Dissolving Expectations

Expectations high and low from you and others will always cause everything around to explode.

We come into the world and find expectations awaiting us from parents filled with hopes and dreams of what they think just should be. As our journey moves forward those expectations grow on and on from teachers, bosses, lovers, and even our own blessed young. Each expectation is always in danger of not measuring up leaving unhappiness, disappointment, anger and even disgust. And what about those we have of ourselves, and those low ones that cause us to self-destruct?

The best way to deal with expectations is to not have them in the first place, but this is a bit unreasonable even for me to believe. So I say, let’s be aware when they appear and dissolve them as quickly as can be. Make a conscious effort to practice Letting Go. “Nonresistance, non judgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

The practice of “Letting Go” makes it possible for you to flow and concentrate on what’s really important. It gets rid of the petty things that keep you a prisoner. When your mind is open you are truly free, and pleasantly surprised how everything fits so perfectly. You are able to accept the people around you without preconceived ideas, and you become accepting of who you are. No more feeling worn out trying to fulfill someone else’s dreams. “Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

Expectations are just something that you and everyone else just dug up and decide to make into some silly law. Practice dissolving them when they pop up and one day you’ll find them not. Stop hitting your head against that big brick wall and realize life doesn’t have to be so complicated after all.

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Stop the Drama

“Open your eyes, look within.  Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?” ~ Bob Marley

So much drama flying around; it’s here and there and just about everywhere! It invades your life, sucks your energy, steals away happiness, and leaves trinkets of despair. This is war, and you need to beat it down and kick the damn thing out the door!

You can stop the drama in your life if you do one simple thing–Stop Feeding It! But you have gotten so used to living in drama that you have become blinded to the truth. You think others barge right in bringing drama to your kitchen table when actually, my friends, you invited drama in and even offered the keys to your kingdom. Yes, I do believe it’s true, you just can’t stop feeding this beast and now he’s yours for keeps.

Wake up! Slam the door, put your foot down firmly on the floor. It’s time to take control of your life before life completely takes you over. Stay on point–you know you can. It’s time to start living a joyful, stress free life that’s right there standing in the wings. Don’t just exist–that’s not living. Meditate to connect to your Spirit, and push ego away telling it, “Don’t come back even on a different day.” Don’t be tempted to the dark side by unconscious people who cross your path, even if it means changing jobs, losing family, friends, and yes, lovers to achieve this task.

It may seem easier just to go on the way you always have, but realize your life is waiting in your hands. You, and only you, have the power to free yourself from the eating frenzy of the drama that won’t be silent in the stands.

“No one who is at one with himself can even conceive of conflict.” ~ A Course in Miracles

 

Anxiety

 

“Whenever you become anxious or stressed, outer purpose has taken over, and you lost sight of your inner purpose. You have forgotten that your state of consciousness is primary, all else secondary.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Breathe deeply and center yourself, taking away all worry and concern. Your anxiety only thrives because you are keeping it alive. Don’t accept that this is your fate, but instead, change your perspective on what you think.

Fight for the right of who you want to be, and who you are, and don’t let your anxiety drive you to misery. Anxiety becomes an unwanted passenger on your journey, so rip that monkey off your back and go it all alone once more.

You know you’re not you when you let that little bugger take hold, so figure out what all this apprehension is about. Make a plan, and take a stand for the who you really are.

If left unchecked anxiety will steal your show kicking all of the things important to you out the door, while you my friend, will find yourself sleeping in a living hell.

Anxiety serves no useful purpose in your precious life; at best, it’s just a bore. So, after you cast it away, breathe deep once more and say, “Heck, it was just a habit I picked up along the way.”

Two Roads

You have a choice which road you choose to travel on. One is full of bumps and pain, and the other is smooth as glass where it almost never rains. But seriously, you have a choice so why do you keep choosing the road that brings you so much pain? I bet you think bad luck follows you and there is no escaping. But bad luck isn’t following anyone, you just don’t seem to realize that you keep choosing the wrong road to travel on.

So how do you get off that bad damn road and get yourself on the one smiles are made from? It’s easy, stop thinking the way you have always been thinking. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Just too simple to actually be true. It seems to me that humans have a way of complicating each and every day. Don’t be miserable, be happy instead. It’s all about what you choose. You have the power to make or break your day and even your whole life! That’s a lot of power you’re wielding there my friend. I bet you didn’t even know you had it in you.

There are two roads and I know for certain which one I’m going to travel on. I want to feel happy and alive, so I will always choose the road where the sun always shines. If something bad comes my way, I won’t let it rain on my parade, because how I choose to think will always determine my day.

Each morning before you get out of bed, make a promise to yourself that absolutely nothing will ruin your day. Your life is your responsibility–take control.

“Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one is to blame.” ~ Erica Jong

Arranging the Pieces of Your Life

“Arrange whatever pieces come your way.” ~ Virginia Woolf

 When you think about it, living everyday is really about how well you arrange whatever appears in your life–good or bad. It’s about how you handle your existence. Do you let stress get the better of you? Do you avoid problems, or tackle them head on? What do you do, and how well can you arrange whatever enters your world?

You can wake up in the morning feeling happy and at peace, but somewhere into your day something pops up and throws you a curve ball. Sometimes it’s little things like a comment from a co-worker or even your boss that you don’t know how to take, and if you don’t arrange it correctly, it can throw you off. Or, you can find yourself facing something serious that has a huge impact on your life. So many things come into your life bombarding you, but what’s important is how you handle them.

We all have hit the potholes on the road we are traveling. Sometimes we see them and think, they won’t be too deep, and drive right over them finding we were wrong. Sometimes we don’t even know they’re there until we fall in. But obsessing that we hit them, or fearing that it might happen again, will not change a thing. Our life is full of ups and downs and we have to learn how to flow with the forces of life so we stay healthy, strong, and at peace.

Enjoy what you have and those you love. Be brave and face your life head on living everyday in wonderment. But know, that change is part of your life, and never hold anything too tightly that you can’t let go and arrange whatever pieces may come your way.

Feelings

You experience all kinds of feelings during a normal day, but how do you handle them? The good ones make you smile and even laugh out loud. They make you happy and lighter than air. But the bad and sad ones you probably stuff way deep inside your soul and they make you ache.

All feelings need to be addressed and honored, because if ignored and abandoned they will not go away, but will instead stay inside your soul festering until they find their way out in disturbing ways.

Learn to get in touch with your feelings, and learn to express them in a way that frees you, and doesn’t cause pain in someone else. When someone has hurt you, don’t just soldier up and go on, but let the person know in a calm assertive way how you feel. Be a problem solver not a problem maker. Express your feelings in art, journaling, dance, just to name a few.

Grief over the loss of a loved one especially needs to be addressed. Don’t be afraid to remember them, because if you try to forget them you’re not letting yourself go through the natural grieving process which is important so you can go on with your life in a healthy way. Shoving the pain deep inside will only make you hurt worse.

Your feelings ebb and flow like the tides of the sea. Feelings are what make you human, and teach you much about yourself. Once you accept, understand, and find the right way to communicate them, you will be liberated and on to a life of happiness.

“There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled.
There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled.
You feel it, don’t you?”  ~ Rumi

Don’t Care

Caring about what other people think of you is living too much by your ego. Children live by their egos and have a great need for peer acceptance and suffer greatly when they are rejected. They need the guidance of parents and other nurturers to help them realize that they shouldn’t care what other people think of them. But the need for acceptance is so strong that children usually don’t listen to the guidance that is given and become puppets to the peers they strive to impress.

Unfortunately, many people never grow out of the need for acceptance and are very concerned about how they are viewed. They are constantly trying to make an impression and spend a lot of time worrying about what they did or didn’t do, and how they can win someone over, be liked, and maybe just be loved.

When you are living your life this way you really aren’t living your life. You are just going around in circles trying too hard to be liked. What you need to do is stop caring what others think, and stop thinking about yourself. Dig deep inside your soul and figure out what makes you happy and brings you peace and do that. Care about other people not so they will accept you, but because you truly care.

You are meant to have a happy fulfilled life, but that won’t happen if you are always too concerned about what others think of you, and if you’re in constant need for acceptance.

Take a deep breath, be good to your soul, and you be the one to accept yourself. Make sure good deeds come from your heart and not your mind, and do kind things when no one is looking, and there’s no prize in sight.

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”  ~ Lao Tzu