Truly Real

 

“If my heart could do the thinking

And my head begin to feel

Then I’d look upon the world anew

And know what’s truly real.”

~Van Morrison,  I Forgot That Love Existed

I think sometimes we all make the mistake of thinking with our heads too much and not enough with our hearts. We analyze situations over and over until they don’t make sense anymore. We put too much energy in trying to figure out why someone did this or that to us, and we play the blame game constantly where there are never any winners.

If we could clear our minds and start thinking with our hearts can you imagine how wonderful and fresh the world would be? We wouldn’t be looking for problems to appear around every corner. We wouldn’t be in conflict with anyone, we would just be in bliss and flowing with life. Such balance would be ours for evermore.

This all sounds like a fairy tale. How could this be in a world so complicated that at times you just can’t see. Call me an optimist, but I believe with hard work and determination we can all change the way we think and feel. We can train our brains to use that compassion from our hearts and they can work together bringing us a peaceful, happy life, that is filled with love instead of fear and hate.

What is truly real? The darkness your mind is showing you, or the love you want to feel? What if you went with your heart this time instead of giving in to the conflict your head wants you to explore. Choose wisely my friend, for your happiness on this journey may very well depend.

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Ignorance

Ignorance produces fear and fear produces hate. We fear what we don’t understand, and we become ignorant when we don’t take the time to educate ourselves so we can understand.

Stop letting ignorance drive you to hate because hate will ultimately destroy all of us and this beautiful place we call Earth.

“Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Going Off the Rails

Do you sometimes overreact in situations and basically find yourself going off the rails? Then it’s time to step back and figure out what is really going on in your world that is making you too sensitive to the life you are leading.

It’s easy to get ourselves into the habit of overreacting. It’s part of this racing around modern world that we are now living in. We don’t take a moment to think things through before our mouths open up and we blurt something out in response to a situation that either needs some time to think on, or no response at all. I think this is also a problem of us not connecting with each other anymore. We don’t connect, we just react.

But if you find this going off the rails happening in your world too much then there’s a deeper reason why and it’s time to step back, take a deep breath, and be honest with yourself. Maybe you are just unhappy with portions of your life, or maybe it’s your whole life that’s not working out for you. If any of this is true, then it’s time to make some changes.

Change is never easy, but it is always better than living a life that’s not working well for you. First thing to do is clear your head and stop listening to your ego. Listen to your gut–that sweet quiet Spirit that is you. What do you really want to do with your life? Don’t be afraid; fear is your enemy and will always put the brakes on what you should be doing.

A very apprehensive little girl going into the 4th grade was wondering if this school year was going to be a good one for her. She was concerned about what kind of teacher she would have, how hard the work would be, and the other kids. I told her it was up to her what kind of year she would have. I explained she had the power over herself and no one or anything else. If she wanted a good year then she had to make it so.

You too have the power to change what’s not working in your life. Don’t go off the rails and just be a reactor, take control and design the life you want. By doing this, you will find that you will be a calmer and overall happier little human. And while you at it, throw that fear out the window–it’s such a bother.

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” ~ Milton Berle

Hate

“At this point in history we have a choice to make to either walk a path of love or be crippled by our hate.”   ~ Stevie Wonder, A Time For Love

It’s interesting how when you say the word “hate” how it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. It’s such a strong in your face kind of word that you can actually feel pain when you say it, or it is said to you.

Hate and anger are best buddies. You can’t have one without the other, and they both seem to populate too often. Everywhere you look some human hates another human. And some of these haters even hate creatures that aren’t human. How can we ever hope to share and live in harmony on this planet if there is so much hatred?

When people hate they have fear inside. They fear what they don’t understand. And when they’re too lazy, or choose to be ignorant and don’t seek knowledge, they hate instead. I always thought as humans became part of the global society they would learn acceptance, but that doesn’t seem to always be true.

What’s happening to love? Is it becoming extinct like the polar bears? Maybe it never actually existed in the first place. Love might be some myth told to us when we were children to keep us feeling safe from a scary world.

Have you ever thought what would happen if everyone stopped all the hatred and started to love instead? Look at all the good we could accomplish on this planet if we put all that positive energy to work. Hate, being negative energy, is just plain wasteful.

Notice when you say the word “LOVE,” how smooth and sweet it sounds. I wish that I heard it more often.

“Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” ~ Buddha

The World’s Beauty is Enough

“At some point in life the world’s beauty becomes enough. You don’t need to photograph, paint or even remember it. It is enough.” ~ Toni Morrison

When I’m sitting on my deck and looking out at the simplicity and beauty of nature the problems and ugliness of the world we live in disappears. All I see is beauty, and I wonder, with this beauty how can the world be so cruel?

Maybe in life we all need to stop what we’re doing and really go outside and witness the beauty that’s before us. When was the last time you went out in the darkness and looked up at the stars and talked to the moon? How about a sunrise or sunset?

The world we live in is filled with so much beauty but we’re sometimes too busy to notice. We hear all the bad stuff that’s happening to our world, and we fear this is a bad place to be. But despite what man continues to do, the beauty is always present.

When you find yourself surrounded by the beauty of nature that is the world you live in, it takes your breath away. Standing there in the stillness you know that you can never duplicate, or truly explain what you are feeling. You have now become one with the universe.

Be the Who Inside of You

Be the who inside of you and don’t fear what you might say. Life will only work for you if you can learn to accept yourself all the way.

Don’t care if people don’t like who you are because it usually just means you haven’t met the right people in life so far. Of course, this is all if, and only if, the who that you are is loving and kind toward everyone in sight.

Maybe you’re a little bit socially awkward and you think people find you a bit strange. I’ll let you in on a little secret, we’re all awkward and strange in our own way. Take a deep breath and take the focus off of you and put it on someone nice and new. The people who deserve your friendship will come your way if you stay true to yourself in every way.

Take your shoes off and run along the shore with negative thoughts flying right out the door. Let the sea air lift you up making you feel free, and ready to accept this beautiful who that rests inside of you.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Don’t Fear Saying No

As you travel on your journey not everyone you meet or even those you are related to will have your best interests in mind. Treating everyone with respect and loving kindness is an important virtue, but so is being aware and being able to tell when opportunistic people are knocking on your door.

People who tend to be opportunist find kind, loving people, easy prey. And you, wanting to be a good person, can find yourself saying “yes” to so much more than you bargained for. I’m not talking about being asked for a little favor, I’m talking about the big favors that could turn your life upside down. But since I mentioned little favors, they too can get to be annoying.

So how do you protect yourself from being taken advantage of, or simply not really wanting to do what’s being asked of you? Just say NO. Sounds simple but it ISN’T because nice people have trouble saying no. It makes them feel bad. You don’t want to let anyone down and you sure don’t want to come across as selfish and uncaring. But sometimes you just have to protect yourself and you do that by simply saying No.

It’s much harder after you agree to do something to try to undo it. That’s why a loving person needs to think a little bit about themselves and stop worrying about how it might look if they don’t do what’s being asked, or hurt the other person. Yes, someone might get hurt and that someone might be you!

The closer the person is to you the harder it will be to say no. Ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen? So they get mad and stop talking to you and the relationship ends. You have to ask yourself what kind of relationship would end because you said no? I’d say it’s not the relationship that you thought you had and probably isn’t worth keeping.

Be the kind of person that’s not only kind to others but also kind to yourself. Don’t fear saying No when that’s what you really want to say. It’s been said that No is a complete sentence, so use it and set yourself free.