It’s Never Easy, But…

“No one said it would be easy.
And maybe that’s the problem!
Life is a lot easier when you stop
trying to make it so hard.”

“Just for today, be willing to let life
be easier than normal. Allow it to be so easy
that it surprises you and delights you.”

~ Robert Holden

“The greatest difficulty is the mental resistance to things that arise, and the underlying assumption that they should not.”

~ Eckhart Tolle

We have all had one of those days, weeks, etc. where we say “Really?” how can things get so crazy and out of hand? It just happens. But I have found that if I just relax and breathe for a moment, and maybe even meditate for a few minutes, things in my life just don’t seem so bad. My final step is to surrender. I mean, some things you just don’t have any control over, so let it go, and flow.

Life is always going to have ups and downs, but you don’t have to feel like a yo-yo. Take a stand to keep it simple even when it’s not. Don’t let yourself feed into the drama that life is presenting to you. Your reaction is not going to change a thing, but you will feel a lot better and be happier if you don’t get all uptight and crazy.

It’s true that life is certainly more complicated than it was ten, twenty years ago, but that is more reason to learn how to go with it and not fight all the time. A change in our attitude and our expectations help to make life easier.

So don’t say, “Why me?”  Say, “Oh, hell, why not? I’m not going to let it bite me!” Stay the happiness course by not letting anything come between and steal it away. Stay present, keep it simple, and keep laughing.

The Mind

Your mind can make you very sick if you are constantly feeding it negativity and stressing. It is my belief that the whole body works together as a team and if one part is sick the rest is affected too. I think we’ve all seen that when we are physically sick and our mental state is off too. So, it stands to reason that if we are too often stressed with depression, anger, worry, hate, just to name a few, we are going to get physically sick.

Here are two segments from health articles:

WebMD, “How Worrying Affects the Body,” it stated: “Chronic worry and emotional stress can trigger a host of health problems. The problem occurs when fight or flight is triggered daily by excessive worrying and anxiety. The fight or flight response causes the body’s sympathetic nervous system to release stress hormones such as cortisol. These hormones can boost blood sugar levels and triglycerides (blood fats) that can be used by the body for fuel. The hormones also cause physical reactions.” That certainly can’t be good for us.

The Mayo Clinic, “Positive Thinking: Reduce Stress By Eliminating Negative Self Talk,” stated: “Some studies show that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that typically comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management. And effective stress management is associated with many health benefits.” Some of the health benefits listed were: Increased life span, lower rates of depression, greater resistance from the common cold, and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease.

We all know that eating the right foods and exercising are very important, but we sometimes forget about how our mind is processing our feelings and how much we are stressing. We need to laugh and relax more. We need to stop taking everything in our life so serious. Stress can shorten and affect the quality of our lives.

Life is full of problems, but no problem was ever solved by stressing about it. A fulfilled life is what we all want, but that won’t happen if we let our minds make us sick. It may take decades for all the negative thinking to catch up, but once it does, the impact will be a life changer.

Be gentle to yourself, and learn to handle stress. Your life will become richer for it.