“Those we love can never be more than a thought away … for as long as there’s a memory they live in our hearts to stay.”
Author Unknown
It’s very painful when we experience the death of a loved one, and the grieving process is different for everyone. One thing to remember is that there is no time limit in grieving. Those that might say, “It’s time to put this behind you,” or, “It’s been a year now and you should be over it…” etc. SHAME ON THEM! There is NO time limit.
When a loved one dies we go through stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and everything in-between. Every stage is different for each of us, and at some point memories of this person will fill your mind. Remember, memories don’t have to be sad or even make you mad. They can be funny, happy memories that make you laugh and fill you with joy.
My co-worker and I told the children going through the bereavement program that it was okay to laugh, and have funny memories. They looked surprised. But as they talked about their loved ones and told little stories—some sweet and some funny, they seemed to relax and accept that memories can be funny and laughter is always good for the soul.
I love remembering the happy and mostly funny memories of those I have lost. I find it comforting. Sure there were plenty of bad and some very sad times, but I only care to remember the good ones. Sometimes I’m surprised about how many hilarious memories I have. Makes me wonder why I ever thought things were so bad.
Nothing lasts forever and that includes the pain you may be in right now. As long as you can remember, then the memories of your loved ones will never fade. They will bring you comfort on a cold night. They will fill your heart with joy and treasured thoughts, and they will make you laugh as well as cry because of the richness they give your life.
Very beautiful Michele, a great share for those many emotions that a loss like that for us can give ❤
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Thank you, Mark. I hope it helps❤️
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I agree, Mark – Michele, this is such a needed & great reminder that emotions come & go …
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Thank you so much, da-AL. I really felt the need to write this as I sat with the children talking about their memories and the emotions they bring to us.
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you have definitely hit a nerve – a great post 🙂
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Thank you again, da-AL. So appreciate your support 🙂
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This August brings a year since our grandson was still born. I don’t think we’ll ever get over the grief and pain (so say others who have experienced similar things) We will just learn to get through it.
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Everyone’s story is so personal and painful to them. Thank you, Elizabeth, for sharing yours. Hugs ❤️
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Beautiful post, really ministered to me. Thank you.
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Thank you, Lilka 😊 I’m so glad it spoke to you.
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sometimes its a wonder
when memories appear
that had seemed lost 🙂
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Isn’t it wonderful when you discover them again? 😊
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This is such a heartwarming post Michele. Thank you allowing us to embrace all the memories that live on in our hearts ♥️
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There are so many beautiful memories for us to hold dear to our hearts. Thank you, Val, for your lovely comments. ❤️
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Lovely words of comfort Michele!
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Thank you, Anita 🙂 So glad you found it comforting.
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Great, thoughtful post!
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Thank you so much, Kendall!
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You are welcome, Michele!
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What an amazing service you offer to the children. I can’t imagine how challenging and rewarding it must be for you. And how lucky we in the WP community are to receive your generous posts. Thank you, Michele!
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Oh, my goodness, thank you, Elysha! I don’t know if I deserve such praise, but thank you for it 🙂 I love working with the children. They have taught me so much and continue to guide me on this journey. They are brave little souls and I love them all.
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Needed wisdom.
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Thank you, Diana.
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You are so right. How can we measure grieving process. And grief is not always tears. Remembering hilarious moments is a part of grieving too.
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So true, Inese. I prefer remembering the good and those hilarious times. It makes me feel closer to my love one and more understanding and accepting of who they were.
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Absolutely agree with you.
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That was really nice thanks so much for sharing your wonderful words.
Take care..
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My pleasure 🙂 All the best to you.
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