Living Outside Ourselves

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I think we get more out of life if we don’t obsess so much on what we want out of our lives. Of course it’s important to set goals and think about what we want to do with our lives etc. But sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think life owes us that we become very disappointed when life doesn’t work out according to our plan.

When we ask ourselves, “What does life want from me?” We stop living in our heads and become part of the real world where life isn’t always about me, me, me. In living outside of ourselves we become something better than just who we are. We become part of the universe.

To live outside of who and what we are is to live and engage fully. A richer life becomes ours because we are living mindfully and caring about all things around us. This is what gives our life purpose. And this wonderful feeling of purpose is lost if we are always waiting for life to give us what we think we deserve.

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Go the Way of Gentleness

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In this crazy world we’re living in, sometimes we see and hear disturbing things on the news and all around us. It’s enough to make us lose ourselves and become out of sorts. At times, we feel so irritated that we lash out at one another and become rude or even mean. That’s not us, and that’s not the way to live.

We need to bring back our gentler side when we feel this way. The soft side that makes us warm caring humans. Yes, it’s easy to become tough and non caring when the world is cruel, and the urge to put on the boxing gloves is very tempting, but fight that force.

Let’s try creating a world around us of gentleness, and just maybe the outer world will eventually act in kind.

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Warm Caring Thoughts

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In your anger, think about Forgiveness.

In sadness, see the possibility of Hope.

Feelings of envy, why not be Grateful? 

As loneliness surrounds you, let Acceptance come in.

When anxiety takes hold, strive for Peaceful thoughts.

Playing around with cruelty? Give Kindness a try.

And when you find yourself grieving for the loss of someone you love, please let there be Loving arms to hold you close.

Wishing you all Warm, Caring Thoughts in a world that sometimes hurts.

Remember, you’re never really all alone.

Furry Beings

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When you look into your dog’s or cat’s eyes—actually any animal, there is just something there that can’t be explained, except to say it’s special. It’s as if they are little angels that are here to ground us and maybe even guide us somehow. So why is it that we sometimes take them for granted and even ignore them?

Being too busy and even stressed out makes us not notice all the little things surrounding us. Animals can get underfoot and we trip over them in our hurry to do whatever, and this makes us mad. They need our care and we don’t always want to be bothered, but are we missing the real picture of their purpose?

I think it’s about “Love.” Animals show us unconditional love, and where else can you find that except in human babies and young children. But no matter how old an animal gets it’s always there that unconditional love and acceptance, and you sure can’t always say that about humans. I’ve seen animals give love even when they’ve been starved for food, love, shelter, and about to die.

All the cats and dogs I’ve known in my life have taught me something and given me so much. I learned to slow down and take notice of the beauty all around me. I learned how to read body language and listen to what the eyes are telling me. I realized laughter was necessary, and to play every day. But most of all, I learned about a special kind of love just for animals.

Let’s not get so caught up with stressful days that we forget about the divine animal beings that we share this planet and even our homes with. Delight in who and what they are, and let yourself be guided by the love they want to share.

Embrace Your Tears

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We can get embarrassed when we tear up in public, but maybe we shouldn’t. Tears are the way of clearing our bodies of emotion and the stress we carry around. It’s a beautiful way of cleansing and setting our bodies back into balance.

Some people think it’s a sign of weakness, but it’s really a sign of being human and caring. There are tears of joy and tears of pain, but whatever the tears don’t hold them back, let them flow.

It’s true that there are times when you can’t just break down and sob, but you can tear a little bit and maybe sob later. When I’m working with a child in bereavement and he or she starts to cry, it breaks my heart and the tears start to fill my eyes. I can’t just lose it; I have to be there for the child. So I stay in command of my tears by concentrating on helping the child and only letting a few come into my eyes. I also have to get over my embarrassment, but we tell the kids that tears are always okay and maybe seeing tears in my eyes makes that really so.

Feeling joy or pain is part of our journey and so are the tears that accompany all of that. Don’t be afraid; feel what you feel and let yourself connect to the moment and to life itself. We are all just human, so let’s be that. Be a beautiful feeling human.

You Did Your Best

It’s over now and it’s time to go. You put your best foot forward. You stood up tall for your beliefs and fought the battle strong and fierce. You did your best my friend, but now it’s time to go.

Life is your new gig now—I mean, getting back in and actually living one and not just cruising around. Times are a changing and it’s getting pretty rough out there, but maybe you can make a difference here and there just by caring.

That word, “Caring” isn’t used and shown much anymore. It just doesn’t show up always in the humans of this planet. But hey, don’t you think we can change all that if we get back to living life again? I sure want to think so.

You did your best, so let today go, and concentrate on the new day fast approaching. You know, maybe just maybe, we can all make the new day finally glow.

No Strings Attached

Love without strings. Now that’s a concept, and the way it’s supposed to be—right? It wasn’t all that long ago that I wrote about this very subject in “Unconditional Love and Acceptance.” But because we are facing rough times, and there seems to be so much anger flying around, it might do us all good to think about this again.

Loving each other, the planet we all share, and all of its beings without asking for something to be given in return. That’s pure acceptance and what love is all about.

“Give because you care, not because you want love, approval or a thank you in return. True acts of sharing are done without an agenda or strings attached.”

~ 10 Spiritual Principles of Kabbalah

Wouldn’t we all be much happier if we could take a breath, a step back, and live our lives with open arms of love, and not be so concerned about what’s in it for us? Not have so many rules and conditions for loving, but instead, practice tolerance and compassion for the existence of life itself.

“It is possible to live twenty-four hours a day in a state of love. Every movement, every glance, every thought and every word can be infused with love.”

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

What a great world it would be if only we could live our lives in love with no strings attached.

“A real relationship has fights. Has trust. Has faith. Has tears. Has hurt. Has sweet smiles. Has genuine laughter. Has weird, stupid, unnecessary arguments.”

~ Author Unknown