Who Are You?

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“Knowing yourself is the best knowledge to have.”
~ Adella Gonzalez

Have you ever looked into the mirror and wondered who is that person looking back at you? Having never seen herself before, my little cat friend thought it was another cat she was seeing and took issue with her reflection by hissing and having a terrible time. Well, you might not go that far, but do you know who you are?

Plenty of people will tell you who you are, but it’s best not to listen to them. The quote by Adella Gonzalez says it all because once you get to know yourself there’s no stopping what you can do with your life.

When we’re trying to find ourselves, we feel so lost; an alien on this planet. Sometimes even like failures. We don’t know where we’re going and certainly not happy about where we’ve been. Everything about us just seems wrong. That’s a terrible way to live and a big waste of time.

You can’t find yourself in someone else. No one can complete you … only you have the power to do that. Sometimes people get married and have children to fill that void of not knowing who they are. And maybe for a while it works. But life is always in flux. People come in and out of your life. Divorce, death, and children grow up and away. One day you’ll find yourself alone with the stranger that is you.

Look into the mirror and accept what you see. The bad, the good, the ugly. All the parts that are you. Allow yourself to grow and learn, but be kind to yourself when you fail because fail you will. Some humans are smarter, funnier, and better looking than you, but so what? They are not you, so stop comparing yourself to them. Practice kindness and gratitude to bring out the deep beauty that lives inside your Spirit.

Embrace this person who is you for there is no other like you.

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Adrift but Strong

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“What you are is where you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now.” ~ Buddha

Sometimes I have been adrift at sea and feeling alone much like the tiny picture above of the lighthouse. But just like the lighthouse, I am also strong, more than I realize, and able to carry on guiding myself and trying to help others along the path of this journey. I’m sure many of you also feel this way.

Everything that we have done and experienced has brought us to the point we find ourselves in right now. We learn along the way, sometimes falling and ending up with banged up knees and deep bruises that no one can see. But it’s these things we’ve been through that have shaped us into the beings we are now and will carry us on into the beings we’ll become.

Don’t let those times when you’re feeling adrift at sea and so alone freeze and depress you. Instead, let yourself flow forward into the next installment of your journey. You are strong. You are brave. Take the knowledge that you have– the bad and the good to the next level of your life and live with no regrets. Thrive and embrace your life because as far as we know, this is the only life we’re going to get. Make it special; make it count.

The Importance of You

This time of year is joyful for some, but sad for others. Sometimes sadness can bring dark thoughts our way, and depression can find its way in.

You, my friend, are important to me, and I bet to a lot of people. But mostly, you should be important to yourself. I don’t know you so why are you important to me? That’s easy because you are here and alive on this planet that we share, and everything that’s here has a purpose to be; just think about that and you will see.

I know about hard and sad days where you feel so alone. I know how stress can get in the way and muck up our lives. And I also have experienced feeling stupid and useless and wondering if I should care, or maybe just be done with it all. But that’s too easy and I don’t do easy and neither should you.

Sometimes we don’t realize how important we are to others and how much they would suffer if we were not here anymore. Think about all the good and even the bad times you will miss if you decided to be gone. Life is about good times and bad; laughter and sadness do go hand in hand. And you my friend shouldn’t miss even a second of it.

The importance of you and of every single one of us is greater than we will ever know. You matter—we all do, and because of that you will always be important to me. Please be important to you.

“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.”

~ Rumi

Crazy Life

As crazy as life can get, don’t let it seduce and eat you up alive. Stay away from the stress and mess it seems to throw at you. Breathe and keep going for life can sometimes become an illusion, but you can make it as real as you want it to be.

Carve yourself out some solitude and go away from the madding crowd. For only in silence will you find your true self and be able to put yourself back in balance again.

“Solitude, in the sense of being often alone, is essential to any depth of meditation or of character; and solitude in the presence of natural beauty and grandeur is the cradle of thought and aspirations which are not only good for the individual, but which society could ill do without.” ~ John S. Mill

Learn to dance in the rain and always jump in the puddles because this is your life, dammit, and you will get through it somehow.

You’re Never Really Alone If…

Sometimes you feel alone and think no one really cares what kind of day you’re having, and maybe they don’t. You may feel this way in a crowd, or even spending time with family or friends. Sometimes it seems like no one is listening or seeing you. Maybe you’re right and nobody really cares, but you know what? It doesn’t matter because you don’t have to feel this way if you can learn to get out from underneath yourself and connect to something greater than YOU! Everyone around you is involved in their own life drama, and it’s up to you to take care of yourself and stop looking at others to provide your mental well-being.

Try getting out in nature and connecting to the abundance it provides. Nature has so much to offer and is in constant movement and change and full of wonderment. To be out in nature is to feel truly alive.

 Ralph Waldo Emerson said it perfectly: “Each moment of the year has its own beauty … a picture which was never before and shall never be seen again.”

Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on some other being–human or not. At work, strive to put a smile on a co-worker or client’s face. Don’t do this for your own gain, just do it for them. Volunteer your time at an animal shelter, or child crisis center. The point is that when you get out from underneath your own feelings and center yourself out into the world, you start feeling better about who you are and what you do, and you won’t feel so alone anymore.

Always take good care of yourself, but don’t get so involved with yourself. When you’re mindful to all that’s around you–just the simple things in life, great joy will bubble up inside of you. Sadness, depression, all the negative things you’ve been putting your attention on just go away and are replaced with positive feelings.

Learn to connect to something greater and you will begin to carve out a life of possibilities, and a life where you’re never really alone.

“Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead.” ~ Louisa May Alcott