Be the Peace in Your World

With so much aggression and turmoil in this world, try and practice peace everyday in your world.  If you can’t smooth that frown away and replace it with a smile, at least try and keep your anger down the best you can. Hard to do when you are not having a good day and feeling upset, but so important.

We can’t control what happens in the world, but we can control how it affects us, and not be adding more hostility loose in this world. Also, if we get depressed or angry we have allowed that turmoil and the aggression going on to enter what should be our peaceful kingdom. Pema Chodron says we should ask ourselves, “Am I going to practice peace, or am I going to war?”  If we don’t practice that peace we will be going to war with someone, maybe even ourselves.

Try always to stay present. Look for the beauty and goodness in nature, in things, and the people all around. We don’t have to agree on everything, but we should be accepting of our differences. Diversity is a good thing, and should not be something to fear. We add our aggression into the overflowing angry world by not being peaceful in ours. We all control what we put out. 

Richard Carlson wrote a book called, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and It’s All Small Stuff. I have found this to be so true. In the past, most of the things I got angry about were just silly stuff that if given a few hours or a day I would have figured it out instead of acting out.

Remember, each peaceful thought that all of us can have will bring balance to our currently unbalanced world.  

Awareness

“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes in our very busy lives we move through each day unaware of our true feelings and how we affect the people around us. We humans get so busy with tasks to accomplish and simply find ourselves in a kind of survival mode. We become lost and don’t even realize it.

When we are so unaware and lost we hurt ourselves and those we love, and sometimes don’t know we’re doing it. Becoming aware of who we are and how we are influencing everyone around us is mindfulness, and a practice we must do every day.

“Self-awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering hard questions.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

Being honest with ourselves is crucial to the why we do what we do. The hard questions of how we truly feel inside about ourselves. If we are beaten down, feel inadequate, deeply hurt, resentful, how can we function for ourselves or those we love? And it’s more than just functioning, it’s how can we live our best life?

The awareness of ourselves and the acceptance of our reality is the beginning of our changing any bad behavior that’s keeping us from living our life fully and placing those we love in the warmth of our embrace.

Becoming aware of who we are and what we are doing puts us in a dance with our life that is not only beautiful, but full of balance and flow.

The Sweet Spot

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“The place between your comfort zone and your dream is where life takes place.” ~ Helen Keller

Life can sometimes become so hectic even crazy that we can begin to feel we’re not really living, just existing like shadows of our former selves. When this happens we need to start living between the spaces of our life.

There is a space between the situation that is happening, or one we fear is going to happen, and how we are reacting to it. That space between the two is the stillness and the balance where we should be living. It’s the place to be when life gets out of control and we start stressing.

“When you let go, you create space for better things to enter into your life.” ~ Steve Maraboli

When we’re not trying to live in that chaotic zone of our life, we are better able to move forward and have the life we really want. We become more creative, joyful, and feel gratitude for life.

When feeling stressed try closing your eyes. Now take a deep breath through your nose and exhale softly through your mouth. Visualize the problem. See your negative reaction to the problem. Imagine a large space between the two. See yourself going into that space and feel the calm and balance washing over you. This is your sweet spot where your life is meant to be lived.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response, lies our growth and our freedom.”

~ Viktor Frankl, Auschwitz survivor

Find that power and start living a more balanced and happy life.

Simple and Still

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The holiday season can get out of hand, and instead of being joyful it can become stressful. The best way to combat this is to stop doing so much. Try and keep the gift giving, social engagements, and even baking, simple. Don’t try to keep up with what your friends, family, and co-workers are doing. Don’t feed your expectations. Just keep your life simple.

Give yourself the gift of silence. Get very still and listen. When we are still everything becomes clearer. The universe speaks to us, and in the silence, we can actually hear. Make time for “You” by being still and just breathe in life.

May this holiday season and 2020 bring all of you a happy and balanced life that is fully lived without excuses or regrets.

Rejoice into Your Life

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If you are lucky to possess good health then you should rejoice everyday into your life. So it’s cold and raining or snowing. Bring that child living inside of you out into the open and jump into the rain puddles, and let the snow tickle your nose. Pay attention and see how each little snowflake has its own design. Marvel at nature. Breathe deep; this is life.

“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend. Non-being is the greatest joy.” ~ Lao Tzu

Be kind to yourself, especially if you’re caring for a chronically ill human, or pet in your life. Caregivers get lost in the caring and forget about themselves. Sometimes depression sets in as constant worry and the workload take over. It’s hard to feel joy, or for that matter, feel anything. All warning signs to take better care of You and find help.

“A leaf fluttered in through the window this morning, as if supported by the rays of the sun. A bird settled on the fire escape. Joy in the task of coffee; joy accompanied me as I walked.” ~ Anais Nin

Joy is found in the little things. Get the rest you need, and feed your soul. If you can’t give to yourself you will be of no use to anyone that needs your help. A little bit of time to yourself will make you a new person filled with energy and happiness. Seek balance.

“I rejoice in what I have, and I greet the new with open arms.” ~ Louise Hay

Rejoice into this life you’ve been given, and live.

Past, Present, Future

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You can’t change your past, but you sure can change your present for the better. Life is short and the future is not promised to anyone. Every positive present moment we possess makes whatever future we have that much better.

“Never let the pain from your past punish your present and paralyze your future.” ~ Author Unknown

Sail on my friends.

 

 

Point of Saturation

“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” ~ Author Unknown

When you’ve been putting up with a difficult person or persons in your life for a long time there will come a day when you will feel that enough is enough, and that will be the day you will have reached your point of saturation. We all have our limits on how much and for how long we can put up with grueling relationships, but once you reach your end there is no turning back.

Sometimes when you reach this point, it’s burnout from the people you work with, a demanding relative, or your mate. It doesn’t matter who has caused it, but what matters is what you are going to do about it, because staying in any kind of bad relationship is detrimental to your health.

Don’t feel bad if you’ve reached saturation. It’s simply a sign that change is overdue in your life. There are steps you can take to mend and hopefully save the relationship. Communication is always best, but sometimes people are hard to communicate with. This can be especially true if they are a relative, or a lover. You would think it would be easier, but the closer the person is to you, sometimes the harder it is to talk to them.

You could give counseling or mediation a try, but if that doesn’t help, or you don’t even want to try, then it’s time to walk away. Your life is not supposed to be about making yourself miserable so others can be happy. You deserve to live a happy and balanced life, and that doesn’t include letting other people step all over you—no matter who they are in your life.

Be brave enough to love and protect yourself from those that only want to control and hurt you.

 

 

Make Peace with This Moment

 

“Make peace with the present moment.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

It’s a busy time of the year and we can find ourselves running wild everywhere. No time to sit and think and even meditate. Tempers can get out of hand, expectations are high on demand, and depression can always find a way in.

Let’s sit down and take a deep breath, concentrating on our breathing. That’s right, make peace with whatever is happening in this very moment. We may not like it, and want to fight it, but let’s not. It’s just our ego wanting conflict–especially at times when there should be joy and peace. By just stopping whatever we’re doing, we give our Spirit the chance to come forward and take over, setting our world right once again.

Sometimes the moments of our lives are wonderful, and then there are those times that are just awful. We want to escape during bad times, but we really can’t, and we make ourselves miserable. The more we struggle the worst we feel.

We can’t change what’s happening in the present moment, but we can always change our attitude toward it. By taking a moment to slow down, or better yet, meditate, we put ourselves in charge and bring balance once again to our lives.

Don’t let the season get out of hand. Slow down, and enjoy the simplicity of just being.

Self-Care

 

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~ Eleanor Brown

How many of you actually take care of yourselves? Hello there… anybody? Are you constantly running around and bouncing here and there like a ping-pong ball? I know that I once was, but not anymore—at least for the most part. I used to be so crazy busy and stressed out that you could have attached my head to jumper cables and received quite a charge!

All this running around taking care of people and making deadlines etc. didn’t have to be so crazy if I would have believed in the word, “No,” and practiced better self-care. Yoga, meditation, taking a walk, swimming, etc. Whatever calms you down and brings peace to you will work. But not drinking too much wine and stress eating. Yes, I confess, that is how I used to handle stress.

I know it’s hard to think of yourself when you have so much responsibility, but if you don’t take care of yourself then who will? And what’s going to happen to everyone and everything that’s depending on you if you get sick? A stressful life can make you very sick. Self-care isn’t something that’s selfish, or trendy. Self-care is something that is necessary for a balanced life.

When you are living through a nerve-racking time in your life, then that is just when you need to take a step back and think about what’s right for you. You need to be mindful of the choices you’re making and how they are affecting your overall health now and into the future.

It helps if you get yourself in the habit of self-care on a daily basis before you find yourself in a stressful situation. This way, you will know how to handle the horrible way you are feeling and de-stress before you get sick.

Remember, cheating yourself is going to cheat those that love you. Don’t beat yourself up all the time. Take a break and enjoy this life of yours.