Purposeful Meaning

 

“The Bushmen in the Kalahari Desert talk about the two “hungers”. There is the Great Hunger and there is the Little Hunger. The Little Hunger wants food for the belly; but the Great Hunger, the greatest hunger of all, is the hunger for meaning…
There is ultimately only one thing that makes human beings deeply and profoundly bitter, and that is to have thrust upon them a life without meaning.
There is nothing wrong in searching for happiness. But of far more comfort to the soul is something greater than happiness or unhappiness, and that is meaning. Because meaning transfigures all. Once what you are doing has for you meaning, it is irrelevant whether you’re happy or unhappy. You are content – you are not alone in your Spirit – you belong.”
Laurens van der Post

The line, “Once what you are doing has for you meaning, it is irrelevant whether you’re happy or unhappy. You are content.” Isn’t that what we are all looking for in life, just to feel “content?”  And how we get there is to have purpose in our lives.

At some point we have to stop all the running around trying to keep up with our daily mess we call our life. And we have to arrive at the point where the crazy thoughts that are swirling around in our minds also must end, and then we can get down to the business of what is our purpose for being here at all.

Without a purpose our life has no meaning, and as the Bushmen of the Kalahari Desert have figured out, we certainly are not going to be very happy, and forget about content without a life of meaning. Perhaps that is why so many of us are living a miserable and unfulfilled life.

So much of the time we look in all the wrong places for happiness or contentment. It’s not found in material things or in other people. It is there inside of us. The purpose of your life will start to take shape and show itself to you when you go within and ask your Spirit, “what am I here to do?” Instead of the material things you think will bring you happiness, it’s found in the things you love to do—especially for others. It’s found in the kindness you spread around and the protection you give to the earth and the beauty you create. It’s the genuine things you do that might not be popular with the people you work with, or the friends you have, but feel so right to you.

As you think deeply about who you are and what you want to accomplish in your life, you will find it will include sharing your gift with others and in some small way, will make this world a better place.

And my beautiful friends, once you find your true purpose in life, there is no going back to the old you. Your life will have great meaning, and that contentment we are all looking for will come to you and you will find yourself smiling for no particular reason at all. But you’ll know why.

 

Who Would Miss You?

Sometimes I bet you wonder if anyone would care if you were alive or dead. Death can feel like the great escape from all your troubles, but do you really know where you would be escaping to, or if your troubles would just follow along? And even if this escaping place had great weather and was absolutely beautiful, I bet there would still be hassles just like here on Planet Earth–especially if YOU ARE part of the problems. Nope, you can’t escape from yourself that’s for sure.

But, if you did die who would miss you? Oh, you say probably no one? What about your mom or dad and those awesome siblings? Well, maybe they’re long gone, or don’t even care. Did I hear you say that partners don’t count either, and that friends are few and far between? I don’t dare ask about your dog or cat, or even your cute little guppy fish. But I’m sure the checker at the grocery store would miss your warm smile, and your co-workers would miss that infectious laugh of yours. I can tell that you don’t want to count any of these either.

I guess when you add all this up it totals to a big fat zero on who would miss you. If this is what you truly believe then you would be WRONG, my friend. How’s that, you ask? You forgot to add in the one person who would miss you, and that person is YOU! Maybe you don’t know this, but you are the person who really counts. It doesn’t matter if you’re alone in this world because living is not about how many people love you, or how many friends you have. That’s all great stuff and makes living fun, but it’s just the icing on the cake. All this crazy living is about your journey through this life and the places you go, and the things you do.

If you decide that you want to end it all today, you will be missing you and this exciting journey that you are on. Dark days come and go, and maybe today is a very dark day, but stick around, tomorrow will be better. You don’t want to miss your life because you are here for a purpose and you owe it to yourself to find out what that purpose is all about.

Learn to love yourself, and find the joy deep inside because you are worth it. Enjoy the ride of your life, and don’t mind the bumps in the road they just make it all that much more interesting.

Your Life Is in Your Hands

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

Take a stand today and realize that your life is simply and completely in your own hands. If you have been suffering over some situation in your life then you, and only you, have made that decision–the decision to suffer.

Suffering should not be part of your life’s journey because it’s negative energy and will get you nowhere. Walk away and leave the suffering behind and find the path that will lead you to your purpose. There is no magic in this and no one can do this for you. You were born with free will and only you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life.

Your life is in your hands, but the real question is, how will you handle this precious, fragile, life that you hold? Will you give it the chance to find its purpose, or will you weight it down and hold it hostage?

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
~ Coco Chanel

Childhood Holds the Key to Your Purpose

Do you feel you’re living your life the way it was meant to be? If not, then the key to your purpose is hidden away in your childhood. Look deep within and remember what it was that got your attention and excited you and that will be the purpose you were supposed to follow. Maybe you had more than one–lucky you! But know, there is at least one.

Sometimes life gets in the way and purpose gets lost in the shuffle, but you can always find it again. Until you find and follow your purpose you will never be completely happy. There will always be something missing.

It doesn’t matter what your obligations are, how much time in a day you have, or how old you are, because it’s never too late to find and follow your purpose.

Close your eyes and go back to the discover days of your childhood. Your purpose is there somewhere. Maybe it’s hiding in the toy box of dreams, or at your best friend, Betty’s house. Probably it got lost on your wedding day, or most likely when the first baby came along. We all have junk drawers, maybe it’s been there all long.

“The words on the tombstone read: Died at 30; buried at 60. This is the risk you take when you stop taking risks.”

~ Robert Holden

You were born for a reason; don’t be afraid, go and find it.

There Has to Be More

There has to be more to life than what’s been there before. Putting up with bullies and toxic people who have lost their way, being hurt to the core and dealing with sadness, there just has to be more.

When you came into the world all shiny and bright the future was all yours to enjoy with delight. But then after you grew decisions you made put you on the wrong train. You never asked for all this trouble, but it’s there always surrounding you. Ask yourself, “doesn’t there just have to be more?”

Your life is meant to be fulfilled and happy, and yes, you are here to do some good. You’ve made mistakes along the way, but you’ve paid for them too, and yet, the bullies keep surrounding you. There’s no way to win with all those balls you keep bouncing in the air, and those lost souls will keep dragging you to the end.

There has to be more, and there is you see, but this is what you have to do: Stop listening to those who only want to drag you down, and start listening to that soft voice inside that sometimes gets drowned out. Believe in the who you are and know you’re here for a purpose. Stop criticizing yourself and worrying about what others might think, and try putting yourself first for a while and believing in your way.

So, now my friends, time is running out. You’ve paid your dues and you really must move on. Figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, and get yourself on the right train with no detours in sight. Make one little last check before you embark that you have given out gratitude to the universe for your wonderful life. Now hop on board and ride the rails to a world filled with happiness and all great things.

“Freedom Means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.”    ~ Wayne Dyer

The Swarm

If you’ve ever witnessed a honey bee swarm, you know it can be a bit intimidating. The bee hive gets too crowded and the bees choose a new queen while the old queen with about half of the bees takes off to start a new hive. The swarm can look like something out of a horror movie.

Life can sometimes mimic a swarm where you are either in it, or watching one. Either way, it can be unsettling. The trick is to learn how to live your life well-balanced while the swarm is happening.

When all you ever hear and see is bad news, and you feel the swarm is hovering so very near, have no fear. Instead, go on and live your life with purpose to the end.

When you find your life is all in disarray, and you are actually now part of the swarm, don’t despair, be like the honey bees and you will finally get there.

Trust yourself and believe in your life. Through personal stresses, tragedies and even wars, people find a way. Families sit down to dinner and share their thoughts around, lovers find each other somehow in the crowd, and babies are born every day while others go away.

Through all the ups and downs life always finds a way. This is your life and it’s meant to be lived even in the swarm. Living your life through the bad times will make your roots grow deeper, and you my friend, will find peace and become richer and happier for it.

And what about those swarming honey bees? Leave them alone; they are no threat to you. They are just protecting their slow flying queen and want nothing to do with the likes of you. If they happen to build their hive a bit too close, find a beekeeper who will gladly take them off your hands usually for free.

Always protect our honey bees; we need them to survive, and always flow gracefully forward while you are still alive.

 

Hurt

Humans are fragile beings. We feel and get hurt a lot. One of the things we need to learn as we travel on our life’s journey is that we will experience pain from hurt at different times on this journey, but that doesn’t mean we have to suffer. We need to accept the hurt and go through the pain as a part of our journey, then we need to release it and go on. If we hold on to the hurt we will start to suffer, and there is no end to suffering if we let it take over.

One of the best things to do once you deal with your hurt and go through the pain is to get involved in helping your fellow-man. Volunteering your time is a wonderful way to not only help others but also help yourself to live more by your Spirit and less by the ego. The ego is all about me, me, me, and it will keep you in the suffering mode.

Letting your hurt go and getting out and helping in your community not only helps others and builds a better community, but it grows your Spirit and gives you a life full of depth and purpose. Sometimes when we are feeling hurt we get lost on our journey and forget what our purpose in living is all about. Hurt can cloud our thinking and we can get too involved with ourselves and the ego kicks in with that me, me, me, thing.

Learn to deal with the pain of hurt and then get out from under yourself and do some good by helping someone else. You will grow stronger by doing this and all the hurts along your journey will not develop into a suffering pattern that you drag along with you. When you think about yourself too much you feed the hurt and keep it alive.

Remember, life is meant to be happy and only you can control where and how far the hurt you are feeling today will go.