Don’t assume you know what someone thinks about you, communicate and see what’s real. Don’t rush to judgment on what you think is really happening, communicate and get the facts. Don’t decide someone really understands your position, communicate to educate. And never think that just because you have lived with a person a very long time that they really know what’s going on in your head–learn to communicate.
We all spend wasted years dealing with significant others, family, friends, co-workers and neighbors thinking we all understand each other, but that’s not always so. Unless we speak our minds then no one really knows what the other is thinking. We all just assume. The problem with assumptions is that we just make up what we feel is the truth and truly believe it. We don’t dare ask if we’re right because we fear confrontation.
We think our love ones and close friends should know us and be able to read our minds, but I don’t think most people have that ability, and so fiction is created and nonsense happens. When people are not being honest with each other, that burden causes passive aggressive behavior which leads to more assumptions on how everyone really feels. I think lack of communication is one of the biggies that causes horrible relationships and a miserable life.
Don’t live your life not communicating. Be direct with people so there is no confusion on how you feel. When you are honest then others will respect you and they too will begin to be upfront with you. Always be respectful and gently assertive when dealing with your fellow humans. Life will flow easier when you allow yourself to be free of the games some people play.
Let your Spirit bloom in the sunlight.
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~ Henry Winkler