Frustration

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We all experience frustration; maybe some of us more than others. But from time to time, it’s bound to happen, and it’s not pleasant. It can be caused by small things and big things, and by having expectations, and holding on for dear life what we want to achieve. Sometimes we are just too hard on ourselves.

“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” ~ Confucius

I’ve been frustrated lately dealing with a cat that has a chronic illness. This is a middle-aged outdoor cat that the humans in her life have let down. She chose my husband and me to save her. We weren’t prepared to take on the care of an animal, but here we are. It’s been expensive, interrupted sleep, and medication issues. It has pretty much consumed us. Some people would think this is a silly thing to be frustrated about, and compared to so many other things like dealing with a sick child, or other human, or financial problems, it’s pretty minor. But like I said before, frustration comes with small and big issues. It doesn’t matter what the cause is. What matters is feeling frustrated is not a good way to be living.

I found that I wasn’t flexible with my goals concerning this little cat, and my expectations were too high. So I took a deep breath and said to myself: “Let go and step back, and let things flow.” Every time I feel frustrated I say this to myself and actually visualize letting go and stepping back. Since I’ve been doing this, I am feeling more balanced and not so consumed by this little being. She appears to be doing better, and actually enjoys spending time indoors. The holistic medication and new diet are also starting to work for her.

I believe that life is all about the lessons we need to learn. I think this cat is in my life to help me learn not to be so intense; slow down and just relax and trust the life force that’s inside of me. So I only got one dose of the medication in her. Start fresh tomorrow. There’s just so much you can do with cats and their attitudes. It’s the same with people. Inside every frustration there is a lesson waiting.

When we let go and take a step back we make space for clarity, and new ideas form showing a better way. If you’re feeling frustrated, ask yourself what lesson you need to learn and then to help things along try letting go, stepping back, and see how free and clear your thoughts become.

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” ~ Pema Chodron

Take a Pause

 

Take a pause, and then ask yourself: Is my anger in this relationship worth a nuclear bomb?

 

Once you blow up a relationship it’s impossible to ever put the pieces back together again. I know from experience that even if you can find the pieces they never go back quite the same, and that’s because trust is missing from the pile.

Always take that pause. There’s no hurry you know. Time is on your side, and tomorrow? Well, it’s a new day.

“You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.” ~ Buddha

 

 

Make Way for the New

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes things happen in your life where you realize it’s time to make a change in how you’re living. Sometimes life sends you lemons and the only thing you can do is make the best lemonade or pie ever! When you experience negative energies coming into your life trying to disrupt all you believe in, it’s really the universe trying to tell you it’s high time for you to create space for something wonderful to emerge. Whatever you do, don’t fight it!

Realize that from time to time in order to keep yourself vibrant you are going to have to do some spring cleaning. It’s hard to throw out the old to make room for the new, but it’s the only way to keep moving on. Relationships can get stale, predictable, and lose their luster if you don’t make room for something new. This is so true no matter what kind of relationship you are dealing with–even the one you have with your job.

Life’s no good if you have settled in for the mundane. It’s also not good if you’re living your life by someone else’s rules. Through your journey you will encounter people who won’t agree with how you’re living your life, or the decisions you make. They will try to take control over you and mold you into who they want you to be. When this happens, it’s a clear sign that it’s time for you to make some changes in order to create more space so you can live your life on your own terms.

This life you’ve been given is precious, but sometimes it needs a bit of tweaking to keep it healthy and full of joy. Don’t ever be afraid of change when needed to bring in the new because it’s the NEW that makes life worth living.