Your Recipe for Loving

You can find recipes for making great dishes in magazines, books, online etc., but have you ever thought of a recipe for loving? How do you love yourself and the important people in your life? Sometimes I think there really needs to be some kind of guideline for how to love.

Maybe the recipe would go like this:

It’s never easy to love yourself because all kinds of faults are always popping up. But if you can’t love yourself then how in the world will you ever truly be able to love anyone else? You’d probably just keep finding faults with others too. So I guess the directions here would be to stop criticizing and accept yourself for the special being that you are. No one is perfect.

It’s easy to have that mad passionate love for someone, but what happens after you have been together for a long time and passion takes a back seat–does love go away? No, the formula just changes and love becomes deeper and means so much more. You start to know each other in new and wonderful ways. And in changing and growing, passion can make a return, and become better than ever.

Babies and young children are so easy to love, and they love and need you too. You love them to the extent that you would walk over burning coals to save them. But when children grow up and don’t want you around all that much, or even decide they don’t like you, how do you handle the love you still have for them? This is a hard one for all parents of grown children. You just have to realize that your job is done and it’s time to move on. Allow your child to change their love recipe so they can go off and build their new life. Give them lots of space and maybe they won’t forget where they came from, but at the same time, rebuild your own life, and learn to love them in a different way too.

The capacity to love stretches from humans to animals and the love for nature. The thing about a recipe for loving is to never stop. When you realize that it’s what you put in the recipe that deepens the flavor you will always find it easy to love.

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Push On

Don’t hold yourself back from the who you want to be; push on and see. So much goes on in your life holding you back. Self-doubts, people criticizing, failures, and lack of documentation that says, “I can actually do this!” These are the things that stop you, but don’t let them; push on.

You are a marvelous creature capable of doing so much, but for some reason, you’ve been listening to the wrong tune and believe the lyrics to be true. My dear fellow human, I must inform you that you are the result of devious programming! But don’t despair, all is not lost because all programming can simply be reprogrammed. All that is needed is a little rewiring and you will then become the who you want to be, and the you you’re supposed to be.

The first step is to learn to live by these wise words from Doctor Wayne Dyer: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” This wonderful piece of wisdom continues to help me.

The second step is to “Believe” in yourself and know that all of us are here for a purpose. I tell my grandchildren that their job is to find out what that purpose is, and then do it.

The third step is “Gratitude.” Always feel it, and always say it.

The fourth step is “Love.” Learn to love every being including yourself.

The fifth step is “Passion.” Get excited about living to the point of giggles.

The sixth step and the last is “Spirit.” Don’t let yourself live by your ego; live only by your beautiful Spirit and you will be fine.

Use these six rewiring steps and you will be able to push on to a wonderful life where you can feel good about the who you are and certain of the road you are traveling on. Don’t waste your time on self-pity and never feel you don’t deserve a magnificent life, because if you don’t, then who does?

I will leave you with these words…

“May you fall asleep in a dream and awake with a purpose.” 
 ~ Unknown

Dharma

It’s a new year and all that you were before is long gone. This is a chance for a new you, a new beginning, a clean canvas to paint on. So what will be your dharma? You have a dharma, we all do. Plainly put, it’s a reason for being here–the purpose of your life.

Dharma is a lot like passion–which I’ve written about before. But Dharma is why you’re here at all. It’s what you’re supposed to be doing. Passion is the fuel that will make your dharma come alive and will get you where you’re supposed to be. Find your passion and you will find your dharma.

How will you know if your passion is your dharma? You will just know because it will consume you making you truly feel alive. But also, Dharma has its roots in service to others and in caring for the planet and all living things. So if your passion is only self-serving then it’s not really your dharma, it’s ego driving you. To know if it’s your Spirit or your ego talking, check to see if what you’re hearing is positive or negative. Positive is always Spirit.

Let 2013 slip quietly away and embrace the new year with courage and promise. Remember, no matter how hard last year was for you, it cannot dictate how this new year will go. Only you call the shots, nobody else. If you put your intention on love, forgiveness, acceptance and all positive good things, then the universe will repay you in kind by sending all these things right back to you.

 “Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” ~ Rumi

Passion

“All you need is passion. If you have a passion for something, you’ll create the talent.” ~ Yanni

When you find your passion you will find your life, and when you find your life, you will begin to live. I believe everyone is born into this world with a gift and that gift is called “passion.”

The problem is sometimes you don’t know what your passion is, or if you do know, you don’t have a clue on how to live it. Try different hats on and see which one inspires you, and the one that you get lost in is your passion. But just because you have a passion for something doesn’t mean it will come easy. Education and hard work to develop your passion is always necessary. So if you know what your passion is, get to work!

Don’t ever let anyone destroy your passion, and that includes you. If what you’re trying to achieve is truly your passion then it’s meant to be and your job is to create an environment for passion to develop. Don’t let yourself get discouraged; keep on the road driving straight toward your passion and ignore the bumps and fierce winds along the way.

A life with no passion for what you are doing is a sad life indeed. Having passion is your vocation that gets you up in the morning with a smile on your face, and tucks you peacefully in at night. Don’t pull the covers over your head in the morning and hide. And don’t lie awake at night wondering how you missed your life.

Open the gift you’ve been given, and as Tony Robbins says:

“Live With Passion!”