Hate

“It feels better to love than to hate” ~ Stevie Wonder

It’s interesting how when you say the word “hate” how it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. It’s such a strong in your face kind of word that you can actually feel pain when you say it, or it is said to you.

Hate and anger are best buddies. You can’t have one without the other, and they both seem to populate too often. Everywhere you look some human hates another human. And some of these haters even hate creatures that aren’t human. How can we ever hope to share and live in harmony on this planet if there is so much hatred?

When people hate they have fear inside. They fear what they don’t understand. And when they’re too lazy, or choose to be ignorant and don’t seek knowledge, they hate instead. I always thought as humans became part of the global society they would learn acceptance, but that doesn’t seem to always be true.

What’s happening to love? Is it becoming extinct like the polar bears? Maybe it never actually existed in the first place. Love might be some myth told to us when we were children to keep us feeling safe from a scary world.

Have you ever thought what would happen if everyone stopped all the hatred and started to love instead? Look at all the good we could accomplish on this planet if we put all that positive energy to work. Hate, being negative energy, is just plain wasteful.

Notice when you say the word “LOVE,” how smooth and sweet it sounds. I wish that I heard it more often.

“Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” ~ Buddha

Don’t Shovel it Back

When people throw their negative energy your way, it’s natural to want to shovel it right back in their face, but don’t. Step back if you have to and learn to be silent instead.

Saying nothing doesn’t mean that you have let these negative leeches have their way, oh no, quite the opposite I would say. People who love to put their negative energy right out there for all to see, and especially want to hook on to you, are so locked up in their own head that anything you say will only make the situation much worse. These people have made a career out of being miserable and want you to be just as miserable. That’s why being silent or even walking away is best.

No one really sees how they are acting and that goes double for the negative vampires. Try your best to stay away from them, and certainly don’t invite them to be your friend. But if staying away is impossible because they are at work, your neighbor, or even in your family, just take a deep breath and mentally go far away to even a different land if you can!

You can’t do anything about the negativity in others, but you can in yourself. Be grateful for who you are and what you have, and always look on the bright side of things. You feel good when you surround yourself with positive energy and life becomes so sweet. If nourished, positive energy will always win, and you can walk right by those negative souls and not feel a thing.

“People Inspire you, or they drain you–pick them wisely.”
~ Hans F. Hansen

Your Life Is in Your Hands

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

Take a stand today and realize that your life is simply and completely in your own hands. If you have been suffering over some situation in your life then you, and only you, have made that decision–the decision to suffer.

Suffering should not be part of your life’s journey because it’s negative energy and will get you nowhere. Walk away and leave the suffering behind and find the path that will lead you to your purpose. There is no magic in this and no one can do this for you. You were born with free will and only you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life.

Your life is in your hands, but the real question is, how will you handle this precious, fragile, life that you hold? Will you give it the chance to find its purpose, or will you weight it down and hold it hostage?

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
~ Coco Chanel

Calm Assertiveness

Always be calm and assertive when dealing with people. When you find yourself in a situation with a person who is stressed out or even angry don’t feed into their drama with your own anger. Words spoken in anger can never be erased. Learn to be the calm in the storm and be assertive–never aggressive in handling any charged situation. Your calmness will change the negative energy into a more positive one. But if the situation is very charged with angry energy then just walk away. Stay present in thought.

Every day you are put into situations where anger can arise, and knowing how to contain, not make it worse, and even stop it altogether is very important. Simple family disagreements can explode into pieces that can never be put back together. Anger on the road can become violent. Tensions at work can get way out of hand and make you want to quit your job. Breathe deeply.

Being mindful of what you say and how you act can also be key to some of the anger you encounter. Always treat people with respect and love, and learn to be firm and kind at the same time. Take control lovingly.

Be the guiding light of calm because life flows so much better when we are peaceful little beings.

“Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment.”

 ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Make Way for the New

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes things happen in your life where you realize it’s time to make a change in how you’re living. Sometimes life sends you lemons and the only thing you can do is make the best lemonade or pie ever! When you experience negative energies coming into your life trying to disrupt all you believe in, it’s really the universe trying to tell you it’s high time for you to create space for something wonderful to emerge. Whatever you do, don’t fight it!

Realize that from time to time in order to keep yourself vibrant you are going to have to do some spring cleaning. It’s hard to throw out the old to make room for the new, but it’s the only way to keep moving on. Relationships can get stale, predictable, and lose their luster if you don’t make room for something new. This is so true no matter what kind of relationship you are dealing with–even the one you have with your job.

Life’s no good if you have settled in for the mundane. It’s also not good if you’re living your life by someone else’s rules. Through your journey you will encounter people who won’t agree with how you’re living your life, or the decisions you make. They will try to take control over you and mold you into who they want you to be. When this happens, it’s a clear sign that it’s time for you to make some changes in order to create more space so you can live your life on your own terms.

This life you’ve been given is precious, but sometimes it needs a bit of tweaking to keep it healthy and full of joy. Don’t ever be afraid of change when needed to bring in the new because it’s the NEW that makes life worth living.

IS

Accept the “Is” of your life because sometimes you just can’t be in charge of what is happening around you, or even in your life. Don’t think for a second that this means your life is out of control because it’s quite the contrary, friends. When you accept the is of your life you put yourself in the driver’s seat taking control of the things you can actually change, and not putting wasted energy into the things you cannot change. This is very freeing and limits the anxieties that pop into your life.

The seas in life are very turbulent at times and can leave you with overwhelming decisions and feelings. On a piece of paper arrange two columns. Mark one column “No Control,” and the other one, “Control.” In the “no” control column put all the things you can’t do a damn thing about. In the “control” column do the opposite. Now stand back and really look at the things in your life that you have control over, and realize that the things in the “No Control” column are not really that important.

Accepting the is in your life will free you from so much negativity and leave more room for positivity. It’s the positive energy that you want flowing around you–it’s the one that will give you a happy fulfilled life; it’s the one that feels so good. That negative energy will make your days on earth miserable and cut your life short.

Ego just loves to make you feel negative about everything and will keep you on high alert and very stressed. When this happens to you, just yell out, “Is, Is, Is!” See, feel, taste and hear all the things that just are out of your control, then let them go. Now, take a deep breath and then exhale, blowing all the toxic negativity out of your body.

You are so liberated when you allow yourself not to be loaded down with the things in your life that you can’t do anything about. Simply accepting the “Is” of your life will bring peace, joy, and your life will flow gracefully forward.

Are You Feeling Your Life?

“Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.” ~ Bob Marley

 Are you comfortable in your own skin and really living your life to the end, or are you just gliding through each day not really sure of anything? We all know life can be short, and we should live it to the max, but few of us do. There is always something getting in the way–money, family, jobs, obligations galore. There’s always something keeping you stuck in the mud, isn’t there? But you promise yourself, one day you will begin living.

There’s a life force running through you begging to be free, but if you’re constantly in a hurry, or too stressed out, you will miss it as it streams. If you’ve decided hell, I don’t want to feel the pain, and have numbed yourself with pills, booze, or other silly things, you’ll sleep right through your life as it zooms by like a train. So get up! Dance, or sing, and feel all the zings. life is meant to be felt–yes even the pain.

I know it’s hard and there are times you don’t even want to get out of bed. But I promise, there will be gentler days ahead. Tough times are here to grow you into the wonderful person you are meant to be. But pal, you will never grow ahead, if you don’t just surrender to it all and be free. Feel the bad and good, and never ever, be afraid to fail.

There’s such joy in the little things, and in each breath you take that keeps you alive. Slow down and feel it all delighting in the fact that you are here at all. Go outside and close your eyes letting your senses take you for a ride. Sit in the park and hear the birds and see all the living beings. Have you noticed how their life force just sets them free?

Life is here but it moves very fast, and doesn’t wait for anything. You can’t slow it down, or put it aside for when you have more time. You just need to jump in accepting what is and  enjoying your fate to the end.

Come on, feel your life ‘cause this one won’t last for long, and I don’t know if you’ll ever have another one.

Are You Stuck?

“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what
matters most.” ~ Buddha

Are you stuck in a job or relationship and afraid to make a change? It’s easy to think that things will just get better and work out if you just hang in there. But sometimes they don’t and you know in your gut that they never will, but you just can’t seem to make a change in your life. What is causing this is fear of the unknown. You know the misery you are living in, but you don’t know what’s out there in that big bad world that might be worse.

I like what the famous fashion designer, Diane Von Furstenberg’s mother taught her, “Fear is not an option.” This quote came from a woman who was a concentration camp survivor. Wow! That’s all I can say. Someone who went through that probably never felt fear in her life again and passed that knowledge on to her daughter. What a wonderful thing to teach a child, but before you can do that, you have to believe it yourself.

It can be hard to get unstuck, but if you value yourself it’s something you must do. Putting up with a horrible relationship might keep you in the house you love, but it will never be a home. A home is filled with warmth and love. Putting up with a job you hate will pay the bills and maybe grow your savings, but it will never grow your soul–in fact, it will beat it down.

Believe in yourself and love yourself more than the bad relationship or job, and so much more than the fear that holds you down. Change is never easy, but nothing worthwhile in life ever is. Taking the steps to free yourself from the self-imposed chains that you’ve become accustomed to will open up a world that you never thought was possible. It will be a world where you can soar as high as you like and where fear will never be an option.

“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”  

~Eckhart Tolle

Synchronicity

Is synchronicity the meaningful coincidences that occur in our lives as the Swiss psychologist and psychiatrist Carl Jung said, or is it something much more? We’ve all had experiences where we think about someone we haven’t seen in a long time and then the phone rings and it’s them. Or we bump into them at the mall. Or the weather is bad and we really don’t want to be on the road to attend an event, but we also don’t want to let anyone down, and suddenly the event is cancelled. Is all of this just a coincidence? I don’t think so.

I believe we are capable of manifesting what we want into our lives simply by putting positive energy into place. We actually can create the life we want to live. Those little coincidences that show up in our lives are actually synchronicities where positive energy is causing manifestation to occur. When that energy is put with Spirit our lives work in balance and all good things happen to us.

I’m not talking about putting attention on things like winning the lottery–unless it’s for the greater good. I’m talking about thinking about things that grow our souls and guide us more into Spirit, and help us to become the who we are meant to be. And in order to do this we must come from a place of love. Being caring and loving is positive energy and helps not only us but all those we care about.

As you become more mindful of how you are thinking, you will notice how things seem to occur in your life just by thinking about them. You will begin to realize that negative thoughts bring negative things into your life, and how positive thoughts bring you wonderful surprises. You will begin to realize that your energies actually attract things to you and not always welcomed things, so be careful of your thoughts.

Our planet may be a small dot in the universe, but we humans have much more power over our lives than we realize. With this power comes responsibility, so use it wisely and grow.

Redirect

“Be like melting snow–wash yourself of yourself.” ~ Rumi

Your negative feelings have nowhere to go. The negative feelings that you have are actually negative energy. This energy sits inside of you churning and festering until it finally erupts making you sick. Once this happens, it can be a long twisty road back to your life.

You can tell yourself to be happy, cheer up, get over it. But if you are going through a tough time, or you chronically suffer from negative feelings, maybe even leading to depression, you need something more. You need to redirect those negative feelings somewhere far away from you.

Negative energy is still energy and if it’s directed away from you and into something else you will be free of it. Once the energy is directed into something else, it no longer is negative, it’s just energy. And in this new place where it’s no longer negative it can become anything you want it to become.

But how do you redirect your negative feelings? You put them into something such as a creative endeavor. “Oh no!” you say you’re not creative? No worries. You could volunteer and help in schools, library, hospice. “Nope,” that’s not for you either? How about nature? A walk near a river, or on the beach, or around your neighborhood is a great place to dump the energy.  What about directing it into love and seeing it burst into positive energy? Loving another being can do wonders.

Try to visualize a big red stop sign, and it’s telling you to just stop letting your ego make you sick by hoarding all that negative energy. Now, visualize bending your head down and all the negative energy pouring out and disappearing. Poof! It’s gone, and now you have a fresh start to only let the positive energy come in.

Don’t ever let your feelings turn into negative energy. If your ego ushers it in, kick it in the butt and redirect it. You know that you have better things to do with your life.

“Just can’t live that negative way … make way for the positive day!” ~ Bob Marley