“The really big successes often happen only after you let go of control.” ~ Robert Holden

Are you a control freak? You are if you find that you’re only happy when controlling everything around you. Now this is really a hard one because of course you want and should be in control of your own life. You are the master of your life and shouldn’t let others make decisions for you. And of course, you have no business trying to control anybody else’s life–that’s their problem and responsibility.

Now that we have established all of this, maybe you should let go of controlling your own life… just a little bit. Maybe you need to learn to flow more and see where you end up. Sometimes holding on too tight makes you lose what you’re trying to keep. Often when trying to control our life we end up out of control and tumble to an emotional death.

Relax, you just might live longer. The truth is that some things will always be out of our control. We do the best we can with what we have at the time. Never second guess yourself, you’ll go nuts doing that! Make the best decisions you can for yourself and those that depend on you and let the rest go. When we stop being control freaks good things happen. it’s probably because when we are so zeroed in on taking control all our creativity goes down the drain along with us feeling exhausted.

Loosen up on that control and see those big successes in your life appear. They will show up in better relationships, job opportunities, creativity, health and an all around happier life. Isn’t that part of what living is all about?

And while you’re at it, think about this:

“Two rules of harmony: #1) Don’t sweat the small stuff, and #2) It’s all small stuff.” ~ Richard Carlson

15 thoughts on “Control

  1. Great piece Michele. I’m currently in flow mode, after many years of sweaty bits 😀
    But a beautiful journey none the less.
    Thank you for sharing 🙂


    • Thank you, Mark 🙂 That’s a wonderful way to think about when things in your life haven’t been flowing– “A beautiful journey none the less.” Those times are what they are, right? And so as we strive to flow and let go of control in the now, we can’t discredit our past and how we handled things.


  2. So true! I continue to work on this, as I get a bit older the more I realize it IS all small stuff. 🙂


  3. Yep..bottom line, there is little we can truly control so why get all stressed out about it.


  4. It really is the bottom line, Elizabeth. I just cringe when I think about how I used to get so stressed out all the time. And most, if not all of it, was just all the small stuff we encounter on this journey.


  5. smilecalm says:

    wonderful encouragement
    to accept what
    is out of control 🙂


  6. Even just letting go a little can make a big difference. Great advice, as always Michele. Thank YOU!


  7. This is true…I think complete control is an illusion people create to cope with anxiety. Life is tenuous and yet we somehow get by…


  8. The small stuff we don’t let go of snowballs and becomes the big stuff. =)


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