Filling Dreams

“Start working to fulfill your dreams, otherwise some day someone will put you in work to fulfill their dreams.”   Author Unknown

Fulfill your dreams before attempting to fulfill others.’ It’s not being selfish–it’s nurturing self, and will lead you to become a more selfless person.  If you let yourself get too caught up in everyone else’s drama, or simply get so involved in helping other people find their way, you will lose and rob yourself of the very reason you are here.

Give yourself time to grow, travel, and experience life before you saddle yourself with too many responsibilities. This advice is especially for the young just starting out in life, and also empty-nesters trying to fulfill dreams put on hold so long ago. It’s never too late.

“No matter what has happened in your past, you have not missed your destiny. No person or negative event can stop you from fulfilling your purpose, but it’s up to you to keep going.”  Author Unknown

If you don’t give yourself the gift of fulfilling your dreams, I hope you realize that nobody around you ever will. And if you don’t try you will end up a bitter and angry soul with a life not lived.

Remember, if you are good to yourself you will be a happier and kinder person to all those you care about.

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

 

 

Too Centered

Our lives are very busy—especially if we are working, raising children, and caring for our own parents. We get centered on things that we feel are important like education, making money, getting ahead in our jobs, simply surviving. And sometimes we forget to tell the ones we love that we “Love Them.” Maybe it’s that we don’t think we need to remind them. After all, we told them that a long time ago, didn’t we? They should just know.

But do they know? Maybe not. We can’t just assume. If we are so caught up in making it through each and everyday we just might miss the human component of our lives. It’s that part of our lives where even if the person we love is at times driving us crazy, or we are just feeling tired, worried, fed-up and even mad, we are still able to show how much we love them.

With our aging parents we can become exhausted from all the running around of errands we do for them, and tired of hearing the same old stories over and over again, but they still need to hear that we love them. And all the wild things our kids do that upset us, they too need to hear those tender important words of love. It’s not only when our kids are young that they need to hear it, but also when they are adults and struggling with their own grownup lives.

Sometimes we can just get too centered on what we feel is important and probably is, but we must not forget about the human side that speaks of only love. That human side is what your kids will remember about you and treasure, and it’s what will make your parents feel warm and safe in your care. Without that reminder of love, life can be bitter cold.

Be mindful and free with saying “I Love You.”

Don’t Shovel it Back

When people throw their negative energy your way, it’s natural to want to shovel it right back in their face, but don’t. Step back if you have to and learn to be silent instead.

Saying nothing doesn’t mean that you have let these negative leeches have their way, oh no, quite the opposite I would say. People who love to put their negative energy right out there for all to see, and especially want to hook on to you, are so locked up in their own head that anything you say will only make the situation much worse. These people have made a career out of being miserable and want you to be just as miserable. That’s why being silent or even walking away is best.

No one really sees how they are acting and that goes double for the negative vampires. Try your best to stay away from them, and certainly don’t invite them to be your friend. But if staying away is impossible because they are at work, your neighbor, or even in your family, just take a deep breath and mentally go far away to even a different land if you can!

You can’t do anything about the negativity in others, but you can in yourself. Be grateful for who you are and what you have, and always look on the bright side of things. You feel good when you surround yourself with positive energy and life becomes so sweet. If nourished, positive energy will always win, and you can walk right by those negative souls and not feel a thing.

“People Inspire you, or they drain you–pick them wisely.”
~ Hans F. Hansen

Your Life Is in Your Hands

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

Take a stand today and realize that your life is simply and completely in your own hands. If you have been suffering over some situation in your life then you, and only you, have made that decision–the decision to suffer.

Suffering should not be part of your life’s journey because it’s negative energy and will get you nowhere. Walk away and leave the suffering behind and find the path that will lead you to your purpose. There is no magic in this and no one can do this for you. You were born with free will and only you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life.

Your life is in your hands, but the real question is, how will you handle this precious, fragile, life that you hold? Will you give it the chance to find its purpose, or will you weight it down and hold it hostage?

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
~ Coco Chanel

Don’t Open That Door

Don’t open that door it’s anger trying to push its way through with ego providing the fuel. Don’t open that door you have nothing to be angry for. What possible event could you let those two come in to your humble home and start-up a war? Whatever you might think it’s not worth opening up that damn door!

Anger has no place in your beautiful life. It will wipe out any balance you have now for your existence. Each day things happen to us and sometimes they are not good, but that’s just life. There is no earthly reason to let anger take hold of you. Once you let anger in it will do more than make you mad, or even a bit sad. It will distort, destroy and make you sick.

So even though something happened to upset you and you have a right to feel angry, DON’T! Because having a right doesn’t make it right. See if you can just let it blow away in the wind. If not, then calm down first, and then confront what’s making you angry, or the person that’s behind your anger event.

Don’t open that door, until you check the peep-hole first. And if it’s anger and ego hand in hand waiting for their chance to expand, make sure the bolts are all locked good and tight, and then, have yourself a glass of wine and a good night.

Passion

“All you need is passion. If you have a passion for something, you’ll create the talent.” ~ Yanni

When you find your passion you will find your life, and when you find your life, you will begin to live. I believe everyone is born into this world with a gift and that gift is called “passion.”

The problem is sometimes you don’t know what your passion is, or if you do know, you don’t have a clue on how to live it. Try different hats on and see which one inspires you, and the one that you get lost in is your passion. But just because you have a passion for something doesn’t mean it will come easy. Education and hard work to develop your passion is always necessary. So if you know what your passion is, get to work!

Don’t ever let anyone destroy your passion, and that includes you. If what you’re trying to achieve is truly your passion then it’s meant to be and your job is to create an environment for passion to develop. Don’t let yourself get discouraged; keep on the road driving straight toward your passion and ignore the bumps and fierce winds along the way.

A life with no passion for what you are doing is a sad life indeed. Having passion is your vocation that gets you up in the morning with a smile on your face, and tucks you peacefully in at night. Don’t pull the covers over your head in the morning and hide. And don’t lie awake at night wondering how you missed your life.

Open the gift you’ve been given, and as Tony Robbins says:

“Live With Passion!”

Failure

You have no failures, just learning experiences. Failure is a word that shouldn’t be used in your day-to-day life’s journey when something you tried didn’t work out. You don’t fail, you learn, or at least you should. In learning, there is always a risk of something not working out, but the risk is always worth taking. I love this quote from Marianne Williamson:

“Many of your greatest successes you thought were failures, and many of your greatest failures you thought were successes.”

When something you tried doesn’t work out, don’t feel bad about it. Instead, think about what you learned from your experience.  Life is all about learning what works and what doesn’t. There are tests all along the way to see if you are ready to achieve what you are here to do, because everyone has a purpose and a reason for being.

Many of the things you might think of as a failure are indeed  successes. A bad first marriage can result in finding the right soul mate. Struggling with parenthood with the first child can make you a wonderful parent in the long run as you search the books and your mind to be better. A business that you view as a total failure can make you a terrific business person in the future.

Don’t ever let yourself feel like a failure. So many people do this to themselves and it’s an injustice to your beautiful Spirit. You can become immobilized with fear causing you to not want to try again because you think you will just fail. This is the work of your ego running amok.

I’ve had numerous so-called failures in my life, but now I think of them as wonderful treasures that have taught me so much. Sure, It would have been great to have had only a few, or none at all, but that’s not how life works and I accept that.

Don’t dwell on what didn’t work, or what went wrong. Just pick yourself up and learn from it. Life is so much better when you feel good about yourself.

“The only real failure in life is the failure to try.” Anonymous

Touch

Touch is:

A hug from your child or grandchild that lets you know you are loved.

That special warmth you feel as you snuggle with your pet.

The soft lip kisses that beg for more.

The comfort you give and receive from a dying love one as you take their hand in yours.

A good massage that relieves pain.

Two lovers joined in a caress that melts them as one.

Feelings of reassurance you did a good job when a teacher places their hand on your shoulder.

Holding your baby and cuddling together knowing this is what heaven is all about.

Sweet kisses on the cheek that say, “I love you.”

A warm and understanding pat from a friend.

Deep oneness as you hold hands with your soul mate.

When two beings join together and become one even for just a second, that is the magical power of touch. Without the gentle touch of another we might never survive in this world, so reach out and touch someone you care about.

Spirit

Close your eyes and feel your Spirit; it is calm and unassuming.

Ego is anything but calm, and can be arrogant.

Spirit speaks softly to you, and always respects your free will.

Ego respects nothing and fills your body with poison.

Spirit is the little voice that whispers, “You can do this.”

Ego yells, “Don’t even try; you know you will fail.”

Spirit sits back and waits for your call to help.

Ego is so dominant that we just let it take over, but it never helps us.

Spirit is your Higher Self and wants you to become one with it, but ego works hard to edge it out and wins too often.

Negative feelings are ego speaking loudly to you.

Positive feelings are always Spirit gently guiding you.

Close your eyes and feel your Spirit; flow as one because it’s who you really are.

Time

“Life is a time test.” ~ Al Anderson

You only have so much time to get it right, so don’t waste it.

Value your time with friends and especially your family.

Don’t waste your time in petty arguments; no one ever wins.

Stress is the great robber of time, don’t let it rob yours.

Time has to be managed; control it before it controls you.

Just like a river, time keeps moving along and you can never get back to where you were.

Ask yourself if the time you are spending on your career is worth the final cost to you and your loved ones.

You can never get back those precious moments you let slip by with your children. They are only yours for a short time.

If we let it, life can take its toll on us, and the result is usually time lost that will never return.

We don’t know how long we or the people we care most about are going to be here, so shouldn’t we be spending most of our time building memories and sharing our love all around?

I urge everyone to spend a little time everyday appreciating their life and the life they share with family and friends. Don’t waste your time worrying, being depressed, angry, overly caught up in building your career, or your job. These things can steal time and leave you with nothing real.

Enjoy the moments of your life; don’t wait until they are gone to realize how precious they were.