Eckhart Tolle, the author of The Power of Now, calls it “Your Pain Body.” Whatever you call it, why do you keep it? It does nothing for you, but make you miserable. It originated in your past, so it has no purpose in your present, but you still keep lugging it around wherever you go. Sometimes you add more pain to the existing pain body. Maybe you’re afraid to let it go–after all, it’s been a part of you for most of your life.
What if you left it at the door? Could you do that? Maybe you could leave it for a little while. I’m sure it will be fine. Oh, did you say you can’t do that because you don’t know who you would be without it? That is interesting. The pain has been with you for so long that you identify with it and don’t know who you are without it. But still, what is it doing for you in the present?
If you dropped that pain at the door and then walked into the house without it, how would you feel? I’ve done just that and I’ll tell you how you’ll feel, “FREE.” What a wonderful feeling that is. Without your pain you are able to live your life in the present and truly feel the joy of just living.
But, this all seems hard to do. Don’t you have a right to your pain? Well, maybe, but how long do you want to hold on to it? As time goes on, it gets heavy dragging that pain along with you–especially if you add to it. People don’t enjoy your company because you are always a “Woe is Me,” kind of person. So you see, keeping your pain has no purpose for you.
It all comes down to the decision of keeping what you know–your pain, or being brave and trying to live without it. Change is never easy, but in growing your soul and becoming the person you are meant to be, you must keep moving on. Keeping the pain as your companion will destroy you in the end. Before that happens, please leave it at the door. I promise that you will be happier than you can ever imagine.
Just take baby steps and you will get there.