“Awareness is the greatest agent for change.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Sometimes in our very busy lives we move through each day unaware of our true feelings and how we affect the people around us. We humans get so busy with tasks to accomplish and simply find ourselves in a kind of survival mode. We become lost and don’t even realize it.
When we are so unaware and lost we hurt ourselves and those we love, and sometimes don’t know we’re doing it. Becoming aware of who we are and how we are influencing everyone around us is mindfulness, and a practice we must do every day.
“Self-awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering hard questions.” ~ Stephen R. Covey
Being honest with ourselves is crucial to the why we do what we do. The hard questions of how we truly feel inside about ourselves. If we are beaten down, feel inadequate, deeply hurt, resentful, how can we function for ourselves or those we love? And it’s more than just functioning, it’s how can we live our best life?
The awareness of ourselves and the acceptance of our reality is the beginning of our changing any bad behavior that’s keeping us from living our life fully and placing those we love in the warmth of our embrace.
Becoming aware of who we are and what we are doing puts us in a dance with our life that is not only beautiful, but full of balance and flow.
Are you doing it again? You know, that thing where you kick yourself for all the horrible mistakes you made in the past. The operative word here is PAST. You realize that you can’t do a thing about all that stuff that happened in the good old past, right? I hope so. But I had a conversation with a friend that has decided to take a trip back there and try to relive decisions she made and figure out all the whys of her decisions. Friends, that just doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because the who you were in the past is not the who you are now.
“Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.” ~ Unknown
Sometimes in life doing your best becomes your absolute worst. Why? Because you can only give what you have and sometimes you’re just out of stock. During these times your best is your worst. But don’t be so hard on yourself because you did do your best. As a person grows and matures the decisions they made in the past probably are not the decisions they would make today.
So, you out there, stop doing this to yourself. Look back at your past and the bad decisions and realize it was you then and not now. View the past as a learning experience — and that goes for the past mistake you just made a few minutes ago. It got your attention and you have learned your lesson. Come on, move on down that highway and forgive yourself.
Hey, this is you now, and you are giving it your very best.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes for getting through this life:
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Lao Tzu