Point of Saturation

“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” ~ Author Unknown

When you’ve been putting up with a difficult person or persons in your life for a long time there will come a day when you will feel that enough is enough, and that will be the day you will have reached your point of saturation. We all have our limits on how much and for how long we can put up with grueling relationships, but once you reach your end there is no turning back.

Sometimes when you reach this point, it’s burnout from the people you work with, a demanding relative, or your mate. It doesn’t matter who has caused it, but what matters is what you are going to do about it, because staying in any kind of bad relationship is detrimental to your health.

Don’t feel bad if you’ve reached saturation. It’s simply a sign that change is overdue in your life. There are steps you can take to mend and hopefully save the relationship. Communication is always best, but sometimes people are hard to communicate with. This can be especially true if they are a relative, or a lover. You would think it would be easier, but the closer the person is to you, sometimes the harder it is to talk to them.

You could give counseling or mediation a try, but if that doesn’t help, or you don’t even want to try, then it’s time to walk away. Your life is not supposed to be about making yourself miserable so others can be happy. You deserve to live a happy and balanced life, and that doesn’t include letting other people step all over you—no matter who they are in your life.

Be brave enough to love and protect yourself from those that only want to control and hurt you.



24 thoughts on “Point of Saturation

  1. Sometimes you simply have to cut yourself loose and move on. One shouldn’t “set yourself on fire…” as you put it so well. Thanks for posting!


  2. Laleh Chini says:

    I agree with Glen. Thanks for sharing.<3


  3. Absolutely love this.


  4. linajaftoran says:

    I love this🍁🍁🍁🍁😘😘😘


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  6. incarceratedshadows says:

    This is a great post Michele. Bravo.


  7. Eliza says:

    Love this! (well, I always love your posts, and am glad to see you posting 🙂 )
    Something I’ve finally realised – after having it told to me repeatedly – is that giving to someone when it’s harmful to you is harmful to both of you.
    Love and light…
    Happy weekend!!


  8. pjlazos says:

    Hahahahahahahaha!!! OMG, how much do I love this post?! Thanks, Michele, for the reminder. I’m actually trying to live more drama-free these days now that I’m not triaging everything for kids and trying to find common ground with myself, the old and new, and seeing what transpires from it. I notice I’m sleeping more, still not a consistent 8 hours/night, but getting closer — which is probably all part of the process. Have a great day! Pam


    • You are welcome Pam! It always makes me feel good when I write something that hits a nerve or fills a need. Things come to me in crazy ways, but mostly by looking back on my life which used to be filled with other people’s drama, and me thinking It was my job to be the fixer. I think for me it came from my mother saying that you are supposed to give everything up for your husband and kids. I actually did that and lost myself for awhile. I’m so glad you are getting more sleep and balance in your life. We deserve a life too!

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  9. Jewels says:

    The timing of this is pretty perfect for me Michele, thanks for sharing ❤


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