You Did Your Best

It’s over now and it’s time to go. You put your best foot forward. You stood up tall for your beliefs and fought the battle strong and fierce. You did your best my friend, but now it’s time to go.

Life is your new gig now—I mean, getting back in and actually living one and not just cruising around. Times are a changing and it’s getting pretty rough out there, but maybe you can make a difference here and there just by caring.

That word, “Caring” isn’t used and shown much anymore. It just doesn’t show up always in the humans of this planet. But hey, don’t you think we can change all that if we get back to living life again? I sure want to think so.

You did your best, so let today go, and concentrate on the new day fast approaching. You know, maybe just maybe, we can all make the new day finally glow.

Then and Now

Are you doing it again? You know, that thing where you kick yourself for all the horrible mistakes you made in the past. The operative word here is PAST. You realize that you can’t do a thing about all that stuff that happened in the good old past, right? I hope so. But I had a conversation with a friend that has decided to take a trip back there and try to relive decisions she made and figure out all the whys of her decisions. Friends, that just doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because the who you were in the past is not the who you are now.

“Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.”
~ Unknown

Sometimes in life doing your best becomes your absolute worst. Why? Because you can only give what you have and sometimes you’re just out of stock. During these times your best is your worst. But don’t be so hard on yourself because you did do your best. As a person grows and matures the decisions they made in the past probably are not the decisions they would make today.

So, you out there, stop doing this to yourself. Look back at your past and the bad decisions and realize it was you then and not now. View the past as a learning experience — and that goes for the past mistake you just made a few minutes ago. It got your attention and you have learned your lesson. Come on, move on down that highway and forgive yourself.

Hey, this is you now, and you are giving it your very best.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes for getting through this life:

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu

Survival Kit

To get through the ups and downs of your journey through this life you need a survival kit. Martin Luther King, Jr. said: “Our very survival depends on our ability to stay awake, to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant and to face the challenge of change.” This is sound advice for keeping you mindful, but I would like to add these components: Be open to the beauty and grace of nature that is always surrounding you; it’s there even in a busy city. Don’t forget to pack that crazy sense of humor with lots of laughter, and remember to put in a note to never take yourself or life in general too seriously. What about worry? Please leave that thing behind, it just mucks up everything.

It’s always good to remember that you need good listening skills on this journey. It’s just so amazing what you can learn when you close your mouth and open your mind and ears to what other people are saying. Who knows, you just might learn something. Also don’t forget about letting yourself feel great joy and simple happiness; they are both essential ingredients for the long road ahead.

And as you start to wrap up this kit, did you place a note in there with a bit of wisdom as a reminder to always believe in yourself even when others don’t? Do include that you are here for a purpose, and as you’re trying to find what the heck this purpose is all about, know it will always have something to do with showing kindness and love toward every living being.

The truth of the matter is that the road will sometimes be as smooth as glass, but other times extremely bumpy. But take heart, tomorrow will always be better.

Your Recipe for Loving

You can find recipes for making great dishes in magazines, books, online etc., but have you ever thought of a recipe for loving? How do you love yourself and the important people in your life? Sometimes I think there really needs to be some kind of guideline for how to love.

Maybe the recipe would go like this:

It’s never easy to love yourself because all kinds of faults are always popping up. But if you can’t love yourself then how in the world will you ever truly be able to love anyone else? You’d probably just keep finding faults with others too. So I guess the directions here would be to stop criticizing and accept yourself for the special being that you are. No one is perfect.

It’s easy to have that mad passionate love for someone, but what happens after you have been together for a long time and passion takes a back seat–does love go away? No, the formula just changes and love becomes deeper and means so much more. You start to know each other in new and wonderful ways. And in changing and growing, passion can make a return, and become better than ever.

Babies and young children are so easy to love, and they love and need you too. You love them to the extent that you would walk over burning coals to save them. But when children grow up and don’t want you around all that much, or even decide they don’t like you, how do you handle the love you still have for them? This is a hard one for all parents of grown children. You just have to realize that your job is done and it’s time to move on. Allow your child to change their love recipe so they can go off and build their new life. Give them lots of space and maybe they won’t forget where they came from, but at the same time, rebuild your own life, and learn to love them in a different way too.

The capacity to love stretches from humans to animals and the love for nature. The thing about a recipe for loving is to never stop. When you realize that it’s what you put in the recipe that deepens the flavor you will always find it easy to love.

Moving On

Go on and just let go. Sweep out all those old resentments, disappointments, sadness, hurts of all kinds, and confusions galore. White knuckle flyer why are you holding on to all of them so tight? You know what? It’s simply a bore!

Even though it seems like you do, you really don’t have an infinite amount of time to live on this planet, so why spend it all bound up with negativity leaking in from every door? Remember, you have the power to change the direction you are heading for.

Moving on and letting go can be hard because you know all too well the misery you have been living with, and you don’t really know what’s behind that other door. Be brave and go for it. Close the door to what you know and take a chance on something so much more. You’ll be happy that you did because this will be the beginning of living your life with joy right up to the end.

Life is so good when you jump right in!

Is There Really a Problem?

We humans have a terrible habit and need to generate problems. We do encounter real problems on our life’s journey and we have to figure out how to deal with them, but how do you deal with a problem that we or someone created that was never there in the first place?

I bet a lot of the problems we come across aren’t really problems at all; they are simply an obstacle that either we, or another person decided to place in the way. And that’s so sad because it just litters the highway we are traveling on, and takes time away from the real issues in life–not to mention robbing us of joy.

So how can you tell the difference between a real problem and a fake one? A real problem has substance. You can see, feel, smell and taste it, and in doing this, you can deal with it and finally fix it. If it’s one that was created, it has no substance and the only power it has is what you give it.

Do you really have a problem, or are you just unhappy about something and letting your imagination run wild and making one up? Maybe you’re minding your own business and a family member or co-worker decides to design a problem just for you. What do you do? Nothing. Pull yourself away from yourself, or the other person and don’t play the game. Because that’s all it is, “a game.”

The ego is the designer of the game and the name of the game is “Problems.” If you don’t play then there is no game, and if there’s no game, there really isn’t a problem.

Life can be happy and even joyful if we stop making problems for ourselves and others. There is so much good we can do, and so much fun we can have. Don’t waste your time on pretend problems.

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem.” ~ Captain Jack Sparrow

Going Off the Rails

Do you sometimes overreact in situations and basically find yourself going off the rails? Then it’s time to step back and figure out what is really going on in your world that is making you too sensitive to the life you are leading.

It’s easy to get ourselves into the habit of overreacting. It’s part of this racing around modern world that we are now living in. We don’t take a moment to think things through before our mouths open up and we blurt something out in response to a situation that either needs some time to think on, or no response at all. I think this is also a problem of us not connecting with each other anymore. We don’t connect, we just react.

But if you find this going off the rails happening in your world too much then there’s a deeper reason why and it’s time to step back, take a deep breath, and be honest with yourself. Maybe you are just unhappy with portions of your life, or maybe it’s your whole life that’s not working out for you. If any of this is true, then it’s time to make some changes.

Change is never easy, but it is always better than living a life that’s not working well for you. First thing to do is clear your head and stop listening to your ego. Listen to your gut–that sweet quiet Spirit that is you. What do you really want to do with your life? Don’t be afraid; fear is your enemy and will always put the brakes on what you should be doing.

A very apprehensive little girl going into the 4th grade was wondering if this school year was going to be a good one for her. She was concerned about what kind of teacher she would have, how hard the work would be, and the other kids. I told her it was up to her what kind of year she would have. I explained she had the power over herself and no one or anything else. If she wanted a good year then she had to make it so.

You too have the power to change what’s not working in your life. Don’t go off the rails and just be a reactor, take control and design the life you want. By doing this, you will find that you will be a calmer and overall happier little human. And while you at it, throw that fear out the window–it’s such a bother.

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” ~ Milton Berle