Frustration

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We all experience frustration; maybe some of us more than others. But from time to time, it’s bound to happen, and it’s not pleasant. It can be caused by small things and big things, and by having expectations, and holding on for dear life what we want to achieve. Sometimes we are just too hard on ourselves.

“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” ~ Confucius

I’ve been frustrated lately dealing with a cat that has a chronic illness. This is a middle-aged outdoor cat that the humans in her life have let down. She chose my husband and me to save her. We weren’t prepared to take on the care of an animal, but here we are. It’s been expensive, interrupted sleep, and medication issues. It has pretty much consumed us. Some people would think this is a silly thing to be frustrated about, and compared to so many other things like dealing with a sick child, or other human, or financial problems, it’s pretty minor. But like I said before, frustration comes with small and big issues. It doesn’t matter what the cause is. What matters is feeling frustrated is not a good way to be living.

I found that I wasn’t flexible with my goals concerning this little cat, and my expectations were too high. So I took a deep breath and said to myself: “Let go and step back, and let things flow.” Every time I feel frustrated I say this to myself and actually visualize letting go and stepping back. Since I’ve been doing this, I am feeling more balanced and not so consumed by this little being. She appears to be doing better, and actually enjoys spending time indoors. The holistic medication and new diet are also starting to work for her.

I believe that life is all about the lessons we need to learn. I think this cat is in my life to help me learn not to be so intense; slow down and just relax and trust the life force that’s inside of me. So I only got one dose of the medication in her. Start fresh tomorrow. There’s just so much you can do with cats and their attitudes. It’s the same with people. Inside every frustration there is a lesson waiting.

When we let go and take a step back we make space for clarity, and new ideas form showing a better way. If you’re feeling frustrated, ask yourself what lesson you need to learn and then to help things along try letting go, stepping back, and see how free and clear your thoughts become.

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” ~ Pema Chodron

31 thoughts on “Frustration

  1. I can remember fighting my medicine when I was young Michele, I wonder what my mother learnt from it. Oh yes, was I a lesson or what! 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🦘 🐬 🐳 🌺

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  2. Eliza says:

    That last quote makes lotsa sense.

    The cat is lucky to have you… good luck with giving it all it needs, and with letting go. I was actually visualising letting go a couple of days ago, I’m not usually one for visualisations, but if it works…

    May this week bring peace, freedom and blessings

    Love, light and glitter

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    • I love that quote too, Eliza. Pema Chodron is a Tibetan Buddhist nun and she has written many books. I just love her. I hope we can continue to help this little cat, and thank you for your encouragement and kind words. Visualizing letting go has been working well for me, so I hope it helps you too 🙂

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  3. Val Boyko says:

    A wonderful lesson Michele. Its so hard when we don’t accept the way things are and want them to be different. May you both find ease in the days ahead 💛

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  4. Absolutely. Stepping back to let clarity emerge is a really valuable way to approach many situations.

    Hi Michele. Enjoy the week.

    Neil

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  5. Pam Lazos says:

    So true about it not going away until you embrace it, although it’s exhausting!

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    • It can be exhausting Pam, but spinning my wheels and going against the tide is awful too. There’s peace when I just stop pushing my agenda. Practicing this with the cat is starting to flow over into other aspects of my life. It’s like, wow! why have I always been banging my head against the wall?

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      • Pam Lazos says:

        Haha – as I’m on the first of 3 days of a 4-hour (both ways) commute into work I will keep your wise words in mind and make the best of it, Michele. My work schedule has changed requiring more commuting and I’ve been banging my head against that same wall for the last 6 months in protest, but all I have to show for it is my own frustration. Today, I’ll try to be like the river. ❤️

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      • Gosh Pam I don’t know how you do it. That’s a heck of a lot of driving. This must be a very important job for you. I guess if I had that kind of driving I might think about audiobooks like one of Pema Chodron’s. I’ve never done that before but I remember my son-in-law used to drive far and would listen to audiobooks. Good luck to you and be safe. xx

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      • Pam Lazos says:

        I don’t drive, Michele, thank goodness, but take the train. And I do listen to audiobooks! Plus I get a lot of writing done on the train. I wrote two books that way!

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      • That’s a little better, and I can see you could get a lot of work done.

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      • Pam Lazos says:

        Yes, thank God for small miracles!

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  6. Invisibly Me says:

    Caring for an ill pet is difficult at the best of times, so being frustrated and feeling so consumed by that and everything else isn’t surprising. It’s wonderful to hear she’s doing a little better though. The love you give and the progress she makes is thanks to you, and you should be proud for being the person that can do that for her. You’re so right with needing to step back some times, to ease off a little and let things flow. I’m not very good at doing that these days, I’m forever frustrated and stressy and you can’t see what’s what by the time you’re so wrapped up in it all. Even when there I things I know are out of my control, it’s hard to step away sometimes, even if I / you / we know it does us no favours. Let it go a little and breathe, a good reminder. I hope you’re able to take some time this week to yourself and to relax a little, Michele  ♥
    Caz xx

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    • Thank you Caz for your encouragement and beautiful comments. Everyday is a different day and situation with this little cat. She used to belong to my neighbor and this neighbor puts food out sometimes when she sees her, but it’s the wrong food and can cause her digestion to act up putting us backward. Since the cat is in and out it’s hard to control her diet and have her hungry enough for me to slip the medicine drops into baby food. Today she’s been eating the neighbor’s food and I may end up getting only one medicine dose down her. It’s impossible to talk to the neighbor. It’s all about her and not the cat. Like talking to a wall. So I’ve been doing really good just letting it go, and am surprising myself. I guess practice is the key to all of us getting to the point of letting go, stepping back, and flowing. And of course, some days for all of us are better than others. Take care Caz. Was great hearing from you. xx

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  7. Karen Lang says:

    Such a great example of practising ‘presence’ and patience Michele 🙏🏻🥰

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  8. inese says:

    What a wonderful article, Michele. Indeed, sometimes we need a cat to teach us lessons. My method is the same as yours – step back and be still. Everything will work out in the end.

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  9. You guys are beautiful, having done what you did for her.

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  10. msw blog says:

    Oy! I had a similar problem with a couple of cats. In the end I called animal control to pick them up. My takeaway was we all need a advocate sometime…

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  11. I guess she has appointed us to be her advocate, lol 🙂

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  12. I can certainly understand you. My sister has recovered numerous dogs and cats and their passing when they were old or very sick always broke her heart.
    I cannot have any animals due to art everywhere, but it is a very nice treat of character to care for those who cannot do that themselves.
    Being frustrated with wrong outcome is normal. Everybody is and would be whether they admit that or not. Lots of situations can cause one feeling like they have taken up a load which they cannot carry.
    It is sometimes the best to let things simply happen.
    I also know that giving advice is the easiest thing of all.Being in any troubling situation is challenging, and, yes, it can be so that you just have to let it go and step back and allow the future unfolding as it may.

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  13. Thank you Inese for taking the time to comment for I know you are super busy with your art show. I agree that stepping back and letting things flow is the best thing to do. I’m happy to report that little Zuzu is doing really well now that she is pretty much on a raw diet. What a difference it has made. Good luck on your show 🙂

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  14. parkermccoy says:

    You guys are great to be helping the poor kitty. I have a cat that looks nearly just like that cat. He doesn’t have any issues though, thankfully. He eats well, sleeps and at times, expresses his disapproval with his situation. He’s very pretty though as is your cat. He looks rather distinguished. Haha. You’re doing great work. I commend you!

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    • I appreciate that Parker. She’s kind of a mess but we’re trying to put her back together again. When we started helping her it snowed balled and we’re in it thick now. Your kitty sounds sweet and is lucky to have you. So many kitties are out there on their own having a hard time. This one is definitely a survivor and hopefully we can get her balanced out.

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