance to even the hand that crushes it.”
~ Ali ibn Abi Talib

Maybe we should all be like flowers.

Tiny Puzzle Pieces

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Each of us possesses a piece of the puzzle to make humanity work and save our planet. Great and small minds alike have ideas that can work; we just don’t know we have such a thing hidden deep inside us.

Overcrowding, pollution of all kinds, hatred, greed, evil ideologies, etc., we do have the answers to solve. It just takes a strong desire and a pulling together. Maybe that’s our calling and why we are here on Planet Earth.

The only thing we have to fear is the fear inside of us and the fear and mistrust we have for one another. The only way to combat this fear is acceptance. We need to get over our prejudices, superiorities, judgments, and all around memes in our minds.

Find out what your tiny puzzle piece can do to make a difference. Crafting great letters to your representatives, writing articles to inform and educate, volunteering for cleanups, volunteering for anything, asking your neighbors not to use poisons on their lawns and plants, watching out for each other, and just being kind to all beings.

If we don’t come together with a tiny piece of the puzzle and start making changes we might all be doomed. Dig deep and find your power. A little bit here, a little bit there, it all will make a difference.

Let’s all walk gentle upon our Earth and feel the need to protect her and all the beings that live here, including the crazy humans. If we don’t, who will?

“The Earth is just not our environment. We are the Earth and the Earth is us. We have always been one with the Earth.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Apologize

“Apologizing does not always mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.” ~ Author unknown

Saying “I’m sorry,” is so hard to do when we don’t feel we did anything wrong. When we say those words we feel like we’re admitting and taking ownership to hurting someone, or doing something wrong. If that wasn’t our intent, or we don’t believe it’s true then why should we apologize?

I think telling someone you’re sorry even though you had no idea you hurt them is something you do as a kindness and just being a good human. You do it for them; not for you. After all, I don’t think very many of us have a problem when shopping at the grocery store saying I’m sorry when we bump into someone’s basket by mistake, or cut them off. It doesn’t seem to bother us to say it because it’s a courtesy that just flows out of our mouths. So why isn’t it a courtesy when someone lets us know that we upset them?

Every day we deal with other humans and we say things that people take the wrong way and we even hurt feelings. We make decisions at the time that seem right but sometimes end up wrong. Our mouths say things before our brains have a chance to digest words and actions. It’s all part of the human condition, but so is being considerate of our fellow humans.

When you apologize to someone in the case of not intentionally trying to cause them emotional pain, you are not admitting guilt. You are being a human connecting to another human and sending love. When you do apologize make sure it comes from the heart. Really feel that empathy for another being.

Maybe if more of us could be selfless and learn to connect the world would be a happier place.

“Apologies are the art of spiritual housekeeping. They help to put and keep our lives in order.” ~ Julia Cameron

Rewire Yourself

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We come into this world prewired and that wiring gets shaped by our family and the outside world. This is all good when our wiring is mostly positive, but when our wiring is pretty much negative… that’s not so good.

The good news is we can rewire our brains by how we choose to think. We are who we are, but if there are things we want to change about ourselves such as being happier, kinder, compassionate, and patient beings we can do that. It all just takes willingness and a lot of practicing in order to make rewiring possible. There are therapists, books, articles etc. out there to help along the way.

A good start is simply learning to be more mindful. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you slip back into your old ways. I do that more than I like to admit. I don’t like it when I slip back, but I remind myself that it’s my default wiring kicking in. Recognizing slipping back shows rewiring is developing and that’s good because you’re getting somewhere, and that’s what it’s all about.

Anything is possible if you really want it.

“Neurons that fire together wire together. You can rewire your brain for higher consciousness by focusing on love.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Contentment

 

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When we feel content it means we are taking time to enjoy the simple things in life. Sharing an ice cream cone with that special someone, sitting around the fire pit laughing with friends, being at the beach on a hot summer’s day and feeling the salt air invigorating our very soul.

As you age you won’t remember all the crazy days of running around trying to get all the errands done and kids where they need to be. You probably also won’t remember racing the clock for deadlines to please bosses that really didn’t give a damn about you, or pulling your hair out in traffic jams. But what you will remember is the sweet simple things you experienced along the way.

The simple moments of life are what make life worthwhile. All the other stuff is what we do to survive. We are all busy, but the more time we take to relax and enjoy the simple things in life, the more we will feel contentment. And contentment means we’re happy and that must mean we’re doing life right.

“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu