When Egos Meet

“Half of life is lost in charming others. The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play. You have played enough!” ~Rumi

It’s never a party when egos meet. In fact, it can be a pretty bad sight indeed. You see, the ego is always ready for a fight, letting us think it’s simply protecting us when in fact, it’s actually bullying us. Sounds weird I know. But not so when you realize that the ego is that critical thinking part of us that’s always watching, conniving, deciding who did what to us, what we should do to them, who we are, who they are, etc.

We all have different egos. Some make us think we’re better than others, and some make us think we are less. And usually we have a combination to fit different needs as they arise. The main thing is that we are not our egos. We are the higher self inside of us: Our Spirit. But why is the Spirit so quiet and seems to do nothing to stop our crazy egos’ chatter, and ruining our relationships? Because the Spirit believes in our free will where as the ego believes in harassing us into submission.

Now, when egos meet, each has an agenda that is self serving and certainly not thinking of the greater good. You can see why problems don’t get solved and we have so much trouble living in harmony with one another.

So what do we do? I really don’t think we can get rid of our egos even though some have said that they have. The best I have found is to tame it. Our quiet Spirit will come alive if asked. Once you work with your Spirit and listen closely to what it has to say, you will be free to live the life you were born to live. But remember, you have free will; you have to ask for the help you need.

Listening to the ego and engaging with other egos will cause you to waste your life, and take you very far away from the path you should be following. This is your one and only life; don’t waste it on your ego, or fall victim to other egos.

“Once you can tame your ego mind, you are able to see clearly the path you were born to follow.” ~Roxana Jones

Drive into the Curves

“When life throws you a curve, lean into it.” ~Author Unknown

Our journey is constantly full of potholes and curves. Now with potholes we want to be careful how we travel over them, and take our time so we don’t get too beat up. But curves are better handled if we don’t drag our feet or ride our brakes too much.

Don’t let fear keep you from seeing what’s on the other side of that twisty curve. Be like a sports car and take your foot off the brake and drive into the curves of your life. There just might be beautiful weather on the other side, and you’ll never know unless you try.

Be brave and bold on your journey. You got this; trust yourself.

“I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.”
~Louisa May Alcott

Directions

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Never follow anyone or thing; lead instead. Trust only yourself because you and only you know the way. Everything you need to navigate your journey has been placed inside. You, my friends, have a map, and your Spirit is just hanging out and waiting for you to press the right buttons to activate this map.

“Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction.” ~ Rumi

Don’t be confused by all the noise in this world. Just take a deep breath and then move confidently in the direction you just know you should go. The path is waiting.

“Confidence is the way to grab the future by the horns!” ~ Author Unknown

Yes, this will take practice if you have spent most of your life listening, believing, and following what society keeps throwing your way, but there is always hope if you start to depend and trust yourself today. Turn off other people’s loud music and dance to your own tune.

You are a beautiful free spirit so take to the sky and fly high.

Mistakes

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“Don’t carry your mistakes around. Instead place them under your feet to use as stepping stones.” ~ Author Unknown

Oh, mistakes, we all make them and will continue to do so until the end of time. It’s not really all that important that we make big and small mistakes as we travel along. What is very important though is that we try and learn from them and hopefully not make the same ones again and again. When that happens something is very much out of whack in the whole way we are living and deserves some investigation.

Beating ourselves up won’t make the mistakes any less and only causes horrible stress in our lives, and we certainly have enough stress just by breathing so we shouldn’t be manufacturing it too.

I used to be really hard on myself when I made any kind of mistake and probably lost some future years and brain cells while putting myself through hell. So now I have finally learned to do what needs to be done when I make a mistake, and then let it go blowing in the wind. Very freeing and good for the soul.

I’m happier living this way and I bet you will be too. Go on, live your life, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Always keep learning by trying new things, and simply brush yourself off when you fall on your face. Hey, that’s how you learn to be mindful.

“Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forward.” ~ Kierkegaard

Baggage

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Dealing with baggage can be a real pain. We stuff things in that we don’t know if we’ll really need, and it tends to get heavy. We carry it and drag it all over the place, and we wonder why we packed what we packed. Now that’s real physical baggage. What about emotional baggage? We can sure pack a lot of emotional baggage during our journey, and it’s not just us doing the packing. Like physical bags, emotional baggage can get very difficult to handle.

We start out with our parents packing all kinds of things into a bag for us. Now, our parents don’t mean us any harm. I’m speaking of course about most parents. I realize there are exceptions. Parents in fact usually want the best for us. But they only know what they know and are doing the best they can. That being said, guilt and all kinds of rules of who and what we should be and believe in get stuffed in there. This can cause a lot of confusion in our minds where we sometimes come up short of their expectations and maybe our own. Other family members can also add to our load.

As we travel along this journey we experience many negative situations in the form of friends, lovers, co-workers, and complete strangers. All of these people and the experiences they bring get stuffed in our bags causing us to become overwhelmed. The baggage just becomes too much for us to cart around and we can become sick. We don’t know what to do and start to feel that we are stuck with this baggage forever.

Have you ever thought about just letting go of the baggage? Walking away from it, or imagining pushing it off a cliff? You can do all of these things. Just because a bag was packed for you and grew along the way, doesn’t mean you have to keep it anymore. You just have to let go. It’s that simple. By letting go you stop being a prisoner of your mind. If you let go of all your baggage you start living in the present and you let the past be just that.

I know you can do it. You can be happy and free. You might not realize it, but you and only you have the power to make any change you want to in your life. Once you realize this you can start to really live the life you were meant to live. Come on, use your power and live a full life, and get rid of the baggage that is holding you back.

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” ~ Lao Tzu

Adrift but Strong

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“What you are is where you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now.” ~ Buddha

Sometimes I have been adrift at sea and feeling alone much like the tiny picture above of the lighthouse. But just like the lighthouse, I am also strong, more than I realize, and able to carry on guiding myself and trying to help others along the path of this journey. I’m sure many of you also feel this way.

Everything that we have done and experienced has brought us to the point we find ourselves in right now. We learn along the way, sometimes falling and ending up with banged up knees and deep bruises that no one can see. But it’s these things we’ve been through that have shaped us into the beings we are now and will carry us on into the beings we’ll become.

Don’t let those times when you’re feeling adrift at sea and so alone freeze and depress you. Instead, let yourself flow forward into the next installment of your journey. You are strong. You are brave. Take the knowledge that you have– the bad and the good to the next level of your life and live with no regrets. Thrive and embrace your life because as far as we know, this is the only life we’re going to get. Make it special; make it count.