Simple and Still

Cannon Beach

The holiday season can get out of hand, and instead of being joyful it can become stressful. The best way to combat this is to stop doing so much. Try and keep the gift giving, social engagements, and even baking, simple. Don’t try to keep up with what your friends, family, and co-workers are doing. Don’t feed your expectations. Just keep your life simple.

Give yourself the gift of silence. Get very still and listen. When we are still everything becomes clearer. The universe speaks to us, and in the silence, we can actually hear. Make time for “You” by being still and just breathe in life.

May this holiday season and 2020 bring all of you a happy and balanced life that is fully lived without excuses or regrets.

Become the Violet

 

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” ~ Mark Twain

Make this the year that you decide to forgive. But in doing so, don’t forget to forgive yourself. I think it’s actually easier to forgive others than ourselves, but it’s just as important.

I’ve written about forgiveness probably many times and that’s because I believe it’s a very important step for a happy and balanced life. And I think it’s a great way to begin each year.

Think about this beautiful quote by Mark Twain and envision being a violet and giving out to the universe the fragrance of forgiveness. You will be so much more at peace with yourself if you do.

Living Outside Ourselves

 

“Instead of asking, ‘what do I want from life?’ A more powerful question is, ‘what does life want from me?'” ~ Eckhart Tolle

I think we get more out of life if we don’t obsess so much on what we want out of our lives. Of course it’s important to set goals and think about what we want to do with our lives etc. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think life owes us that we become very disappointed when life doesn’t work out according to our plan.

When we ask ourselves, “What does life want from me?” We stop living in our heads and become part of the real world where life isn’t always about me, me, me. In living outside of ourselves we become something better than just who we are. We become part of the universe.

To live outside of who and what we are is to live and engage fully. A richer life becomes ours because we are living mindfully and caring about all things around us. This is what gives our life purpose. And this wonderful feeling of purpose is lost if we are always waiting for life to give us what we think we deserve.

Don’t Hesitate, Just Do

I kind of stuck my nose where I guess it didn’t belong by trying to help a cat that I felt was being treated more like an unloved, uncared for little being than a treasured part of the family. It backfired of course, and I was left feeling, what the hell? It all seemed very simple at the time. The cat is cold, you provide shelter. The cat is hungry, you feed it. The cat needs love, you give it. But then humans got involved and feelings came into play. We are all so complicated. “Should I have done nothing?” I asked myself. Next time I’ll know better, but should I?

The key word here is the “Cat,” not the humans. I saw a need and I did what we should all do—take action where it’s needed. Because of my action, the humans involved are now taking steps to provide the shelter that was needed. Maybe they would have done it anyway, but for sure they are doing it now. And the need to pay attention for making sure the cat is getting fed? Well, hopefully that will be improved.

I asked the universe for help in doing right by this cat and it told me what to do. I said to the universe, “Now it seems like I have a cat, and I really don’t want one. What should I do?” The universe works in mysterious ways for the humans missed their cat and realized what they needed to do.

Even though things may get messy, costly, and stressful, if you see a being in need and the pull to help is great, don’t hesitate, just do. Other humans may not understand, but you’ll know that the universe is working through you to give a helping hand. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.

Let Go

What would happen if you decided today to simply let go of all the things that keep you captive? You know, things like fear, anger, regret, bitterness, resentment, sadness, pain, hatred, unforgiveness, etc. All the things in your life that are negative and make you miserable and a prisoner. Can you imagine what the feeling would be like if you let go of it all?

It’s hard to let those feelings go. Try as you might you just can’t seem to loosen your tight grip on them. that’s because you’ve lived this way your whole life and it’s just your normal. It might be the way you have always lived, but it’s not the way to happiness and you know it. What’s actually happened here is your ego has taken over your life and we all know it thrives on conflict.

There are two ways out of living like this. One is a gamble that one day you will get sick of it and just surrender. The other is to work at not letting the negative things in your life grab a hold of you. When you start to feel pulled down, visualize the rope or chains that are holding you captive breaking apart and freeing you. Wow! Don’t you feel alive and as light as a feather?

But now what? Can you as a human really enjoy life without problems? That old ego of yours is going to try to stir things up again, and soon you’ll be back where you started from. In order for this not to keep happening, your desire for peace and happiness has to be strong. You have to make a commitment to keep your Spirit stronger than your ego, and you have to stay the course for a better life. It’s something you must work at daily.

There’s a wonderful gift waiting for you when you learn to let go. Open your gift and see what the Universe has given. There’s joy and peace delicately wrapped for you to share. What’s missing is all those burdens you’ve been carrying around. Why, you can actually breath deeper now, and can see what really matters in your life.

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
~ Lao Tzu

The World’s Beauty is Enough

“At some point in life the world’s beauty becomes enough. You don’t need to photograph, paint or even remember it. It is enough.” ~ Toni Morrison

When I’m sitting on my deck and looking out at the simplicity and beauty of nature the problems and ugliness of the world we live in disappears. All I see is beauty, and I wonder, with this beauty how can the world be so cruel?

Maybe in life we all need to stop what we’re doing and really go outside and witness the beauty that’s before us. When was the last time you went out in the darkness and looked up at the stars and talked to the moon? How about a sunrise or sunset?

The world we live in is filled with so much beauty but we’re sometimes too busy to notice. We hear all the bad stuff that’s happening to our world, and we fear this is a bad place to be. But despite what man continues to do, the beauty is always present.

When you find yourself surrounded by the beauty of nature that is the world you live in, it takes your breath away. Standing there in the stillness you know that you can never duplicate, or truly explain what you are feeling. You have now become one with the universe.

Make Way for the New

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes things happen in your life where you realize it’s time to make a change in how you’re living. Sometimes life sends you lemons and the only thing you can do is make the best lemonade or pie ever! When you experience negative energies coming into your life trying to disrupt all you believe in, it’s really the universe trying to tell you it’s high time for you to create space for something wonderful to emerge. Whatever you do, don’t fight it!

Realize that from time to time in order to keep yourself vibrant you are going to have to do some spring cleaning. It’s hard to throw out the old to make room for the new, but it’s the only way to keep moving on. Relationships can get stale, predictable, and lose their luster if you don’t make room for something new. This is so true no matter what kind of relationship you are dealing with–even the one you have with your job.

Life’s no good if you have settled in for the mundane. It’s also not good if you’re living your life by someone else’s rules. Through your journey you will encounter people who won’t agree with how you’re living your life, or the decisions you make. They will try to take control over you and mold you into who they want you to be. When this happens, it’s a clear sign that it’s time for you to make some changes in order to create more space so you can live your life on your own terms.

This life you’ve been given is precious, but sometimes it needs a bit of tweaking to keep it healthy and full of joy. Don’t ever be afraid of change when needed to bring in the new because it’s the NEW that makes life worth living.

Balance

It’s easy in your busy life to get out of balance. There’s running the kids to after school activities–which gets tricky when you have more than one kid. Sometimes sandwiched in are aging parents that you are caring for, or even an ill spouse. And let’s not forget that crazy busy job you have with the demanding boss. With all of this, no wonder you get out of balance.

Just living can cause you to get out of balance from time to time. The trick is not to stay out of balance for long periods. Know your warning signs of when you are beginning to get out of balance and then take measures to get yourself back in the groove. If you get in the habit of letting yourself stay out of balance for long periods of time then you will be in for the struggle of your life. Friendships will suffer and so will your health.

When you are out of balance for long periods of time, or if you find it happening too often, this out of balance person will become the new you. Anxiety and other types of stress will take you over. Things like panic attacks can occur as you start to feel that you have no control over your life. Major health concerns such as heart problems can also threaten your life.

One of the best things you can do to get back in balance, or to not get out of it in the first place, is to meditate. Get in the habit before you even get out of bed in the morning of closing your eyes and putting your attention on your breath as you inhale and exhale naturally. As you do this, let your mind just wander. Pay no attention to the thoughts that come in, only think about your breathing. Take a few minutes throughout your day to meditate and see how much calmer you begin to feel. Just like dental flossing, as you practice daily, the process of meditating will come automatically to you.

The other thing you need to do to keep in balance is to take stock of your daily life. Are there things you can eliminate or do a different way to make life flow easier? You are the captain of your ship and only you can make changes in your life to get in balance on the rough seas of your journey.

When you are in balance, you become one with the universe and at peace with yourself. My friends, that’s a wonderful way to live.

Synchronicity

Is synchronicity the meaningful coincidences that occur in our lives as the Swiss psychologist and psychiatrist Carl Jung said, or is it something much more? We’ve all had experiences where we think about someone we haven’t seen in a long time and then the phone rings and it’s them. Or we bump into them at the mall. Or the weather is bad and we really don’t want to be on the road to attend an event, but we also don’t want to let anyone down, and suddenly the event is cancelled. Is all of this just a coincidence? I don’t think so.

I believe we are capable of manifesting what we want into our lives simply by putting positive energy into place. We actually can create the life we want to live. Those little coincidences that show up in our lives are actually synchronicities where positive energy is causing manifestation to occur. When that energy is put with Spirit our lives work in balance and all good things happen to us.

I’m not talking about putting attention on things like winning the lottery–unless it’s for the greater good. I’m talking about thinking about things that grow our souls and guide us more into Spirit, and help us to become the who we are meant to be. And in order to do this we must come from a place of love. Being caring and loving is positive energy and helps not only us but all those we care about.

As you become more mindful of how you are thinking, you will notice how things seem to occur in your life just by thinking about them. You will begin to realize that negative thoughts bring negative things into your life, and how positive thoughts bring you wonderful surprises. You will begin to realize that your energies actually attract things to you and not always welcomed things, so be careful of your thoughts.

Our planet may be a small dot in the universe, but we humans have much more power over our lives than we realize. With this power comes responsibility, so use it wisely and grow.

Gratitude

Sometimes it’s hard to feel gratitude when life is not going well, but there is always something to be grateful for. Even in tough times and misery, if you look around and search your heart, there you will find something to be grateful for.

When we are in a daily ritual of racing about we miss so much of life around us. But what we miss the most, is our own precious life as it also goes racing by. Our busy lives are filled with so much stress that there is no time to feel gratitude for anything.

A few years ago, I had a job that sucked the life out of me. Many days were filled with office politics, rushing to meet deadlines, and trying to keep everyone happy. Sometimes, I would get a glimpse of life when I would go outside to the mailbox. There I would be engulfed in nature with big trees all around me, birds chirping, and fluffy clouds moving lazily by.  With all of that going on, I would feel alive and grateful for life. But, once back in the office and back in my life, I couldn’t feel anything but stress and unhappiness.

When we find things in our lives to be grateful for we become anchored and therefore balanced with the universe. Whatever bad we are dealing with seems to disappear, or not be as important as we originally thought it was. Our breathing calms down, we see things more clearly, and we just feel better.

The best way to feel gratitude is to pay it forward. When you wake up in the morning before your feet hit the floor, send gratitude out to the universe for everything you have. It’s a great way to start your day and it makes your life a little bit easier. Try feeling grateful for what you have and where you are in life right now, even if it’s not where you really want to be.

By the way, send a little love out with that gratitude, because whatever you send to the universe will always come back to you.