When Egos Meet

“Half of life is lost in charming others. The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play. You have played enough!” ~Rumi

It’s never a party when egos meet. In fact, it can be a pretty bad sight indeed. You see, the ego is always ready for a fight, letting us think it’s simply protecting us when in fact, it’s actually bullying us. Sounds weird I know. But not so when you realize that the ego is that critical thinking part of us that’s always watching, conniving, deciding who did what to us, what we should do to them, who we are, who they are, etc.

We all have different egos. Some make us think we’re better than others, and some make us think we are less. And usually we have a combination to fit different needs as they arise. The main thing is that we are not our egos. We are the higher self inside of us: Our Spirit. But why is the Spirit so quiet and seems to do nothing to stop our crazy egos’ chatter, and ruining our relationships? Because the Spirit believes in our free will where as the ego believes in harassing us into submission.

Now, when egos meet, each has an agenda that is self serving and certainly not thinking of the greater good. You can see why problems don’t get solved and we have so much trouble living in harmony with one another.

So what do we do? I really don’t think we can get rid of our egos even though some have said that they have. The best I have found is to tame it. Our quiet Spirit will come alive if asked. Once you work with your Spirit and listen closely to what it has to say, you will be free to live the life you were born to live. But remember, you have free will; you have to ask for the help you need.

Listening to the ego and engaging with other egos will cause you to waste your life, and take you very far away from the path you should be following. This is your one and only life; don’t waste it on your ego, or fall victim to other egos.

“Once you can tame your ego mind, you are able to see clearly the path you were born to follow.” ~Roxana Jones

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Control

“The really big successes often happen only after you let go of control.” ~ Robert Holden

Are you a control freak? You are if you find that you’re only happy when controlling everything around you. Now this is really a hard one because of course you want and should be in control of your own life. You are the master of your life and shouldn’t let others make decisions for you. And of course, you have no business trying to control anybody else’s life–that’s their problem and responsibility.

Now that we have established all of this, maybe you should let go of controlling your own life… just a little bit. Maybe you need to learn to flow more and see where you end up. Sometimes holding on too tight makes you lose what you’re trying to keep. Often when trying to control our life we end up out of control and tumble to an emotional death.

Relax, you just might live longer. The truth is that some things will always be out of our control. We do the best we can with what we have at the time. Never second guess yourself, you’ll go nuts doing that! Make the best decisions you can for yourself and those that depend on you and let the rest go. When we stop being control freaks good things happen. it’s probably because when we are so zeroed in on taking control all our creativity goes down the drain along with us feeling exhausted.

Loosen up on that control and see those big successes in your life appear. They will show up in better relationships, job opportunities, creativity, health and an all around happier life. Isn’t that part of what living is all about?

And while you’re at it, think about this:

“Two rules of harmony: #1) Don’t sweat the small stuff, and #2) It’s all small stuff.” ~ Richard Carlson

Are You Happy Being Miserable?

Some people seem to be, but are you? Do you dump on others–especially your parents for all your bad decisions? Do you keep yourself living a life of despair because it’s what you know and just easier? Stop being a drama queen or king, and certainly stop with the me, me, me, attitude. No one is really happy being miserable and that’s why it’s time to change how you’re living your life.

Stand up and take responsibility for all the awful choices you have made. We all make them, but the person that wants to live in harmony accepts them and moves on. Why are you still blaming your parents for what you think is the truth? Do you really believe that they favored your sibling over you? Unless you were abused, lived with alcoholics or drug users, get over it and move on–you are an adult now, aren’t you? The person who really wants to find the joy in life lives in the present. You are really a lost puppy if you are still living in the past.

Start looking at what you can do to make the changes needed in your life to be a balanced and happy person. You owe it to yourself not to live a life of misery. Try gratitude on for size, it’s guaranteed to grow your soul. And don’t forget loving something besides yourself.

“The bell of mindfulness tolls in each moment, inviting us to come to our senses, reminding us that we can wake up to our lives, now, while we have them to live.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn

Don’t let the rip tides pull you under. Learn to flow with the ocean currents of life.

Hate

“At this point in history we have a choice to make to either walk a path of love or be crippled by our hate.”   ~ Stevie Wonder, A Time For Love

It’s interesting how when you say the word “hate” how it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. It’s such a strong in your face kind of word that you can actually feel pain when you say it, or it is said to you.

Hate and anger are best buddies. You can’t have one without the other, and they both seem to populate too often. Everywhere you look some human hates another human. And some of these haters even hate creatures that aren’t human. How can we ever hope to share and live in harmony on this planet if there is so much hatred?

When people hate they have fear inside. They fear what they don’t understand. And when they’re too lazy, or choose to be ignorant and don’t seek knowledge, they hate instead. I always thought as humans became part of the global society they would learn acceptance, but that doesn’t seem to always be true.

What’s happening to love? Is it becoming extinct like the polar bears? Maybe it never actually existed in the first place. Love might be some myth told to us when we were children to keep us feeling safe from a scary world.

Have you ever thought what would happen if everyone stopped all the hatred and started to love instead? Look at all the good we could accomplish on this planet if we put all that positive energy to work. Hate, being negative energy, is just plain wasteful.

Notice when you say the word “LOVE,” how smooth and sweet it sounds. I wish that I heard it more often.

“Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” ~ Buddha

Be the Light

Be the one that lights the way for others to follow, and be that person that others are drawn to. You see, when you are the light that shows the way, you bring peace and harmony to everyone that passes your way.

When you’re the light you bring comfort to those that are near. As others watch you closely and are drawn to your smile, kindness and warmth, you become contagious, and they too become the light and can’t help but pass it on.

On and on the light that started with you is passed from person to person and what finally happens might be called a miracle. Everyone feels good inside–no drugs needed for euphoria. Everyone loves every living being–hatred disappears and acceptance takes its place. Everyone is content–wars disappear.

Be the light that saves someone’s day, and maybe, just maybe, as this continues on we as ONE can cast a strong enough beam that will light the way to save all of our days.

This is my wish for peace and harmony here on planet Earth.

Go, and Be the Light.