Who Are You?


“Knowing yourself is the best knowledge to have.”
~ Adella Gonzalez

Have you ever looked into the mirror and wondered who is that person looking back at you? Having never seen herself before, my little cat friend thought it was another cat she was seeing and took issue with her reflection by hissing and having a terrible time. Well, you might not go that far, but do you know who you are?

Plenty of people will tell you who you are, but it’s best not to listen to them. The quote by Adella Gonzalez says it all because once you get to know yourself there’s no stopping what you can do with your life.

When we’re trying to find ourselves, we feel so lost; an alien on this planet. Sometimes even like failures. We don’t know where we’re going and certainly not happy about where we’ve been. Everything about us just seems wrong. That’s a terrible way to live and a big waste of time.

You can’t find yourself in someone else. No one can complete you … only you have the power to do that. Sometimes people get married and have children to fill that void of not knowing who they are. And maybe for a while it works. But life is always in flux. People come in and out of your life. Divorce, death, and children grow up and away. One day you’ll find yourself alone with the stranger that is you.

Look into the mirror and accept what you see. The bad, the good, the ugly. All the parts that are you. Allow yourself to grow and learn, but be kind to yourself when you fail because fail you will. Some humans are smarter, funnier, and better looking than you, but so what? They are not you, so stop comparing yourself to them. Practice kindness and gratitude to bring out the deep beauty that lives inside your Spirit.

Embrace this person who is you for there is no other like you.

“The ultimate truth of who you are is not I am this or I am that, but I am.” ~ Eckhart Tolle



You have no failures, just learning experiences. Failure is a word that shouldn’t be used in your day-to-day life’s journey when something you tried didn’t work out. You don’t fail, you learn, or at least you should. In learning, there is always a risk of something not working out, but the risk is always worth taking. I love this quote from Marianne Williamson:

“Many of your greatest successes you thought were failures, and many of your greatest failures you thought were successes.”

When something you tried doesn’t work out, don’t feel bad about it. Instead, think about what you learned from your experience.  Life is all about learning what works and what doesn’t. There are tests all along the way to see if you are ready to achieve what you are here to do, because everyone has a purpose and a reason for being.

Many of the things you might think of as a failure are indeed  successes. A bad first marriage can result in finding the right soul mate. Struggling with parenthood with the first child can make you a wonderful parent in the long run as you search the books and your mind to be better. A business that you view as a total failure can make you a terrific business person in the future.

Don’t ever let yourself feel like a failure. So many people do this to themselves and it’s an injustice to your beautiful Spirit. You can become immobilized with fear causing you to not want to try again because you think you will just fail. This is the work of your ego running amok.

I’ve had numerous so-called failures in my life, but now I think of them as wonderful treasures that have taught me so much. Sure, It would have been great to have had only a few, or none at all, but that’s not how life works and I accept that.

Don’t dwell on what didn’t work, or what went wrong. Just pick yourself up and learn from it. Life is so much better when you feel good about yourself.

“The only real failure in life is the failure to try.” Anonymous