Don’t Settle

“It is amazing how your life changes when you embrace the reality that you’re better than the life you’ve settled for.”

~ Steve Maraboli

If you are unhappy with your life, you, and only you, can change things. Walk across that bridge to the life you are meant to live. Do this by making little changes every day in how you think about things, and how you treat the world you live in, and the people you engage with. Especially think about how you treat yourself. Change starts in the head. No matter where you go, what makes you unhappy will follow you.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Don’t ever make drastic changes in your life while angry or hurt. Give feelings time to calm down. Ask yourself is this change you want to make for the better, or will it end up being for the worst.

Whatever you do in life, never settle for just anything. Make sure your life fills you with joy and purpose. There are always down days, and sad days, but a well lived life should lift you up, comfort you, and help you back on your journey.

You, beautiful human, deserve a happy life.

 “Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.” ~ Naeem Callaway

Filling Dreams

“Start working to fulfill your dreams, otherwise some day someone will put you in work to fulfill their dreams.”   Author Unknown

Fulfill your dreams before attempting to fulfill others.’ It’s not being selfish–it’s nurturing self, and will lead you to become a more selfless person.  If you let yourself get too caught up in everyone else’s drama, or simply get so involved in helping other people find their way, you will lose and rob yourself of the very reason you are here.

Give yourself time to grow, travel, and experience life before you saddle yourself with too many responsibilities. This advice is especially for the young just starting out in life, and also empty-nesters trying to fulfill dreams put on hold so long ago. It’s never too late.

“No matter what has happened in your past, you have not missed your destiny. No person or negative event can stop you from fulfilling your purpose, but it’s up to you to keep going.”  Author Unknown

If you don’t give yourself the gift of fulfilling your dreams, I hope you realize that nobody around you ever will. And if you don’t try you will end up a bitter and angry soul with a life not lived.

Remember, if you are good to yourself you will be a happier and kinder person to all those you care about.

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

 

 

Living Outside Ourselves

 

“Instead of asking, ‘what do I want from life?’ A more powerful question is, ‘what does life want from me?'” ~ Eckhart Tolle

I think we get more out of life if we don’t obsess so much on what we want out of our lives. Of course it’s important to set goals and think about what we want to do with our lives etc. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think life owes us that we become very disappointed when life doesn’t work out according to our plan.

When we ask ourselves, “What does life want from me?” We stop living in our heads and become part of the real world where life isn’t always about me, me, me. In living outside of ourselves we become something better than just who we are. We become part of the universe.

To live outside of who and what we are is to live and engage fully. A richer life becomes ours because we are living mindfully and caring about all things around us. This is what gives our life purpose. And this wonderful feeling of purpose is lost if we are always waiting for life to give us what we think we deserve.

Furry Beings

 

When you look into your dog’s or cat’s eyes—actually any animal, there is just something there that can’t be explained, except to say it’s special. It’s as if they are little angels that are here to ground us and maybe even guide us somehow. So why is it that we sometimes take them for granted and even ignore them?

Being too busy and even stressed out makes us not notice all the little things surrounding us. Animals can get underfoot and we trip over them in our hurry to do whatever, and this makes us mad. They need our care and we don’t always want to be bothered, but are we missing the real picture of their purpose?

I think it’s about “Love.” Animals show us unconditional love, and where else can you find that except in human babies and young children. But no matter how old an animal gets it’s always there that unconditional love and acceptance, and you sure can’t always say that about humans. I’ve seen animals give love even when they’ve been starved for food, love, shelter, and about to die.

All the cats and dogs I’ve known in my life have taught me something and given me so much. I learned to slow down and take notice of the beauty all around me. I learned how to read body language and listen to what the eyes are telling me. I realized laughter was necessary, and to play every day. But most of all, I learned about a special kind of love just for animals.

Let’s not get so caught up with stressful days that we forget about the divine animal beings that we share this planet and even our homes with. Delight in who and what they are, and let yourself be guided by the love they want to share.

Who Would Miss You?

Sometimes I bet you wonder if anyone would care if you were alive or dead. Death can feel like the great escape from all your troubles, but do you really know where you would be escaping to, or if your troubles would just follow along? And even if this escaping place had great weather and was absolutely beautiful, I bet there would still be hassles just like here on Planet Earth–especially if YOU ARE part of the problems. Nope, you can’t escape from yourself that’s for sure.

But, if you did die who would miss you? Oh, you say probably no one? What about your mom or dad and those awesome siblings? Well, maybe they’re long gone, or don’t even care. Did I hear you say that partners don’t count either, and that friends are few and far between? I don’t dare ask about your dog or cat, or even your cute little guppy fish. But I’m sure the checker at the grocery store would miss your warm smile, and your co-workers would miss that infectious laugh of yours. I can tell that you don’t want to count any of these either.

I guess when you add all this up it totals to a big fat zero on who would miss you. If this is what you truly believe then you would be WRONG, my friend. How’s that, you ask? You forgot to add in the one person who would miss you, and that person is YOU! Maybe you don’t know this, but you are the person who really counts. It doesn’t matter if you’re alone in this world because living is not about how many people love you, or how many friends you have. That’s all great stuff and makes living fun, but it’s just the icing on the cake. All this crazy living is about your journey through this life and the places you go, and the things you do.

If you decide that you want to end it all today, you will be missing you and this exciting journey that you are on. Dark days come and go, and maybe today is a very dark day, but stick around, tomorrow will be better. You don’t want to miss your life because you are here for a purpose and you owe it to yourself to find out what that purpose is all about.

Learn to love yourself, and find the joy deep inside because you are worth it. Enjoy the ride of your life, and don’t mind the bumps in the road they just make it all that much more interesting.

Your Life Is in Your Hands

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

Take a stand today and realize that your life is simply and completely in your own hands. If you have been suffering over some situation in your life then you, and only you, have made that decision–the decision to suffer.

Suffering should not be part of your life’s journey because it’s negative energy and will get you nowhere. Walk away and leave the suffering behind and find the path that will lead you to your purpose. There is no magic in this and no one can do this for you. You were born with free will and only you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life.

Your life is in your hands, but the real question is, how will you handle this precious, fragile, life that you hold? Will you give it the chance to find its purpose, or will you weight it down and hold it hostage?

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
~ Coco Chanel

Childhood Holds the Key to Your Purpose

Do you feel you’re living your life the way it was meant to be? If not, then the key to your purpose is hidden away in your childhood. Look deep within and remember what it was that got your attention and excited you and that will be the purpose you were supposed to follow. Maybe you had more than one–lucky you! But know, there is at least one.

Sometimes life gets in the way and purpose gets lost in the shuffle, but you can always find it again. Until you find and follow your purpose you will never be completely happy. There will always be something missing.

It doesn’t matter what your obligations are, how much time in a day you have, or how old you are, because it’s never too late to find and follow your purpose.

Close your eyes and go back to the discover days of your childhood. Your purpose is there somewhere. Maybe it’s hiding in the toy box of dreams, or at your best friend, Betty’s house. Probably it got lost on your wedding day, or most likely when the first baby came along. We all have junk drawers, maybe it’s been there all long.

“The words on the tombstone read: Died at 30; buried at 60. This is the risk you take when you stop taking risks.”

~ Robert Holden

You were born for a reason; don’t be afraid, go and find it.

There Has to Be More

There has to be more to life than what’s been there before. Putting up with bullies and toxic people who have lost their way, being hurt to the core and dealing with sadness, there just has to be more.

When you came into the world all shiny and bright the future was all yours to enjoy with delight. But then after you grew decisions you made put you on the wrong train. You never asked for all this trouble, but it’s there always surrounding you. Ask yourself, “doesn’t there just have to be more?”

Your life is meant to be fulfilled and happy, and yes, you are here to do some good. You’ve made mistakes along the way, but you’ve paid for them too, and yet, the bullies keep surrounding you. There’s no way to win with all those balls you keep bouncing in the air, and those lost souls will keep dragging you to the end.

There has to be more, and there is you see, but this is what you have to do: Stop listening to those who only want to drag you down, and start listening to that soft voice inside that sometimes gets drowned out. Believe in the who you are and know you’re here for a purpose. Stop criticizing yourself and worrying about what others might think, and try putting yourself first for a while and believing in your way.

So, now my friends, time is running out. You’ve paid your dues and you really must move on. Figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, and get yourself on the right train with no detours in sight. Make one little last check before you embark that you have given out gratitude to the universe for your wonderful life. Now hop on board and ride the rails to a world filled with happiness and all great things.

“Freedom Means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.”    ~ Wayne Dyer

The Swarm

If you’ve ever witnessed a honey bee swarm, you know it can be a bit intimidating. The bee hive gets too crowded and the bees choose a new queen while the old queen with about half of the bees takes off to start a new hive. The swarm can look like something out of a horror movie.

Life can sometimes mimic a swarm where you are either in it, or watching one. Either way, it can be unsettling. The trick is to learn how to live your life well-balanced while the swarm is happening.

When all you ever hear and see is bad news, and you feel the swarm is hovering so very near, have no fear. Instead, go on and live your life with purpose to the end.

When you find your life is all in disarray, and you are actually now part of the swarm, don’t despair, be like the honey bees and you will finally get there.

Trust yourself and believe in your life. Through personal stresses, tragedies and even wars, people find a way. Families sit down to dinner and share their thoughts around, lovers find each other somehow in the crowd, and babies are born every day while others go away.

Through all the ups and downs life always finds a way. This is your life and it’s meant to be lived even in the swarm. Living your life through the bad times will make your roots grow deeper, and you my friend, will find peace and become richer and happier for it.

And what about those swarming honey bees? Leave them alone; they are no threat to you. They are just protecting their slow flying queen and want nothing to do with the likes of you. If they happen to build their hive a bit too close, find a beekeeper who will gladly take them off your hands usually for free.

Always protect our honey bees; we need them to survive, and always flow gracefully forward while you are still alive.

 

Hurt

Humans are fragile beings. We feel and get hurt a lot. One of the things we need to learn as we travel on our life’s journey is that we will experience pain from hurt at different times on this journey, but that doesn’t mean we have to suffer. We need to accept the hurt and go through the pain as a part of our journey, then we need to release it and go on. If we hold on to the hurt we will start to suffer, and there is no end to suffering if we let it take over.

One of the best things to do once you deal with your hurt and go through the pain is to get involved in helping your fellow-man. Volunteering your time is a wonderful way to not only help others but also help yourself to live more by your Spirit and less by the ego. The ego is all about me, me, me, and it will keep you in the suffering mode.

Letting your hurt go and getting out and helping in your community not only helps others and builds a better community, but it grows your Spirit and gives you a life full of depth and purpose. Sometimes when we are feeling hurt we get lost on our journey and forget what our purpose in living is all about. Hurt can cloud our thinking and we can get too involved with ourselves and the ego kicks in with that me, me, me, thing.

Learn to deal with the pain of hurt and then get out from under yourself and do some good by helping someone else. You will grow stronger by doing this and all the hurts along your journey will not develop into a suffering pattern that you drag along with you. When you think about yourself too much you feed the hurt and keep it alive.

Remember, life is meant to be happy and only you can control where and how far the hurt you are feeling today will go.