Oh, who cares if you’re normal or not! The main thing is, don’t try and be someone you’re not; just be you. You’re great just by being you. Maybe you deal with criticism that says you are not normal, but what is normal anyway? As long as you’re not hurting anyone and not breaking any laws then just be who you are.

Learn to accept this crazy imperfect person that is you, and do something really wonderful with your life. You are only here for such a short time and your time is running out. Make everyday count in your life, and don’t waste your time worrying that you’re just not like most of the people you know.

Encourage the children in your life to believe in themselves and accept the who they are. Give them confidence by really listening to what they have to say. Children just want to be accepted by their peers, but if they are a little different, then oftentimes they’re not. Children that don’t fit into the social mold need guidance to believe that they too are important and count in this world. Help them to find that one thing in their life that they can be really good at and shine ever so bright.

We all count, and have special talents, and we are all here for a reason. Be the quirky you and don’t forget to live your life fully, because if you don’t, then it was all for nothing.

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” ~ Maya Angelou


Calm Assertiveness

Always be calm and assertive when dealing with people. When you find yourself in a situation with a person who is stressed out or even angry don’t feed into their drama with your own anger. Words spoken in anger can never be erased. Learn to be the calm in the storm and be assertive–never aggressive in handling any charged situation. Your calmness will change the negative energy into a more positive one. But if the situation is very charged with angry energy then just walk away. Stay present in thought.

Every day you are put into situations where anger can arise, and knowing how to contain, not make it worse, and even stop it altogether is very important. Simple family disagreements can explode into pieces that can never be put back together. Anger on the road can become violent. Tensions at work can get way out of hand and make you want to quit your job. Breathe deeply.

Being mindful of what you say and how you act can also be key to some of the anger you encounter. Always treat people with respect and love, and learn to be firm and kind at the same time. Take control lovingly.

Be the guiding light of calm because life flows so much better when we are peaceful little beings.

“Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment.”

 ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Broken Relationships

Relationships broken can never be fixed because they would only break again under the same old strain. But relationships can always start anew even though that’s a very difficult thing to do. Relationships starting anew only work under brand new rules of open minds and open hearts filled with love, acceptance, respect, and always compassion. Sprinkle in some humor and you got it made.


“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.” ~ Rumi


We should all practice non-judgment and pickup acceptance instead. You don’t know me and I don’t know you, but we are all little beings flowing in the same sea. We all deal with pain that hides in the deep crevices of our soul, and we only show to the world what we want it to know.


“Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Problem Creators

Problems are a part of life, but unnecessary problems are created between people. What’s important is how you try to solve these problems. Albert Einstein said, “You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it,” and he was right. In order to solve a problem you have to take a step back and clear your mind of any previous feelings that you had when the problem was created in the first place.

Anger has to go right out the door because you can’t solve a problem when anger is attached to it. Hurt is another one that has no place in problem solving along with who was right and who was wrong. Doesn’t matter. Forgiveness of yourself and others is the only way to move forward with a clear new mindset. And forgiveness goes well with compassion and acceptance of others that don’t always share your views.

Humans love to hold on to anger and everything else that is ego driven. In arguments, everyone wants to be heard, and everyone thinks they are right. What is really sad is humans will sacrifice everything in the name of being right, even if they know deep down inside they’re probably wrong.

I’ve said it before, “life is short.” We live breath to breath never knowing when it will end. Our modern world is topsy-turvy with danger lurking around every corner, so way make life any harder? Wouldn’t it just be easier to say, “You respect me, and I respect you, but who says we always have to agree?”

Enjoy this life while you can and don’t get caught up manufacturing problems for yourself and others. But if you do find yourself in an ego slip, then step back, get your emotions out of the way, and think about what you’re doing in a clear and unattached manner. Who knows, maybe by the next day all that you were upset about might have flown away.

Created problems have no place in the real world, and only exist because they have originated in the minds of people who must feel very displaced. Remember, your life is beautiful and so very fragile as a butterfly’s wings, and creating problems in life just shouldn’t be.

Sense of Self

Do you know who you really are and feel good in your skin? You should because you are a wonder of life to behold. You’ve come into this world on a mission to do something special, and your whole life is about finding out what that something is.

Do you feel connected to your soul as though the two of you are one? You should because the two of you have probably been in many life times together and share the richness of growing. What about your Spirit? has your sense of self made you realize that’s the one you should be listening to and not your ego?

A sense of self is so important as you travel on your journey. Without the realization of who you are and what you are about, you would get lost, and if you’re feeling lost now, that is why. How do you recover, or even discover your sense of self? Lose yourself by noticing and helping others.

Treat everyone and everything with importance and respect. If someone is in a wheelchair, just don’t converse with the one pushing the chair, but really notice and speak to the one in the chair. Whenever you are involved in the care of something outside of yourself, you will grow closer and get to know the real person inside yourself.

Life’s about the good you do, the beauty you see, the love and happiness you spread like seeds. So get a sense of who you are and be proud, just don’t get lost into yourself allowing your ego to push your Spirit out.

“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is enlightenment.”
~ Lao Tzu


Don’t assume you know what someone thinks about you, communicate and see what’s real. Don’t rush to judgment on what you think is really happening, communicate and get the facts. Don’t decide someone really understands your position, communicate to educate. And never think that just because you have lived with a person a very long time that they really know what’s going on in your head–learn to communicate.

We all spend wasted years dealing with significant others, family, friends, co-workers and neighbors thinking we all understand each other, but that’s not always so. Unless we speak our minds then no one really knows what the other is thinking. We all just assume. The problem with assumptions is that we just make up what we feel is the truth and truly believe it. We don’t dare ask if we’re right because we fear confrontation.

We think our love ones and close friends should know us and be able to read our minds, but I don’t think most people have that ability, and so fiction is created and nonsense happens. When people are not being honest with each other, that burden causes passive aggressive behavior which leads to more assumptions on how everyone really feels. I think lack of communication is one of the biggies that causes horrible relationships and a miserable life.

Don’t live your life not communicating. Be direct with people so there is no confusion on how you feel. When you are honest then others will respect you and they too will begin to be upfront with you. Always be respectful and gently assertive when dealing with your fellow humans. Life will flow easier when you allow yourself to be free of the games some people play.

Let your Spirit bloom in the sunlight.

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~ Henry Winkler



Show respect for friends and family, and everyone who passes your way. Sometimes during the holiday season we find ourselves in a manic rush to shop for presents, dinner and all kinds of stuff. We get disconnected from the who we really are and drop all kinds of niceties in favor of the holy buck.

Sometimes it’s not only during the holidays that we have no time or care, but even during the dulling times that come before and after all affairs. I know that sometimes Grandma seems to live in another world, but don’t forget there are still brains under all that gray hair and a heart of gold. She’s still the one that taught your mom her abc’s and played with you for hours on her knees. The co-workers that drive you crazy and you think are lazy still deserve your respect, as well as, your extended family that you think at times should just go to hell.

During the holiday season that for some has lost all reason, don’t forget about the sales people who I’m sure would rather be in the Caribbean, or at least some other far off dream. It doesn’t take much time to smile and say, “thank you for all you’ve done my way.”

Respect for people’s feelings is sometimes forgotten, but let’s try to reason that we all have a place in this crazy world, and giving respect to others is the very least we can do. So next time you feel rushed and drained step back, take a long deep breath, and then, continue on once again.