Then and Now

Are you doing it again? You know, that thing where you kick yourself for all the horrible mistakes you made in the past. The operative word here is PAST. You realize that you can’t do a thing about all that stuff that happened in the good old past, right? I hope so. But I had a conversation with a friend that has decided to take a trip back there and try to relive decisions she made and figure out all the whys of her decisions. Friends, that just doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because the who you were in the past is not the who you are now.

“Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.”
~ Unknown

Sometimes in life doing your best becomes your absolute worst. Why? Because you can only give what you have and sometimes you’re just out of stock. During these times your best is your worst. But don’t be so hard on yourself because you did do your best. As a person grows and matures the decisions they made in the past probably are not the decisions they would make today.

So, you out there, stop doing this to yourself. Look back at your past and the bad decisions and realize it was you then and not now. View the past as a learning experience — and that goes for the past mistake you just made a few minutes ago. It got your attention and you have learned your lesson. Come on, move on down that highway and forgive yourself.

Hey, this is you now, and you are giving it your very best.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes for getting through this life:

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu

32 thoughts on “Then and Now

  1. Thank you for the pep talk. It’s working. Lovely to see you again, Michelle


  2. kara says:

    Michele, I’m not sure how you do it, but your posts always seem to my struggles. I love the quote by Lao Tzu – it’s so true: revisiting change only creates sorry. Beautiful advice. Thank you for this post, Kara


  3. kara says:

    Typing too fast or crazy spell check?!!

    Your posts always seem to speak to my struggles. I love the quote by Lao Tzu – it’s so true: resisting change only creates sorrow. Beautiful advice. Thank you for this post, Kara


  4. Thank you so much, Kara. I’m so glad this post spoke to you. When I write, I listen to that voice inside of me–my Spirit, and I try to answer the call of struggles we all deal with on this journey.


  5. Joyful2bee says:

    These words are gold!! Thank you! Our children pick up our behaviors. If we are hard on ourselves, our children will likely be hard on themselves.


  6. BarbCT says:

    Thanks. I needed that.


  7. Learn, then move on 😉


  8. A favorite expression: The past called today; it had nothing to say.


  9. wwwpalfitness says:

    Reblogged this on wwwpalfitness.


  10. I always try to figure out what the lesson is to learn from my mistake. There is value in our mistakes! It’s just not always easy to see them that way.


  11. Inese Poga Art plus Life says:

    It is a good reminder, however, I usually do not struggle with that. I had a history teacher who’d always tell us: “When something goes wrong, you have to ask yourself: after how long time that won’t matter anymore?” So, I followed that advice all life. Quite often also people say it was a mistake, when, in fact, it was a wrong decision or under-evaluation and over-evaluation of our capacities.


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  13. Psychic Nest says:

    Hi Michelle,

    This is so true. Past gives wisdom but it’s never an anchor that is meant to hold us back.



    • Thank you, Zaria 🙂 I’m so sorry that it took me so long to reply. For some reason you ended up in my spam folder! I love what you said that the past gives us wisdom, but it’s never an anchor that is meant to hold us back. Great wisdom there!


  14. Sheryl says:

    The quotes are wonderful and reassuring.


  15. Debra says:

    So true and I actually needed to hear that. Ty


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