Find Your Glue

“A difficult time can be more readily endured if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose—a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve.”
~ John Maxwell

When times get tough for us it helps to get through the mess if we have glue that binds us and keeps us from falling apart. It doesn’t matter what kind of glue we use as long as it has holding power. Some types of glue are: religion/spirituality, family, partner/spouse, friends, volunteering, vocation, nature, and of course, pets. Just about anything that gives you something to hold onto and to live for.

You’re in danger when you feel all alone. That’s when you question why you are even here and that no one would miss you if you suddenly died. Yes, life certainly is not always a bed of roses, but with your glue you’ll be secured to Mother Earth and your life will always have meaning.

“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being.” – Albert Schweitzer

You’re Never Really Alone If…

Sometimes you feel alone and think no one really cares what kind of day you’re having, and maybe they don’t. You may feel this way in a crowd, or even spending time with family or friends. Sometimes it seems like no one is listening or seeing you. Maybe you’re right and nobody really cares, but you know what? It doesn’t matter because you don’t have to feel this way if you can learn to get out from underneath yourself and connect to something greater than YOU! Everyone around you is involved in their own life drama, and it’s up to you to take care of yourself and stop looking at others to provide your mental well-being.

Try getting out in nature and connecting to the abundance it provides. Nature has so much to offer and is in constant movement and change and full of wonderment. To be out in nature is to feel truly alive.

 Ralph Waldo Emerson said it perfectly: “Each moment of the year has its own beauty … a picture which was never before and shall never be seen again.”

Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on some other being–human or not. At work, strive to put a smile on a co-worker or client’s face. Don’t do this for your own gain, just do it for them. Volunteer your time at an animal shelter, or child crisis center. The point is that when you get out from underneath your own feelings and center yourself out into the world, you start feeling better about who you are and what you do, and you won’t feel so alone anymore.

Always take good care of yourself, but don’t get so involved with yourself. When you’re mindful to all that’s around you–just the simple things in life, great joy will bubble up inside of you. Sadness, depression, all the negative things you’ve been putting your attention on just go away and are replaced with positive feelings.

Learn to connect to something greater and you will begin to carve out a life of possibilities, and a life where you’re never really alone.

“Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” ~ Louisa May Alcott


Humans are fragile beings. We feel and get hurt a lot. One of the things we need to learn as we travel on our life’s journey is that we will experience pain from hurt at different times on this journey, but that doesn’t mean we have to suffer. We need to accept the hurt and go through the pain as a part of our journey, then we need to release it and go on. If we hold on to the hurt we will start to suffer, and there is no end to suffering if we let it take over.

One of the best things to do once you deal with your hurt and go through the pain is to get involved in helping your fellow-man. Volunteering your time is a wonderful way to not only help others but also help yourself to live more by your Spirit and less by the ego. The ego is all about me, me, me, and it will keep you in the suffering mode.

Letting your hurt go and getting out and helping in your community not only helps others and builds a better community, but it grows your Spirit and gives you a life full of depth and purpose. Sometimes when we are feeling hurt we get lost on our journey and forget what our purpose in living is all about. Hurt can cloud our thinking and we can get too involved with ourselves and the ego kicks in with that me, me, me, thing.

Learn to deal with the pain of hurt and then get out from under yourself and do some good by helping someone else. You will grow stronger by doing this and all the hurts along your journey will not develop into a suffering pattern that you drag along with you. When you think about yourself too much you feed the hurt and keep it alive.

Remember, life is meant to be happy and only you can control where and how far the hurt you are feeling today will go.