Be the Who Inside of You

Be the who inside of you and don’t fear what you might say. Life will only work for you if you can learn to accept yourself all the way.

Don’t care if people don’t like who you are because it usually just means you haven’t met the right people in life so far. Of course, this is all if, and only if, the who that you are is loving and kind toward everyone in sight.

Maybe you’re a little bit socially awkward and you think people find you a bit strange. I’ll let you in on a little secret, we’re all awkward and strange in our own way. Take a deep breath and take the focus off of you and put it on someone nice and new. The people who deserve your friendship will come your way if you stay true to yourself in every way.

Take your shoes off and run along the shore with negative thoughts flying right out the door. Let the sea air lift you up making you feel free, and ready to accept this beautiful who that rests inside of you.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Always Stay Present

Veering away from the present–the actual NOW of your life can confuse you and bring much sorrow.

“To help you be more present in your life today, stop what you are doing once an hour and ask yourself ‘Where are my feet?’ ” 

~ Robert Holden

It’s good to check once in a while and make sure you are not drifting away, but staying where you need to be.

“Most people treat the present moment as if it were an obstacle that they need to overcome. Since the present moment is life itself, it is an insane way to live.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

It’s so true, sometimes the present moment is not a pleasant place to be, but then again, it’s the only place you can be. Your past is gone and your future hasn’t arrived yet, so baby, you’re stuck with NOW.

“Wisdom is the power of maximizing the enjoyment of the present moment.” ~ Robert Holden

It’s wonderful when we finally realize that we are alive! Let’s embrace it all!

“Sometimes in life we become so focused on the finish line that we fail to enjoy the journey.” ~ Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Don’t ever put off living until you complete this or that because the day you penciled in to live may never come. Enjoy the ride–bumps and all as you travel along this thing called YOUR LIFE.

Normal?

Oh, who cares if you’re normal or not! The main thing is, don’t try and be someone you’re not; just be you. You’re great just by being you. Maybe you deal with criticism that says you are not normal, but what is normal anyway? As long as you’re not hurting anyone and not breaking any laws then just be who you are.

Learn to accept this crazy imperfect person that is you, and do something really wonderful with your life. You are only here for such a short time and your time is running out. Make everyday count in your life, and don’t waste your time worrying that you’re just not like most of the people you know.

Encourage the children in your life to believe in themselves and accept the who they are. Give them confidence by really listening to what they have to say. Children just want to be accepted by their peers, but if they are a little different, then oftentimes they’re not. Children that don’t fit into the social mold need guidance to believe that they too are important and count in this world. Help them to find that one thing in their life that they can be really good at and shine ever so bright.

We all count, and have special talents, and we are all here for a reason. Be the quirky you and don’t forget to live your life fully, because if you don’t, then it was all for nothing.

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” ~ Maya Angelou

 

Dissolving Expectations

Expectations high and low from you and others will always cause everything around to explode.

We come into the world and find expectations awaiting us from parents filled with hopes and dreams of what they think just should be. As our journey moves forward those expectations grow on and on from teachers, bosses, lovers, and even our own blessed young. Each expectation is always in danger of not measuring up leaving unhappiness, disappointment, anger and even disgust. And what about those we have of ourselves, and those low ones that cause us to self-destruct?

The best way to deal with expectations is to not have them in the first place, but this is a bit unreasonable even for me to believe. So I say, let’s be aware when they appear and dissolve them as quickly as can be. Make a conscious effort to practice Letting Go. “Nonresistance, non judgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

The practice of “Letting Go” makes it possible for you to flow and concentrate on what’s really important. It gets rid of the petty things that keep you a prisoner. When your mind is open you are truly free, and pleasantly surprised how everything fits so perfectly. You are able to accept the people around you without preconceived ideas, and you become accepting of who you are. No more feeling worn out trying to fulfill someone else’s dreams. “Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

Expectations are just something that you and everyone else just dug up and decide to make into some silly law. Practice dissolving them when they pop up and one day you’ll find them not. Stop hitting your head against that big brick wall and realize life doesn’t have to be so complicated after all.

What a Ride!

I think back on the good, bad, and pain of my life and I’m so grateful that I have lived it. Every little piece in and out, every person who passed my way and either graced me or disgraced me with their presence–even the ones who hurt me to the core, I am thankful for–are you?

I think about how much I have learned just by being alive and it makes me understand what life is really about. It’s about learning, receiving and giving. It’s about flowing when times are tough and treasuring when they’re good. It’s about loving deeply and knowing when to let go, and always being grateful. Mistakes? Oh yes, I have made plenty, but the knowledge I’ve received in exchange is precious and I don’t regret a one–do you?

My ride is not over yet, and I intend to enjoy every bit to the very end. But you know what’s really cool? Somehow I just sense that however long or short my ride is deemed, and all the things I experience in-between are simply meant to be. So my friends, there’s no need to fret about life. I think you will agree, that your life is right now and very much meant to be; so live it just flowing ever so free.

“Here lies my past

Goodbye I have kissed it;

Thank you kids,

I wouldn’t have missed it.”

 ~ Ogden Nash

IS

Accept the “Is” of your life because sometimes you just can’t be in charge of what is happening around you, or even in your life. Don’t think for a second that this means your life is out of control because it’s quite the contrary, friends. When you accept the is of your life you put yourself in the driver’s seat taking control of the things you can actually change, and not putting wasted energy into the things you cannot change. This is very freeing and limits the anxieties that pop into your life.

The seas in life are very turbulent at times and can leave you with overwhelming decisions and feelings. On a piece of paper arrange two columns. Mark one column “No Control,” and the other one, “Control.” In the “no” control column put all the things you can’t do a damn thing about. In the “control” column do the opposite. Now stand back and really look at the things in your life that you have control over, and realize that the things in the “No Control” column are not really that important.

Accepting the is in your life will free you from so much negativity and leave more room for positivity. It’s the positive energy that you want flowing around you–it’s the one that will give you a happy fulfilled life; it’s the one that feels so good. That negative energy will make your days on earth miserable and cut your life short.

Ego just loves to make you feel negative about everything and will keep you on high alert and very stressed. When this happens to you, just yell out, “Is, Is, Is!” See, feel, taste and hear all the things that just are out of your control, then let them go. Now, take a deep breath and then exhale, blowing all the toxic negativity out of your body.

You are so liberated when you allow yourself not to be loaded down with the things in your life that you can’t do anything about. Simply accepting the “Is” of your life will bring peace, joy, and your life will flow gracefully forward.

Embrace Your Past

A lot of things have happened in your past–some good and some not so good. And it stands to reason that those long ago decisions you regret making in your youth you want to forget or hide away, but don’t. Learn to embrace everything in your past because your past holds the key for the who you are today and the who you’ll become tomorrow.

Your journey is a rapid one, and you will make miscalculations along the way, but don’t sweat it because it’s going to happen anyway. Don’t berate yourself, just chalk it up to the lessons you had to learn. Remind yourself that all bad decisions are as much a part of your journey as all the good ones; embrace who you are.

The past is gone, so don’t dwell there. Realize that all that you have experienced is what has given you the richness and texture of your character, and how wonderful that character is. Without all the good and the bad, you just wouldn’t be you.

Look down from the mountain of life and see how far you have come, and realize that you made it despite the missteps. Now look up and see all that is waiting just for you. Celebrate your life’s journey–even the crappy times and trust in yourself. This is your journey friends, and it might be the only one you’ll ever get, so do it your way and be all used up when you get to the end.

Every line, every scar in or out, and every inch of body art is the who you are. Stand up, be proud, embrace it all!

 

Keep It Simple

Don’t create problems for yourself–keep it simple. Most of the negativity in your life comes from you and only you. It’s true there can be so-called problem people in your life, but when you think about it, they only become a problem if you let them. And how do you not let them? Back away from the storm they’re creating and let them figure it out without you being dragged in. Life is too short to put up with any nonsense so keep it simple.

Whether you are dealing with the demands of job, kids, friends, or family don’t let yourself get sucked into the abyss. Always think of a way to make your life simple. Get lazy and stop doing so much. The more you do the more all of these people expect. It’s not their fault–you have trained them to think of you this way. On the job, you accept more and more responsibilities because you want to keep your job safe, be recognized and promoted. You spoil your family and friends because you love them and want to be the best you can be, and this is how you show your love. Don’t try so hard; give it up and keep it simple.

Stop raising the bar on yourself because the more you raise it the more you will have to meet yours and other people’s expectations. Don’t forget, when you are trying to meet everybody’s expectations life becomes a grind and you become a grump.

Be kind, grateful, and do some good in the world, but don’t forget you are here to enjoy life too. If you keep telling yourself to keep it simple then you won’t find yourself overwhelmed with demanding people, places, or things.

Take a deep breath and kick back. Now, isn’t life grand?

“It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary; only wise men are able to understand them.” ~ Paulo Coelho

Are You Feeling Your Life?

“Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.” ~ Bob Marley

 Are you comfortable in your own skin and really living your life to the end, or are you just gliding through each day not really sure of anything? We all know life can be short, and we should live it to the max, but few of us do. There is always something getting in the way–money, family, jobs, obligations galore. There’s always something keeping you stuck in the mud, isn’t there? But you promise yourself, one day you will begin living.

There’s a life force running through you begging to be free, but if you’re constantly in a hurry, or too stressed out, you will miss it as it streams. If you’ve decided hell, I don’t want to feel the pain, and have numbed yourself with pills, booze, or other silly things, you’ll sleep right through your life as it zooms by like a train. So get up! Dance, or sing, and feel all the zings. life is meant to be felt–yes even the pain.

I know it’s hard and there are times you don’t even want to get out of bed. But I promise, there will be gentler days ahead. Tough times are here to grow you into the wonderful person you are meant to be. But pal, you will never grow ahead, if you don’t just surrender to it all and be free. Feel the bad and good, and never ever, be afraid to fail.

There’s such joy in the little things, and in each breath you take that keeps you alive. Slow down and feel it all delighting in the fact that you are here at all. Go outside and close your eyes letting your senses take you for a ride. Sit in the park and hear the birds and see all the living beings. Have you noticed how their life force just sets them free?

Life is here but it moves very fast, and doesn’t wait for anything. You can’t slow it down, or put it aside for when you have more time. You just need to jump in accepting what is and  enjoying your fate to the end.

Come on, feel your life ‘cause this one won’t last for long, and I don’t know if you’ll ever have another one.

Push On

Don’t hold yourself back from the who you want to be; push on and see. So much goes on in your life holding you back. Self-doubts, people criticizing, failures, and lack of documentation that says, “I can actually do this!” These are the things that stop you, but don’t let them; push on.

You are a marvelous creature capable of doing so much, but for some reason, you’ve been listening to the wrong tune and believe the lyrics to be true. My dear fellow human, I must inform you that you are the result of devious programming! But don’t despair, all is not lost because all programming can simply be reprogrammed. All that is needed is a little rewiring and you will then become the who you want to be, and the you you’re supposed to be.

The first step is to learn to live by these wise words from Doctor Wayne Dyer: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” This wonderful piece of wisdom continues to help me.

The second step is to “Believe” in yourself and know that all of us are here for a purpose. I tell my grandchildren that their job is to find out what that purpose is, and then do it.

The third step is “Gratitude.” Always feel it, and always say it.

The fourth step is “Love.” Learn to love every being including yourself.

The fifth step is “Passion.” Get excited about living to the point of giggles.

The sixth step and the last is “Spirit.” Don’t let yourself live by your ego; live only by your beautiful Spirit and you will be fine.

Use these six rewiring steps and you will be able to push on to a wonderful life where you can feel good about the who you are and certain of the road you are traveling on. Don’t waste your time on self-pity and never feel you don’t deserve a magnificent life, because if you don’t, then who does?

I will leave you with these words…

“May you fall asleep in a dream and awake with a purpose.” 
 ~ Unknown