It Does Take a Village


“When I am talking about ‘It Takes a Village,’ I’m obviously not talking just about or even primarily about geographical villages any longer, but about the network of relationships and values that do connect us and binds us together.”
~ Hillary Clinton

Especially in today’s crazy world, children need all of us – parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, neighbors, teachers, etc. to guide them and help them to reach adulthood in one piece. They need to be taught not only manners and right from wrong, but to think outside the box, and to love and honor themselves and all of life’s beings. We need to teach them to put down their phones, and be one with nature. To walk gently upon the earth with love and kindness toward one another, and to be strong, but also bend in the wind like the trees.

“If every eight year old in the world is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation.”
~ Dalai Lama

As adults we need to make time to listen to what children have to say. We need to reassure them that without judgment, they can always talk to us. In our busy lives we sometimes forget to listen. But also, as they become teens they like to push us away. Don’t let them no matter how hard it gets, because once they succeed, you’ve lost them forever.

“Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.”
~ Author Unknown

Maybe, just maybe, we can make a difference with the present and future generations. But, we have to act now before it’s too late.

25 thoughts on “It Does Take a Village

  1. Myth says:

    Very well said Michele! ☀️🙂

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  2. We think that children are not ‘listening’ in their early years, on up to 9 or 10 years old. But it is by then that they ‘lock in’ who they are (this is in all the psychology textbooks).
    They have absorbed all we have shown them, the good and the bad and it then becomes their struggles as an adult to break back through those fears that they take on, for the rest of their lives.
    The hard bit is that we, as parents, are in those struggle years ourselves when we have children and unintentionally pass those things on because that is all we know…the good and the bad.
    Maybe we should bring the children and the parents into the schools to guide them all Michele. Actually they have pre and post pregnancy clinics, maybe even then. Mind you, this can be quite confronting as it always is as we face our fears 😀 ❤️

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    • I love your wisdom Mark, thank you. I hope the psychology books are right because when one of my granddaughters was between the ages of 6-10 we used to have some great conversations about life. I hope she pulls on that now that she’s 13 and all her parents have taught her too, because now I’m invisible to her (unless I’ve made her cinnamon bread, lol) and her peer group is most important. I agree that many times as we are raising children we do unintentionally pass on our own baggage. I know I was very guilty of that raising my two girls. I think in the end all we can do is our best and unfortunately our best is sometimes our worst. That’s why it takes a village in raising kids. They need many resources to count on as they are growing toward adulthood.

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  3. Pam Lazos says:

    I love that Dalai Lama quote, Michele, although I do think the powers that be don’t want to see that because there is so much money to be made in violence. I am reading Sam Harris’s “The End of Faith” and it is really quite terrifying to think that some extremists believe that God really wants them to eradicate all those who don’t believe the way they do. It’s hard to deal with that way of thinking in any kind of logical fashion. But still, I have hope.

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    • The Dalai Lama quote really caught my eye, Pam. It would be great if they taught that in public school and continued into high school. How great for kids to start each day with meditation. Actually, I just remembered that my other 13 year old granddaughter does that every morning before school. She gets up early in the morning to meditate and have her tea/coffee and breakfast before the school day starts. I agree with you that the powers that be wouldn’t go along with that in our schools and are making money with violence. Some of those online games kids get involved with are so violent. Sam Harris’s book sounds like a good read. I looked it up and it is scary. There have always been these type of extremists, but everything today feels more intense. What terrifies me right now is the school shootings. I have a grandson in high school, two granddaughters going to high school next year and another granddaughter two years behind them. Life never was this way when I was raising my girls.

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    • Eliza says:

      The more craziness that develops, the more goodness and love and sunshine there is that combats it. It’s way easier to focus on all that isn’t and the darkness people believe in.
      Love, light and glitter (I’d ramble more but feel weird commenting on someone else’s comment, sorry Pam! I’m not sure what commentiquette exists, if any…)

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  4. Well articulated Michele.

    Whether we know it or not or even if we believe it or not – our lives and those we touch and come into contact with, we create this tapestry or web of thin or not so thin threads that result in making each one we interact with who they ultimately become. Obviously, some connect we have leaves more meaning than others.

    As a ex-teacher, I’m always reminded of this when I run into students from twenty years ago and they happen to mention something I said or showed in my own life to them.

    Raising children does “take a village” for sure. And our words and actions can make or break what happens.

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    • Hi Glen 🙂 Gosh, it’s so good to hear from you. I agree with you that we do create a tapestry with those we interact with, Especially children. We do become intertwined and how we treat one another lasts a lifetime. I bet you were a wonderful teacher.

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  5. Another wonderful post Michele. 😀

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  6. smilecalm says:

    your encouragement
    is encouraging, Michele 🙂

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  7. Eliza says:

    We can. Just by being, loving, accepting and respecting. I was telling someone that yesterday. Can’t recall exactly what it was. Oh, yeah, she was wondering about being there for her sister (a teenager), I was saying that if she truly accepts and respects her without judgement her sister will feel it and know that she is there for her, even if her sister doesn’t turn to her – which teenagers do talk to their siblings??! – she’ll appreciate that she’s there.
    Love, light and glitter

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    • That’s so true Eliza. Just letting someone know that you’re there for them even if you just sit in silence. You’ve hit it on the nail about being there without judgement and just having acceptance and respect. We all can feel that, and it’s so important.

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