Non-Judgment

We should all practice non-judgment and pickup acceptance instead. You don’t know me and I don’t know you, but we are all little beings flowing in the same sea. We all deal with pain that hides in the deep crevices of our soul, and we only show to the world what we want it to know.

 

“Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.” ~ Wayne Dyer

The Presentness of Happiness

“Memo to Self: The less present I am, the less happiness I will find.” ~ Robert Holden

In dark days with all that gloominess hanging down where is happiness to be found?

Happiness is always found in the present moment of your life. You will never find it thinking about the future, and you will absolutely never find it rifling around in the past. Future and past thinking have the ability of only making you sad. But staying in the present moment, feeling gratitude, and acceptance of your life will bring you into happiness.

Happiness is also found in the love you give out. It’s impossible to feel those dark days when you are loving those around you. It’s impossible to feel so down when you are practicing kindness. And how can you feel sad when you see a child giggling with delight, or witnessing one of nature’s little critters doing their crazy slapsticks.

Depression can cover you like a big wet blanket holding you down until you drown. In order to keep that from happening you need to fight back and tap into your happiness before you can’t be found. Who is that sitting next to you? Why, it’s happiness just waiting to be picked.

On your journey you are meant to feel the warmth of being happy, and you are meant to spread that happiness all around. Smile when you start to feel sad and see how that simple smile can make you feel so much better instead of feeling down.

“Happiness, not in another place but this place … not for another hour, but this hour.” ~ Walt Whitman

This is your life, make it a happy one.

Dissolving Expectations

Expectations high and low from you and others will always cause everything around to explode.

We come into the world and find expectations awaiting us from parents filled with hopes and dreams of what they think just should be. As our journey moves forward those expectations grow on and on from teachers, bosses, lovers, and even our own blessed young. Each expectation is always in danger of not measuring up leaving unhappiness, disappointment, anger and even disgust. And what about those we have of ourselves, and those low ones that cause us to self-destruct?

The best way to deal with expectations is to not have them in the first place, but this is a bit unreasonable even for me to believe. So I say, let’s be aware when they appear and dissolve them as quickly as can be. Make a conscious effort to practice Letting Go. “Nonresistance, non judgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

The practice of “Letting Go” makes it possible for you to flow and concentrate on what’s really important. It gets rid of the petty things that keep you a prisoner. When your mind is open you are truly free, and pleasantly surprised how everything fits so perfectly. You are able to accept the people around you without preconceived ideas, and you become accepting of who you are. No more feeling worn out trying to fulfill someone else’s dreams. “Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle.

Expectations are just something that you and everyone else just dug up and decide to make into some silly law. Practice dissolving them when they pop up and one day you’ll find them not. Stop hitting your head against that big brick wall and realize life doesn’t have to be so complicated after all.

Problem Creators

Problems are a part of life, but unnecessary problems are created between people. What’s important is how you try to solve these problems. Albert Einstein said, “You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it,” and he was right. In order to solve a problem you have to take a step back and clear your mind of any previous feelings that you had when the problem was created in the first place.

Anger has to go right out the door because you can’t solve a problem when anger is attached to it. Hurt is another one that has no place in problem solving along with who was right and who was wrong. Doesn’t matter. Forgiveness of yourself and others is the only way to move forward with a clear new mindset. And forgiveness goes well with compassion and acceptance of others that don’t always share your views.

Humans love to hold on to anger and everything else that is ego driven. In arguments, everyone wants to be heard, and everyone thinks they are right. What is really sad is humans will sacrifice everything in the name of being right, even if they know deep down inside they’re probably wrong.

I’ve said it before, “life is short.” We live breath to breath never knowing when it will end. Our modern world is topsy-turvy with danger lurking around every corner, so way make life any harder? Wouldn’t it just be easier to say, “You respect me, and I respect you, but who says we always have to agree?”

Enjoy this life while you can and don’t get caught up manufacturing problems for yourself and others. But if you do find yourself in an ego slip, then step back, get your emotions out of the way, and think about what you’re doing in a clear and unattached manner. Who knows, maybe by the next day all that you were upset about might have flown away.

Created problems have no place in the real world, and only exist because they have originated in the minds of people who must feel very displaced. Remember, your life is beautiful and so very fragile as a butterfly’s wings, and creating problems in life just shouldn’t be.

Frantic Pace

Running, running, just hurrying everywhere. Life’s demands keep you in despair. Do you know where you’re going? Do you know where you’ve been? You’re going in circles and there’s no end. Every day that you live this way pieces of your life simply slipping away. Was that your last child going out the door? How silly of you to think it would all just wait.

Stop your frantic pace! What’s the worst that could happen? Oh, I see, you think the world would actually come to an end. I have news for you my friend. The world will go on and on whether you’re in it or not. But ask yourself, what will your loved ones remember if you died today? Probably how hard you worked and never played. What kind of memories are you building right now that quite possibly could end up being your last day?

It’s time to stop and take stock of how you are living each and every day. Building careers is important and money is too, but ask yourself how much you are willing to trade your life for those two. Somewhere in all of this there just has to be a middle ground, but it’s completely up to you to do the looking around.

Go deep within yourself and connect to your Spirit finding the true you and what you’re supposed to do. It won’t be easy, but as you know, nothing on this journey that is truly worthwhile ever is so.

Take a deep breath, look at your life and see all the things that you are flying right by. You can do it, I know you can. A good life is waiting just for you to grab while you can.

“Every day is a gift for those who really believe that every day is a gift!” ~ Robert Holden

 

Smile

The simple act of smiling puts you and everyone else at ease. A smile is full of warmth and is contagious too. Why go around with a frown upon your face showing the world all you detest and just don’t want to face? Why let yourself feel so much misery when a simple smile will just erase?

When you put a smile on your face you are telling yourself that no matter what you have to face that no amount of negativity will invade your space. Your whole body will come to attention of that little smile and will work and feel so much better. You will also start to notice all the beauty and goodness that surrounds you, and life will become a bit easier.

When you put a smile on your face your fear disappears, and you feel confident and sincere. Worry disappears too because how on earth can you worry with that glow you have on your face? And anger? Oh, hell, who has time for that when a smile makes you feel so swell.

Smiling draws others to you because they feel protected and accepted in your presence. There’s nothing like knowing and actually seeing how your smile can make everyone around you–even strangers, feel so much better.

I know there will be days where you don’t want to smile at all but believe me, those will be the days you need to smile the most. Just try it and see how much better you will be. So get that frown off your face and even though it might not make the world a safer, happier, or better place, it sure will improve your outlook on life and everyone else who comes into sight.

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”

 ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

What a Ride!

I think back on the good, bad, and pain of my life and I’m so grateful that I have lived it. Every little piece in and out, every person who passed my way and either graced me or disgraced me with their presence–even the ones who hurt me to the core, I am thankful for–are you?

I think about how much I have learned just by being alive and it makes me understand what life is really about. It’s about learning, receiving and giving. It’s about flowing when times are tough and treasuring when they’re good. It’s about loving deeply and knowing when to let go, and always being grateful. Mistakes? Oh yes, I have made plenty, but the knowledge I’ve received in exchange is precious and I don’t regret a one–do you?

My ride is not over yet, and I intend to enjoy every bit to the very end. But you know what’s really cool? Somehow I just sense that however long or short my ride is deemed, and all the things I experience in-between are simply meant to be. So my friends, there’s no need to fret about life. I think you will agree, that your life is right now and very much meant to be; so live it just flowing ever so free.

“Here lies my past

Goodbye I have kissed it;

Thank you kids,

I wouldn’t have missed it.”

 ~ Ogden Nash