Wrong Perceptions

“The way in which you perceive the other is determined by your own thought forms.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes in life we have perceptions that we truly believe are true. But are they always? Is the person you are mad at today really at fault and are they who you think they are? Do you know all the facts? So many times we rush to conclusion about someone, convincing ourselves that what we believe is true when in fact it simply isn’t.

Why be so quick to judge when all we need to do is deeply listen to what they are saying. In listening maybe we would realize that our perception is wrong and give the other person a chance. This would be so much better than the stories we make up in our head.

When we have persuaded ourselves that our perception about another person is correct we end up saying words that can never be taken back. We make decisions that might change not only the individual’s life, but our life and those who are close to us.

The times we are living in now are full of much anger and unhappiness. We need to find a way around all of that and learn to become more compassionate and accepting. We need each other in order to survive, and maybe starting with our perceptions is a good beginning.

“When we meditate on our perceptions, the Buddha observed, the person who suffers most in this world is the person with many wrong perceptions…. And most of our perceptions are erroneous. We see a snake in the dark and we panic, but when our friend shines a light on it, we see that it is only a rope. We have to know which wrong perceptions cause us to suffer.”  

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

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Is There Really a Problem?

We humans have a terrible habit and need to generate problems. We do encounter real problems on our life’s journey and we have to figure out how to deal with them, but how do you deal with a problem that we or someone created that was never there in the first place?

I bet a lot of the problems we come across aren’t really problems at all; they are simply an obstacle that either we, or another person decided to place in the way. And that’s so sad because it just litters the highway we are traveling on, and takes time away from the real issues in life–not to mention robbing us of joy.

So how can you tell the difference between a real problem and a fake one? A real problem has substance. You can see, feel, smell and taste it, and in doing this, you can deal with it and finally fix it. If it’s one that was created, it has no substance and the only power it has is what you give it.

Do you really have a problem, or are you just unhappy about something and letting your imagination run wild and making one up? Maybe you’re minding your own business and a family member or co-worker decides to design a problem just for you. What do you do? Nothing. Pull yourself away from yourself, or the other person and don’t play the game. Because that’s all it is, “a game.”

The ego is the designer of the game and the name of the game is “Problems.” If you don’t play then there is no game, and if there’s no game, there really isn’t a problem.

Life can be happy and even joyful if we stop making problems for ourselves and others. There is so much good we can do, and so much fun we can have. Don’t waste your time on pretend problems.

“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem.” ~ Captain Jack Sparrow

Enjoy Every Minute

“Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create that fact.” ~ William James

Enjoy every minute of your life no matter how challenging at times it can be. Hey, you’re alive, you’re here, and it doesn’t get any better than that.

Some lives are so short you wonder how that can be, and what was the point indeed. But have you ever noticed that those short lives were the most profound? It’s as if the precious being just starting out in life, and the beautiful soul in the prime of their life were sent here on some very important mission. Maybe the mission was about loving each other and cherishing life.

This sounds so simple, but do we really do it? Not always. Once in a while something gets our attention and we think about enjoying our lives, but soon we are right back in our old ways. Too many lives get caught up dealing with unhappiness, stress and pettiness. What a shame.

It’s time to wake up no matter what your age and pledge to enjoy what “IS” in your life. Be grateful for your life no matter what you’re going through at this very moment. life is in constant change and so your life will be too. Today’s misery will turn into tomorrow’s joy and continue on like the tide until you die.

The important thing to remember is to flow with your life always being mindful and enjoying every minute that you have. Don’t forget, you are in control of your life.

“There is just one life for each of us: Our own.” ~ Euripides