No matter how old we are negative fragments from our childhood seem to travel along with us. Most of the time we pay them no mind, or don’t even realize they are hitching a ride with us. Then one day something happens in our lives and a chain reaction takes place and those little fragments come alive and blow up in our face. And it will happen again and again until we decide to eradicate the little monsters and set ourselves free.
“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.”
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”
~ Buddha
Make today the day that the past ends and the present begins. show compassion to yourself and suffer no more. Facing those who have hurt you rarely works because egos get in the way and conversation becomes a ping-pong ball match where there are no winners.
In the end, the only true way to do way with past fragments is to open a door in your mind and let them out. And leave they will, when the decision to live only “Now” is finally made. Once all the fragments are out, the next thing to do … learn to Forget.
“If you live in the past you get what the past gives you–bad experiences.” ~ Cesar Millan
That is so very true.
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Hi, Inese 🙂 We are all so much happier when we live in the now. I love the quote from Cesar Millan.
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A great quote to ponder upon.
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I say it to myself whenever I start to slip backwards. I actually heard him say it on one of his shows.
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It is easy to miss the ‘now’.
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It really is. I think most of us were not raised to think that way.
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Beautiful, wise post.
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Thank you so much, Kara 🙂
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I had to make this choice 20 years ago. It was hard and my family found it even harder to let me but it was the right choice.
Its not forgiveness only letting go.
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I understand, Tric. I too have had to make tough decisions on letting go, but my life is better for it. It seems like the worthwhile things in life are the hardest.
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Tearing down the walls that we hide behind is a big ask, but when done they crumble like paper, never to be seen again Michele.
Resolving our pain in our understanding of those fears removes their power and sets us free.
Great post and share my friend 🙂
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Thank you, Mark. Tearing down the walls is hard for sure, and I hope that I don’t see them ever again. I agree that we just have to resolve our pain in order to be set free. Being mindful in every step we take will set us free. I appreciate your wise words.
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Yes, we have the choice –> to forgive and move one. Beautiful way to start my day, Michele – with your post. Thank you!
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I am so honored, Elysha, to have been a positive part to the start of your day. Thank you!
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Wise words! Sometimes easier said than done, but there is always that first step!
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You are right, Valorie, it can be hard sometimes. And slipping backwards from time to time does happen. But yes, just taking that wonderful first step is so important.
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Wise words. Fragments can make a beautiful future if we allow them to do so.
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Thank you, Elizabeth 🙂 Just staying mindful helps so much.
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Wow! This is so appropriate for me and a lot of others I know. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. I will share it on my site too!!
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So glad you liked this post, Elaine! And thank you for your kind words 🙂
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Thank you for the reblog!
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I’ve made peace and accepted my past, forgiven for my sake not theirs……..but the learning to forget. I don’t think one can ever forget…my past, the ugly parts, as well as the kinda good parts, were all part of my journey….and that journey has brought me to my here, my Now.
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Hi, Linda, it’s so nice to meet you. That’s wonderful that you’ve made peace and accepted your past, and forgiven for your sake and not theirs. That’s what we should all do. I understand what you’re saying about the “forgetting.” That might not be right for everyone, but for me it is and has been for some people. If I don’t let myself forget, then the past comes back up and I can’t live in the “now.” Even though my past is part of my journey it just has no place in my present life.
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Hi Michele….totally get what your saying….there is no one size fits all when it comes to our journeys and healing……🙏
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So true, Linda. We just have to do what works for us 🙂
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Thanks for sharing, great inspiring post!
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Hi, Vincent 🙂 So glad you enjoyed this post. Thank you!
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Very wise words… live, love, forgive & forget, that´s a good motto, don´t you think?… sending best wishes, always. Aquileana 😀
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Yes, I think it’s a very good motto, and one I try to live by. All the best to you too, Aquileana 🙂
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wishing you a happy now
now that i am feeling happy
here 🙂
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Hi, David 🙂 So good to hear from you. I am so glad that you are feeling happy. I hope all your travels are happy and peaceful.
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