Self-Care

 

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~ Eleanor Brown

How many of you actually take care of yourselves? Hello there… anybody? Are you constantly running around and bouncing here and there like a ping-pong ball? I know that I once was, but not anymore—at least for the most part. I used to be so crazy busy and stressed out that you could have attached my head to jumper cables and received quite a charge!

All this running around taking care of people and making deadlines etc. didn’t have to be so crazy if I would have believed in the word, “No,” and practiced better self-care. Yoga, meditation, taking a walk, swimming, etc. Whatever calms you down and brings peace to you will work. But not drinking too much wine and stress eating. Yes, I confess, that is how I used to handle stress.

I know it’s hard to think of yourself when you have so much responsibility, but if you don’t take care of yourself then who will? And what’s going to happen to everyone and everything that’s depending on you if you get sick? A stressful life can make you very sick. Self-care isn’t something that’s selfish, or trendy. Self-care is something that is necessary for a balanced life.

When you are living through a nerve-racking time in your life, then that is just when you need to take a step back and think about what’s right for you. You need to be mindful of the choices you’re making and how they are affecting your overall health now and into the future.

It helps if you get yourself in the habit of self-care on a daily basis before you find yourself in a stressful situation. This way, you will know how to handle the horrible way you are feeling and de-stress before you get sick.

Remember, cheating yourself is going to cheat those that love you. Don’t beat yourself up all the time. Take a break and enjoy this life of yours.

Calm Assertiveness

Always be calm and assertive when dealing with people. When you find yourself in a situation with a person who is stressed out or even angry don’t feed into their drama with your own anger. Words spoken in anger can never be erased. Learn to be the calm in the storm and be assertive–never aggressive in handling any charged situation. Your calmness will change the negative energy into a more positive one. But if the situation is very charged with angry energy then just walk away. Stay present in thought.

Every day you are put into situations where anger can arise, and knowing how to contain, not make it worse, and even stop it altogether is very important. Simple family disagreements can explode into pieces that can never be put back together. Anger on the road can become violent. Tensions at work can get way out of hand and make you want to quit your job. Breathe deeply.

Being mindful of what you say and how you act can also be key to some of the anger you encounter. Always treat people with respect and love, and learn to be firm and kind at the same time. Take control lovingly.

Be the guiding light of calm because life flows so much better when we are peaceful little beings.

“Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment.”

 ~ Thich Nhat Hanh