Mistakes

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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” ~ Author Unknown

Oh, mistakes, we all make them and will continue to do so until the end of time. It’s not really all that important that we make big and small mistakes as we travel along. What is very important though is that we try and learn from them and hopefully not make the same ones again and again. When that happens something is very much out of whack in the whole way we are living and deserves some investigation.

Beating ourselves up won’t make the mistakes any less and only causes horrible stress in our lives, and we certainly have enough stress just by breathing so we shouldn’t be manufacturing it too.

I used to be really hard on myself when I made any kind of mistake and probably lost some future years and brain cells while putting myself through hell. So now I have finally learned to do what needs to be done when I make a mistake, and then let it go blowing in the wind. Very freeing and good for the soul.

I’m happier living this way and I bet you will be too. Go on, live your life, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Always keep learning by trying new things, and simply brush yourself off when you fall on your face. Hey, that’s how you learn to be mindful.

“Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.” ~ Kierkegaard

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Homo Sapiens

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When will humankind learn that in order to survive and thrive as a species we must accept one another and learn to get along? There is no other way if we want to live a balanced and fulfilling life; the life we are here to live. Our planet is delicate and so are we. As we destroy ourselves, we obliterate our natural environment.

Looking at history, I fear we have learned nothing from our past mistakes. We continue as a species to wage war on one another and our planet. We are greedy creatures caring more about our status than our ethics. Our behavior can’t go on forever without ending humanity and our planet.

There is always hope that a new generation of humans will one day see the light and start making the changes necessary for humanity and this beautiful planet to flourish. As hatred becomes a thing of the past, new generations of humans will see as they study history that yes, we Homo sapiens did finally learn from our wayward ways. Love has a way of doing that. I can almost feel the anticipation for that day to arrive.

“We are very, very small, but we are profoundly capable of very, very big things.”~ Stephen Hawking

Live for Today

Live for today and tomorrow will take care of itself. That sounds like good advice as long as you are not foolish and reckless, but mindful instead. Living each day with the purpose of actually showing up and not thinking about tomorrow or trying to replay the mistakes of yesterday is a goal we should all strive for. We don’t have to do great things each day, but we should try to enjoy each day as it comes along.

It’s true not all our todays are pleasant ones. Sometimes they are actually horrible and stressful, but that doesn’t mean that we should discount them. Every day we get is a day that belongs to only us and a day that we are here on planet Earth. Even if it isn’t the best of days we should embrace it and show up the best we can. When our horrible today slips into the past of yesterday we need to let it go and never look back. We then need to welcome our new present today and maybe it will just be a much better day.

In letting the previous day leave take a moment and see if there was a lesson to be learned, or wisdom to take in. In doing this no day goes away without preparing us for all the future days to come. Also, once you do this with the exiting day there will never be a need to hang onto the past. You will be able to just let it go and die off. And die it should because as you already know, if you don’t let the past go there is no way that you can truly live for today.

 

“Yesterday is ashes.

Tomorrow is green wood.

Only today does the fire burn brightly.”

– Eskimo Saying

Then and Now

Are you doing it again? You know, that thing where you kick yourself for all the horrible mistakes you made in the past. The operative word here is PAST. You realize that you can’t do a thing about all that stuff that happened in the good old past, right? I hope so. But I had a conversation with a friend that has decided to take a trip back there and try to relive decisions she made and figure out all the whys of her decisions. Friends, that just doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because the who you were in the past is not the who you are now.

“Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.”
~ Unknown

Sometimes in life doing your best becomes your absolute worst. Why? Because you can only give what you have and sometimes you’re just out of stock. During these times your best is your worst. But don’t be so hard on yourself because you did do your best. As a person grows and matures the decisions they made in the past probably are not the decisions they would make today.

So, you out there, stop doing this to yourself. Look back at your past and the bad decisions and realize it was you then and not now. View the past as a learning experience — and that goes for the past mistake you just made a few minutes ago. It got your attention and you have learned your lesson. Come on, move on down that highway and forgive yourself.

Hey, this is you now, and you are giving it your very best.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes for getting through this life:

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu

Complete Yourself

Don’t look around for others to complete you because they never will; they simply can’t. Only you can complete yourself. Learn to feel good about the who you are, flaws and all, because you are all you have.

Good relationships will only work if you can stand on your own. If you are looking for someone else to make you feel whole then your relationship is headed for a lot of problems. Being clingy may work at first, but most people tire of it quickly. And don’t forget, if you’re looking to have someone complete you then you’re also looking to give away your power and that’s never a good thing.

It’s wonderful to share this journey with someone–no one wants to sit in a restaurant all alone. We all need friendship and love, But there’s a big difference between sharing your life with someone and looking for someone to complete you.

It’s time to develop your talents–they’re deep inside just waiting for you to bring them alive, so go ahead and start that inner fire. Try Unconditionally loving yourself. It’s not being conceited or feeling superior at all–it’s just accepting who you are.

Get out of your head and put the focus on other people. Really be interested in what they’re talking about instead of having that internal dialogue going on in your mind that is making you feel less than. Learn to laugh at your silly mistakes. We all make them and they’re not worth the brain power to fret over.

Stand up straight and be proud because this is your life and nobody else’s. Go live it, and live it with gusto!

There Has to Be More

There has to be more to life than what’s been there before. Putting up with bullies and toxic people who have lost their way, being hurt to the core and dealing with sadness, there just has to be more.

When you came into the world all shiny and bright the future was all yours to enjoy with delight. But then after you grew decisions you made put you on the wrong train. You never asked for all this trouble, but it’s there always surrounding you. Ask yourself, “doesn’t there just have to be more?”

Your life is meant to be fulfilled and happy, and yes, you are here to do some good. You’ve made mistakes along the way, but you’ve paid for them too, and yet, the bullies keep surrounding you. There’s no way to win with all those balls you keep bouncing in the air, and those lost souls will keep dragging you to the end.

There has to be more, and there is you see, but this is what you have to do: Stop listening to those who only want to drag you down, and start listening to that soft voice inside that sometimes gets drowned out. Believe in the who you are and know you’re here for a purpose. Stop criticizing yourself and worrying about what others might think, and try putting yourself first for a while and believing in your way.

So, now my friends, time is running out. You’ve paid your dues and you really must move on. Figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, and get yourself on the right train with no detours in sight. Make one little last check before you embark that you have given out gratitude to the universe for your wonderful life. Now hop on board and ride the rails to a world filled with happiness and all great things.

“Freedom Means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery.”    ~ Wayne Dyer

What a Ride!

I think back on the good, bad, and pain of my life and I’m so grateful that I have lived it. Every little piece in and out, every person who passed my way and either graced me or disgraced me with their presence–even the ones who hurt me to the core, I am thankful for–are you?

I think about how much I have learned just by being alive and it makes me understand what life is really about. It’s about learning, receiving and giving. It’s about flowing when times are tough and treasuring when they’re good. It’s about loving deeply and knowing when to let go, and always being grateful. Mistakes? Oh yes, I have made plenty, but the knowledge I’ve received in exchange is precious and I don’t regret a one–do you?

My ride is not over yet, and I intend to enjoy every bit to the very end. But you know what’s really cool? Somehow I just sense that however long or short my ride is deemed, and all the things I experience in-between are simply meant to be. So my friends, there’s no need to fret about life. I think you will agree, that your life is right now and very much meant to be; so live it just flowing ever so free.

“Here lies my past

Goodbye I have kissed it;

Thank you kids,

I wouldn’t have missed it.”

 ~ Ogden Nash