The beauty of nature can cure even the grumpiness of days. Get outside, breathe in the sweet air, and if you’re lucky, the sun will plant a great big kiss on your face. Feel the trees embracing you as they do a swing dance in the breeze. What about those silly flowers? Well, they’re busy laughing and telling the bees all the latest gossip and perhaps a few of the secrets you keep.
Come on, open yourself up to nature and go play… at least for a day.
We humans have a terrible habit and need to generate problems. We do encounter real problems on our life’s journey and we have to figure out how to deal with them, but how do you deal with a problem that we or someone created that was never there in the first place?
I bet a lot of the problems we come across aren’t really problems at all; they are simply an obstacle that either we, or another person decided to place in the way. And that’s so sad because it just litters the highway we are traveling on, and takes time away from the real issues in life–not to mention robbing us of joy.
So how can you tell the difference between a real problem and a fake one? A real problem has substance. You can see, feel, smell and taste it, and in doing this, you can deal with it and finally fix it. If it’s one that was created, it has no substance and the only power it has is what you give it.
Do you really have a problem, or are you just unhappy about something and letting your imagination run wild and making one up? Maybe you’re minding your own business and a family member or co-worker decides to design a problem just for you. What do you do? Nothing. Pull yourself away from yourself, or the other person and don’t play the game. Because that’s all it is, “a game.”
The ego is the designer of the game and the name of the game is “Problems.” If you don’t play then there is no game, and if there’s no game, there really isn’t a problem.
Life can be happy and even joyful if we stop making problems for ourselves and others. There is so much good we can do, and so much fun we can have. Don’t waste your time on pretend problems.
Spoiling yourself is really about self-care. You lead a busy life where you constantly do for others. Some of you are working more than one job, raising kids, and some even caring for special needs children, aging parents, or ill mates. Life can get hard and very demanding as responsibilities build. You can lose yourself in these situations and your stress level can explode. What can you do to keep sane? Spoil yourself.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with putting yourself first once in a while. Make a habit of once a month or even once a week doing something fun just for you. Go out to eat with friends and laugh over wine. Watch a game and yell your lungs out. Go out into nature and have some quiet time where no one is asking you to do anything for them. Even buy yourself a gift that’s just for you. Whatever brings joy back into your life go and do it before you turn into a zombie.
You are not here to be a slave. You are here to learn, do some good, and have a great time. But when doing that good gets out of balance and you start to lose yourself, then my friends, you have hit the danger zone. This is the region where all hell breaks loose. You are not only in danger of becoming a horrible caregiver, but also of destroying the very life you should be enjoying.
Don’t give it all away; keep some of the good stuff just for you. Your time on earth is limited so learn to take some of that time for YOURSELF! In doing this you will find that you are a better caregiver, and also a more loving and giving person who feels good about life in general.
So come on, kick off your shoes, be crazy and run wild in the nude! Really feel free, and feel your life.
Hey, when was the last time you actually spoiled yourself?
Are you having any fun in your life? I bet not as much as you should. Living can be serious business and because of that, fun has a way of eluding us. When that happens, we can become depressed and life becomes a chore. We lose our perspective on how we should be living and end up just going through the motions of living.
Fun doesn’t have to be something that is saved for the weekends, or once a year vacations. Fun should be something that you experience every day, even the days you go to work, or school. Fun is something you incorporate into your daily living, not something that you save up for. It’s a mindset and therefore, is found in practicing mindfulness.
If you take your life too serious you won’t have fun. Learn to lighten up a bit. Find the silly and fun in the most mundane projects. Find the fun in the most impossible situations that you find yourself in. In doing this, your life becomes so much more enriched and your overall health so much better. Laughter is the best medicine and having fun in life produces that.
When you were a child, you didn’t have to look around and try to find the fun, it was just something that happened to you. Try and connect to your inner child and see how easy it will be to have fun.
Remember, when you stop fighting life, life stops fighting you. Come on, get that frown off your face and go have yourself some fun.
“Today is gone. Today was fun. Tomorrow is another one. Every day, from here to there, funny things are everywhere.” ~ Dr. Seuss